Anxiety is back

DondadaTimes2 · May 2011

Last night at dinner Josh found out his BMs are taking him paintballin then out partyin for his Bach party. When he asked what "partying" entailed they said "Just pack a bag".

Yeah no. I get the worst, throwin up, crying anxiety over his f*ckin party b/c I KNOW there will be a stipper there and I am 100% not ok with that. I have told josh that a million times and he keeps tellin me "I dont care for them, Ill just walk away" Liar. How about telling your boys to respect me and not have them?

So when they say "pack a bag" that means hotel room, which = stripper. NO NO NO! Josh and I made a deal that each of us would come home at the end of the night, even if it means Im driving an hr to get him...but that doesnt stop a stripper from degrading all women before I get there.

So here I am at work, choking back tears and vomit because I want to punch his boys in the face. They both know how I feel and they laugh it off and tell me Im overreacting. I dont give a ratsass if you think Im overreacting. This is how I feel and I feel even worse that they cant respect that.

I am literally going to lose my mind next weekend

sbolger17 · May 2011

Oh, I'm sorry, Bridgett! I really hope this doesn't happen. That really sucks. You should go out and do something fun yourself to try and get your mind off it.

kevinandmonica2011 · May 2011

I wish I had some better advice, but what I can say is that you really can't change what they are tyring to do without looking like a huge psychobridezillabitch. I know you probably don't care, but please don't do that to yourself. The more upset you get about it, the more likely they are to do it... like rotten little kids. They may not have even cared about a stripper to begin with, but now because it's naughty and Future Mrs Bridgett says "no" they want to do it even more.

Seriously, when I was in Pittsburgh w/ Kevin and his friends and they were talking about strippers I started joking about it with them... "You better test those b!tches first. I don't want herpes on Kevin's face in our wedding pictures. I don't know if you guys knew this, but Kev has a thing for 400 pound black women.... make sure you hook him up!!!".... I think it kind of took the fun out of it for them and they laid off. Sometimes boys do stuff just to try to get a rise out of you... you are falling victim to this.

You are making this way worse on yourself by freaking out about it. Just try to plan something even more awesome for you to do while they are out.

And, tbh, if you don't trust Josh and think he is lying to you... that speaks volumes. Stripper issue aside, that should be worked on.... the trust thing.

DondadaTimes2 · May 2011

I know I need to lay off and stop getting so worked up but its like one of those natural reactions. You say stripper, I cry. haha It sucks being this emotional!

Luckily I work with my mom so the bridzilla bitch is being tamed a bit. She keeps talking me down. And I could never say anything to the boys despite wanting to tell them tht if they get him a stripper Ill make sure they never speak to Josh again. Pretty sure Josh would be furious if I tried taking it into my own hands.

And with the liar bit. Its not that I dont trust him, its more that if they get him one of these vial creatures and he tries to walk away, they wont let him. And I know he knows that but is probably trying to make me feel better. Not working.

My mom however did remind me that my father will be there and I am Daddys Little Princess and he knows how I feel and he's seen me freak, so I know he'll diffuse any situation that would make me wanna put my head through a double paned glass window.

sbolger17 · May 2011

If your dad's going to be there, I wouldn't worry. They can't do anything too bad!

kevinandmonica2011 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_anxiety-back?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:c05ff2d0-2ada-4d55-b3e3-5c4fd3c2f927Post:3e065c83-64c3-4871-8206-2f8d66120bb3">Re: Anxiety is back</a>:
[QUOTE]If your dad's going to be there, I wouldn't worry. They can't do anything too bad!
Posted by sbolger17[/QUOTE]

-cosigned, Monica

kkozlo2 · May 2011

A few thoughts come to mind here and I hope you don't take them the wrong way...
1) All guys at some point in their lives are going to see strippers. It is part of being a guy ... It is the same with porn. They like to look... and as long as there is no touching. I don't see any problem with it. While you and most women out there would prefer No strippers... it isn't anything to get yourself sick over. Don't stress on what they do that day/night. It is Josh's day and whatever him and the guys do.... they will bond and have a blast.

2) I'm not sure why you would mind him not coming home. The majority of my friends do weekend parties and it is a great opportunity to bond with friends. Let him live a little and sleep out with his friends without stressing. From the sound of the original message you may have just been worked up but a weekend/night out with the boys isn't a big deal. Trust your man- you have eternity with him and it will make it easier.

3) Your dad will be there.... I don't see any reason for worry. They aren't going to have him cheat on you with strippers ya know ! IT will all work out- don't stress!

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