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Engagement Party

opp282009opp282009
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My mom wants me to have an engagement party. It is to announce your engagement to your family and close friends. I think it is kind of pointless and a waste of money. Has anyone had one? And if so is it really all the important?
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011

    You can just answer her back that it would be rude to throw your own engagement party.  Usually that is hosted by someone else.

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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    edited December 2011
    The parents of the bride host the first engagement party, to introduce the groom-to-be to the bride's extended family.

    The groom's parents can host an engagement party to introduce the bride-to-be to the groom's extended family.

    For more information, click this link:
    http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/engaged/articles/engagement-party-planning-101.aspx
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  • opp282009opp282009
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    edited December 2011
    She wants to throw it I just think it sounds a little pointless. is it really that important?
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    edited December 2011
    No, it's not important at all.  It's just a party.  But it doesn't hurt anything.  If she really wants to do it, why not let her?
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  • SuMmErKuTiESuMmErKuTiE member
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    edited December 2011
    We had an Engagement Party last year about 2 months after we got engaged. Are they important? No, definitely not. But was it worth it and a lot of fun? YES!

    Our engagement party was a cocktail party with hors d'oevres and cake. Close friends and family were invited, and my dad and DH made a toast and we introduced our wedding party. It was a great time and we really enjoyed ourselves and loved seeing our closest friends and family gathered together to celebrate, but if we hadn't had one it wouldn't have been a big deal. They're nice, but not necessary. HTH!
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know anyone who, IRL, has had an engagement party.  My DD and SIL didn't have an e-party.  My son and DIL didn't have an e-party.  Obviously, I don't see the need for them.

    Back when I got married, people didn't have e-parties.  Parents of the bride, if they didn't already know the parents of the groom, invited them over for dinner to meet.  That's what my parents did for my in-laws.













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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    Sounds fun if she wants to throw one for you guys.  It's not mandatory though.  You can just politely decline if you want.
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  • Amivy06Amivy06
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    edited December 2011
    My parents threw FI and I an engagement party and it was a really nice gesture. It was not at all pointless because it got both of our families and our close friends together at one place at one time and it was really special and fun. It was really casual and a way for everyone to get to know each other.
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  • AutumnGlamourAutumnGlamour
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    edited December 2011

    In my culture (I am Greek) it is very custom to have elaborate engagement parties that are as big and formal as weddings and it is expected that the guests will give gifts to the newly engaged couple. There is traditionally an actual religious ceremony in our culture to make an engagement official, the proposal is considered by the families as the couple being promised to each other...but the ceremony is what makes the engagement official. So there is a party to celebrate this ceremony, not to mention it's just a wonderful time to celebrate the big news with your loved ones!

    I had a reception with about 70 guests and it was simply beautiful! I also knew I was going away to have a small destination wedding, so even if I would have wanted to have a small engagement party, our parents thought it would be great to throw a big one since it would be the only big reception we would have. It was a great idea...

    I say have it... you're only going to have one chance in life to have this engagement party... enjoy this time! and congratulations!

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  • DIXIELADY98DDIXIELADY98D
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    edited December 2011

    I think that E-parties are pointless too. My FI step mother offered to just have a get together for our families to hang out and watch football(since we all like LSU football). But FI mother didn't like that idea and has taken it upon herself to make this into an e-pary. FI step mother has put me in charge of the guest list so i can keep it low key. FMIL seems to be ok with that idea. I just want the families to meet and hang out. So needless to say our engagement party is family, the wedding pary and some very close friends. Hopefully it's not a cat fight with the FMIL. We will be having it in a month.

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