My FI and I mutually decided we were going to get married, and we are going to get married in Jan, so it is a rather short engagement. We are both very happy and excited.
I went online and picked out a ring at Helzberg diamonds. I wanted something small, because I teach horseback riding lessons, and i didn't want it to fall off or knock stones loose, so I picked a pretty little 1/4 ct. white gold. It is VERY simple. and little but I JUST LOVE IT.
My FI asked my father on Sunday,and my dad gave his blessing and my father must have told my mother.
This morning I came home and my mother is tapping her foot, and all pissed off, and I have no idea what is wrong. I asked, and she said she did not sleep, so I asked why...
She said, Because of you. and my jaw dropped, and I asked what now....
She said she was pissed off that we only spent $200 on my ring, and she proceeded to lecture me for about 20 minutes, on how my father would have lent my FI money, and how I will hate the ring, and always look at it in the years to come, and have a distain for it.
And later in the conversation she tells me she is happy for me and my FI is great... BUT she has not even seen the ring, they are just giving me a hard time because he did not spend a lot of money on it. He wanted to but I wanted to have something small and I would rather spend the money on the wedding.
But I am absolutely crushed, it hurt my feelings so bad, 1st that my mom didn't even wait until I had the ring, and for me to tell her 2nd that she cared s little about me and my feelings that instead of congratulating me, she criticizes me. Now I am afraid that I will always look at my ring and think of my mother and what she said, instead of when the man of my dreams told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me..
Just looking for support and to see if anyone thinks I am blowing this out of proportion.
Thanks
