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WARNING! Why to NEVER apologize to a Snarky Bride...This is what happens!

cwcottagecwcottage member
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Warning: Drama ahead...
 
I was just going to let this go but OMG I cannot believe the stuff these so called women are posting on the thread about me! One actually called me the C word.

A couple of weeks back LC made some nasty comments about my "fake" wedding. Soon after she changed her "gansta" sig pic to one that clearly showed some facial lesions. I know...I shouldn't have made a comment but I did. It stated "one word...Proactiv". She PMed me yesterday about this infection issue she has and all the details. I responded and told her I was sorry about that and then posted a public apology that was of course viewed as insincere. She even accepted the apology at one point then because of whatever reason (peer pressure? come on...) back peddled and now they are going on an on. Poor, poor LC and what a C*** I am. That's a whole new level! OMG!

So the moral of the post is don't even bother trying to make amends with these people. It's just another cluster f***! But definantly entertaining!

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Re: WARNING! Why to NEVER apologize to a Snarky Bride...This is what happens!

  • Licia&WayneLicia&Wayne
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    edited December 2011
    Really?

    I'm sorry, I usually just lurk around, but this is ridiculous. Spreading drama over boards just makes this whole situation even more silly than it is now.

    You insulted her. You apologized. But through those public actions you opened up that drama for others to comment on in a public forum. Sorry you don't like the responses, but you reap what you sow.

    Edit: Also, I think you're just asking for even more drama posting about this situation on another board. Just deal with it where it started.
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  • luckyme502luckyme502 member
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    edited December 2011
    You didn't even really apologize and you told her she deserved the infection.  So, when people question if you were sincere or not, that might be why.  That is also why they called you the C word.  Stop trying to be the victim and STFU!
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  • luckyme502luckyme502 member
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    edited December 2011
    Also, the reason why she called your marriage fake is because you are still married to your husband and planning a wedding to someone else.  Although I read somewhere, after you got all kinds of negative comments about being a bigamist, that you got the papers signed. 

    So you opened that one up by telling people your wedding was going to be fake, since you can't legally be married to two people at the same time. 
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  • jajph1974jajph1974
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_warning-never-apologize-snarky-bridethis-happens?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:6a97aaa4-149c-4780-838c-65302ef190b5Post:0d2e2f3f-22c8-45a5-a0e0-f09be0d2465b">WARNING! Why to NEVER apologize to a Snarky Bride...This is what happens!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Warning: Drama ahead...   I was just going to let this go but OMG I cannot believe the stuff these so called women are posting on the thread about me! One actually called me the C word. A couple of weeks back LC made some nasty comments about my "fake" wedding. Soon after she changed her "gansta" sig pic to one that clearly showed some facial lesions. I know...I shouldn't have made a comment but I did. It stated "one word...Proactiv". She PMed me yesterday about this infection issue she has and all the details. I responded and told her I was sorry about that and then posted a public apology that was of course viewed as insincere. She even accepted the apology at one point then because of whatever reason (peer pressure? come on...) back peddled and now they are going on an on. Poor, poor LC and what a C*** I am. That's a whole new level! OMG! So the moral of the post is don't even bother trying to make amends with these people. It's just another cluster f***! But definantly entertaining! <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides&MsdVisit=1" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides&MsdVisit=1</a>
    Posted by cwcottage[/QUOTE]

    You did a shiity thing and now somehow you're the victim? Nope.
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  • baystateapplebaystateapple member
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    edited December 2011
    One thing you should have thought of before posting on these boards -- flaming is okay, attacking someone's physical features is not.

    You hit WAY below the belt, and that was just wrong.  It's never okay to make fun of someone's looks.  You'll see the regs flaming each other for everything under the sun -- but looks are off-limits. 

    What are you, a fourth grader?  You're pathetic.
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  • BecW2beBecW2be
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    edited December 2011

    one word... LOSER.

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  • mma3mma3
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    edited December 2011

    Keep the drama to yourself.  The women on this board are beyond the Junior High games.  Trying to continue the drama from another board looking for vindication for your actions and an opprotunity to continue throwing insults shows your true maturity level.

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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    The TITLE of the board is snarky brides.  I'm not quite sure what you expected.  And if you can dish it out, you'd better expect to take it twice over.

    My advice to anyone who wants to post on ANY board is to lurk first, and read lots of posts to get a sense of the flavor of the board.  Just like you wouldn't walk up to a group of strangers and start talking in their conversations.  Simple common sense.

    And from the PM she posted, your apology in private was less than sincere. NO ONE deserves illness. 

    Don't bring your issues here.  ~Donna
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  • Ken&CassKen&Cass member
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    edited December 2011

    Since when did Snarky mean B!tchy?
    You know, I enjoy a good joke and sarcastic humor myself... but I figured out very early in my posting that these women were miserable people with nothing better to do with their time and I have made it a point to stay away from that forum. In reality, I wish that the theknot would take the board down for a lot of the harassment that goes on there. I suspect the only reason why they don't is because there's people in charge that enjoy reading the negativity.
    I don't know.
    I wouldn't go near that forum or those women with a 25 foot pole.

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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    Cass - From urban dictionary:
    snarky www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snarky#" >9879 up, www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snarky#" >1474 down
     
    A word that should be googled to find the definition as per direction from Dane Cook. It means short tempered or irritable.
    "He was being very snarky with me. Yeah, snarky. Its a word, google it." -Dane Cook
    2. snarky www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snarky#" >4462 up, www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snarky#" >1231 down
     
    March 26, 2007 Urban Word of the Day
    A witty mannerism, personality, or behavior that is a combination of sarcasm and cynicism. Usually accepted as a complimentary term. www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Snark" class="urbantip">Snark is sometimes mistaken for a snotty or arrogant attitude.
    Her snarky remarks had half the room on the floor laughing and the other half ready to walk out.
    3. snarky www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snarky#" >1996 up, www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snarky#" >638 down
     
    Adjective - Any language that contains quips or comments containing sarcastic or satirical witticisms intended as blunt irony. Usually delivered in a manner that is somewhat abrupt and out of context and intended to stun and amuse. Origin: Snark="snide remark".

    While it doesn't say bitchy, the similarities are striking.  There was a book recently published Snark which described this behavior in depth.  ~Donna
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    And just a history lesson -- SB is the board formerly known as AFB (Advice For Brides), who migrated over to the Caribbean board of the Nest when the Knot format got wonky and slow.  Compared to the original inhabitants- the women on SB are amateurs.  (is that spelled wrong?)   The post you are referencing was mild. 
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  • ltykaltyka member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow.  Wow!  I just read the thread in question, out of curiosity.  I couldn't believe it was quite that extreme.  But it was!  I fear now we, the second weddings board, are under attack!  

    This is a post on the Snarky Bride thread in question:
    I read that thread and others at second wedding and this is not a statement for ALL second brides but certainly for some of them; I would rather be young and naive than old and bitter because AT LEAST there is a chance I wont end up as unhappy and jaded  as you. 

    Ok I feel like a brat for saying that. Oh well.

    Sheesh!  I'm hapy to say I'm neither old nor bitter.  Well... maybe older than I'd like to be.  But also happier than I ever imagined.  : )    I'm glad to be on this board where we can offer suport, ideas, and understanding. 
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    I would have preferred that you not bring this up here.  Folks on this board had nothing to do with your conflict.  Demeaning someone based on appearance is a low blow.  Your insincere apology via PM and seemingly sincere public apology did nothing to fix the issue.  For the record, I am not on your side in this matter.  Look for validation elsewhere, please.
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_warning-never-apologize-snarky-bridethis-happens?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:6a97aaa4-149c-4780-838c-65302ef190b5Post:0d2e2f3f-22c8-45a5-a0e0-f09be0d2465b">WARNING! Why to NEVER apologize to a Snarky Bride...This is what happens!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Warning: Drama ahead...   I was just going to let this go but OMG I cannot believe the stuff <strong>these so called women</strong> are posting on the thread about me! One actually called me the C word. A couple of weeks back LC made some nasty comments about my "fake" wedding. Soon after she changed her "gansta" sig pic to one that <strong>clearly showed some facial lesions.</strong> I know...I shouldn't have made a comment but I did. It stated "one word...Proactiv". She PMed me yesterday about this infection issue she has and all the details. I responded and <strong>told her I was sorry about that</strong> and then posted a public apology that was of course viewed as insincere. She even accepted the apology at one point then because of whatever reason (peer pressure? come on...) back peddled and now they are going on an on. Poor, poor LC and what a C*** I am. That's a whole new level! OMG! So the moral of the post is don't even bother trying to make amends with these people. It's just another cluster f***! But definantly entertaining! <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides&MsdVisit=1" title="Linkification: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides&MsdVisit=1" class="linkification-ext">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides&MsdVisit=1</a>
    Posted by cwcottage[/QUOTE]

    1) So are you saying we might not actually be female? That's a new one.

    2) Not "some facial lesions," it was A spot. One. And I didn't even notice it until you said something. Clearly you were looking for something to attack.

    3) No, you didn't. You said you were sorry she felt that way, which is basically another way of saying, "that's your problem, not mine." As your foolish C&P clearly shows, your "apology" sucked. Even the non-biased ladies on this board recognize this.

    Also, you're conveniently leaving out your other explosive threads where you were rude and ridiculous to other posters, like the one last week on Etiquette. No one's buying your portrait of a victim here.

    And sorry, second wedding ladies, for the board invasion.



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  • AlbireoAlbireo member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Never apologize? How about never start cr@p in the first place? I'm sorry, I have no sympathy for someone who would pick on someone for her physical appearance. Total gradeschool. Are you old enough to be having a wedding, never mind a second one?
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  • Ken&CassKen&Cass member
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    edited December 2011

    Thank you for your definitions, however, I fail to see what you were trying to get at with them.

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  • CA2MT4EveRCA2MT4EveR member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_warning-never-apologize-snarky-bridethis-happens?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:6a97aaa4-149c-4780-838c-65302ef190b5Post:2d381ce8-983f-42f7-a03a-c876e36c753b">Re: WARNING! Why to NEVER apologize to a Snarky Bride...This is what happens!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thank you for your definitions, however, I fail to see what you were trying to get at with them.
    Posted by Ken&Cass[/QUOTE]

    Because clearly urbandictionary is a credible source!
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  • robinmichaelrobinmichael
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    edited December 2011
    eyeroll. Back to Snarky Brides with the drama! Be gone demons! I rebuke you! lol
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  • JennaHRJennaHR member
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    edited December 2011

    So I make a point to try to avoid the Snarky Brides board.... Please don't encourage them to bring the non sense over here. One thing I have noticed is that the majority are already married/have been for quite some time and seem to spend an extreme amount of time with the fellow "snarkies" in Cyber-land. I prefer to come here to share sound advice and encouragement with fellow brides to be, and those married women who are KIND enough to share their experiences. Not to start catty cliques with strangers. Again, please keep the drama on those boards.

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