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Guestlist Woes-Need Your Advice

mahoganieyesmahoganieyes
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I am trying to get several ladies opinions on this matter: 

  Fi did a preliminary guest list recently and we noticed he’s over by 50p. I’ve spoken to him about this awhile ago and I’m trying to be understanding but some people need to be eliminated. Fi wants to invite his brother’s inlaws(brother getting married this May) to our wedding. Well fi has only met these people twice, briefly. Are you inviting your sister or brother inlaw parents to the wedding? What about other guest, people you have spoken to in years, or have minimal to non contact with. To add these additional people would end up over 2k and moving our current ceremony to a different site. Neither one of us are members of a church, so that pose an issues too with 15 months left. Thanks ladies! 
  ***Please give your advice on how you created or cut down your guestlist***I will be sharing this post with fi to read.


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  • rodeo417rodeo417
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't invite other family member's inlaws.It's nothing against them but we are not marrying into their families.
    We did away with people from work and anyone that we don't talk to in a month's time.
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  • YasJas2011YasJas2011
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    edited December 2011
    We are so not inviting any of his Brother-in-laws family! Especiall since that is what he think is going to happen!
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  • pawdappawdap
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    edited December 2011
    FI and I invited immediate family memebers that we speak to on a regular basis.  Some might be upset but oh well.  I also invited some of my ex-co workers and current co-workers that I am extremely cose with.
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  • PB-Bride2010PB-Bride2010
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    edited December 2011
    We only invited closely related family and friends....so if we haven't talked to them or only met them a few times in our lives they got no invite.  Like you said you will have to make some adjustments and that will add cost to your wedding budget.
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  • MrClintonsFirstLady09MrClintonsFirstLady09
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    edited December 2011

    FI was dead set against inviting folks he nor I have spoken to in years. Our wedding guest list consisted of inviting 60 to 70 of our closest family and friends. Honestly I do not see the need to share the event with every tom dyck harry and harpo. Especially when it is your dime that is being spent on this event. I would honestly sit down with him and make him see the reality of things. If your words don't get through, I bet those purse strings will. It is far too costly to spend money on people you don't even speak to on a weekly basis let alone someone who you ain't heard hide nor hair of in years. JMHO.

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  • mahoganieyesmahoganieyes
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_guestlist-woes-need-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:03f409c6-714c-4eb2-834d-7ef0ac6fad58Post:cf066f00-2ba2-4da7-85e2-68d903520429">Re: Guestlist Woes-Need Your Advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]FI was dead set against inviting folks he nor I have spoken to in years. Our wedding guest list consisted of inviting 60 to 70 of our closest family and friends. Honestly I do not see the need to share the event with every tom dyck harry and harpo. Especially when it is your dime that is being spent on this event. I would honestly sit down with him and make him see the reality of things. If your words don't get through, I bet those purse strings will. It is far too costly to spend money on people you don't even speak to on a weekly basis let alone someone who you ain't heard hide nor hair of in years. JMHO.
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  • adgenyaadgenya member
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    edited December 2011
    We are inviting my brother's in-laws and my FI's parents were invited to my brother's wedding. We are a close family though.

    To cut the list, I'd go in tiers. Aunts and uncles, first cousins, and then branching out to second cousins. We also cut kids (it's an evening wedding and we have no nephews/nieces). 
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  • MrClintonsFirstLady09MrClintonsFirstLady09
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    edited December 2011
    LOL @ Mahoganieyes, if you feel so inclined to choke him into reasoning then hey..... just make sure you don't kill him tee hee.
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