Matching BM and GM? (Mildy a rant)

honeybear072012 · February 2012

So we went to Men's Wearhouse last week to order the tuxes for the wedding! We had talked about what we wanted the guys to wear bit and both agreed that green would be good even though the girls were wearing green. Well when we went in there everyone freaked out on us! I'm talking about FMIL, FSIL, and sales people! (My Mom's out of state which is why she wasn't there or I'd have had some support other than FI) We both wanted this and it kind of hurt that everyone was questioning our judgement.

A little background, the girls are wearing royal blue dresses and carrying green hydrangeas. The guys are going to have green boutonnieres since I didn't like any blue flowers for those since hydrangeas look like poop IMO as bouts and I didn't really think of any other flowers in blue that are a natural blue. So with the green flowers I didn't want to do blue vests. I also don't like the royal blue as the under, I wanted something a little less in your face. So we decided on the green vests. The color choices work out perfectly since FI's fav color is green and mine is blue (which is why those are our colors).

Does anyone else see a problem with this? We obviously went with what we wanted I'm sort of just looking for some more support.

Also, we went with white shirts for everyone even though my dress is Ivory and FI's wearing an ivory vest with white shirt. (Everyone didn't like that either) Has anyone else noticed that the ivory at Men's Wearhouse is very, very yellow? I wasn't a fan. Didn't really want white on ivory but saw no alternative...Again we both agree this is just a general statement I guess? haha

sonya+adam · February 2012

Yeah, I noticed that too. I think she just forgot to put 'not' in the 'the girls were [not] wearing green' part of the sentence.

I don't understand why they would freak out on you. What exactly did they say?

graysquirrel · February 2012

I don't see anything wrong with your choices. I think that they might be freaking out because the old fashion rule was that you couldn't ever pair blue and green together, but I don't think that matters any more. Nobody is going to care that much if the vests and dresses match or not. All anyone is going to notice is everyone's smiling face and lovely overall appearance. If those colors are meaningful to you, then by all means, wear them!

As for the shirt colors, puh-lease. Not a single person is going to stand next to you and the groomsmen and go "um, honey, your dress is a touch more ivory than his shirt, so you fail." That is ridiculous. My dress was ivory and our guys all had white shirts and it isn't even noticeable in photos.

mbcdefg · February 2012

I don't get why your FMIL and FSIL were there. There's no need for anyone besides your FI and the groomsmen to be there (and you, if your FI is O.K. with that).

If someone is not paying for and wearing the tux, then their opinion doesn't matter.

As for the salespeople, just say, "This is what we want, end of story. If you would rather not provide these items then that's fine, we'll just find another shop that will."

TiffannieF · February 2012

IMO I don't really like this idea (different color dresses vs vests). Is it a big deal? No. I might question you but if that's what you want then go for it. I also don't see why you would put the GMs in white because the ivory looks "yellow" especially when the groom would be wearing ivory. I think you should just stick to ivory...it's not as bad as you think but it might be when compared to the groom. Picture in my siggy is my groom in ivory shirt and vest from MWs. And I don't think your FSIL & FMIL have any say in this, it was inappropriate for them to "freak" out but I'm sure they voiced their opinions with innocent intentions.

honeybear072012 · February 2012

They were there because FI wanted them there (I wasn't really happy with this but it's a totally different issue).

They freaked out and tried to tell me I was wrong and force us to choose blue. Exactly what TiffanieF said is what they said plus some more.

I get that they should be wearing Ivory but I didn't like it and I'm not really worried about the clashing. I actually like how all the vests pop out more with the white, especially FI's with the Ivory vest. I think it looks awesome.

Just wanted to see if anyone else thought it wasn't crazy to choose different colors.

dubird · February 2012

blue and green can go really well together, just depends on the shade/saturation of them. There's no hard rule saying the GM's vest/cumberbund has to match the BM's dresses (at least, not that i know of), so if the blue and the green you picked out look good together and it's what the two of you want, then go for it!

And ivory vs. white is not that noticible, depending on the ivory. And, in pictures, unless it's a really dark ivory, you probally won't even notice.

MyNameIsNot · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_matching-bm-and-gm-mildy-a-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:13492403-5074-4eec-844d-0754af28482cPost:0671e391-76dc-4c91-982b-14812e33af6f">Re: Matching BM and GM? (Mildy a rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]They were there because FI wanted them there (I wasn't really happy with this but it's a totally different issue). They freaked out and tried to tell me I was wrong and force us to choose blue. Exactly what TiffanieF said is what they said plus some more.<strong> I get that they should be wearing Ivory but I didn't like it </strong>and I'm not really worried about the clashing. I actually like how all the vests pop out more with the white, especially FI's with the Ivory vest. I think it looks awesome. Just wanted to see if anyone else thought it wasn't crazy to choose different colors.
Posted by honeybear072012[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't see why they should be wearing ivory shirts. Ivory vs. white are almost impossible to tell in a wedding dress, unless you are wearing a really cream color. Look at PP in her ivory dress. Would you have known it was ivory and not white if she hadn't told you? I wouldn't have. Even if you stood right next to each other and touched the fabric together (which you probably won't) you won't be able to see a significant difference. </div><div>
</div><div>If you are your FI are happy with the green vests and white shirts, tell everyone else to shove it. (Politely, of course.) </div>

sonya+adam · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_matching-bm-and-gm-mildy-a-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:13492403-5074-4eec-844d-0754af28482cPost:bbeff20a-f115-4b5a-b808-d736944ef3c6">Re: Matching BM and GM? (Mildy a rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]Meh, I think matching the vests with the BM dresses can very easily look prom-ish.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

OMG YES.

chrryblndchick · February 2012

I agree with PP that too matchy-matchy can look promish. I also think the blue-green combo would look great. If you and your FI like it then this is definitely something where you can ignore the other opinions. The only thing I've heard about the white/ ivory issue is that ivory can look dingy when next to a white shirt. HTH.

Summer2011Bride · February 2012

Well I'm not a big fan of colored vests at all. So there's that. But having said that, I don't see why FMIL was there or has an opinion in this. I would be a little peeved too. And the salespeople should POLITELY tell you if they think it won't look good because that's their job, but at the end of the day, it's what you want and they should be OK with that.

As far as ivory vs. white, I think it depends just how ivory your dress is. My dress was technically called ivory but was actually a diamond white, not the yellowish ivory I often think of as ivory. In that case, it matched almost perfectly to the white from the tux store. If your dress is VERY ivory, however, in pics next to someone in a white shirt, it may look dingy. Just something to consider.

SugarFoote · February 2012

If that is what YOU and your FI likes, then go with it. Personally, I like the different color idea.

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