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FI Involvement

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I'm at work and I'm soooo bored. I have a headache and I'm using that as an excuse to be lazy. I spent all morning putting together a two day presentation on brain development & alcohol and the process of addiction for a local college. And now my brain is fried and since about 12:30 when I took lunch, I've pretty much done nothing. But I still have an hour left here. Someone talk to meeee. 

I'll make it somewhat wedding related (I mostly am just looking for someone to chat with because I'm bored and don't want to work anymore). How involved is you FI in the planning? Is your FI adamant about anything particular?

Picking colors was a huge point of contention for Rob and I. He's very interested in picking out a very unique ring for himself and has found one he wants. He hasn't been super excited about vendor hunting so far. Though he's pumped to go cake tasting. And even though he was indifferent about going with me to talk with a DJ, he ended up having tons of questions and absolutely loving the guy. I planned on making the guy wait for a few days before committing, but Rob jumped into it and insisted on signing a contract then and there. So he's more into it then he thinks. He says he's not, but when push comes to shove he is incredibly decisive (which I am not) so he ends up with more say than he intends. The only thing he hasn't gotten his way on basically is the reception venue and that's because my parents are paying for it. So we went with the place with better bang for the buck instead of the more fancy place FI really wanted. We're going to do an engagement party and our rehearsal dinner there instead, since his parents are paying for that. 
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  • ashlidieashlidie member
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    Yea, FI surprised me with his pickiness in yes color but mostly the venue.  I found one I loved and is 4k cheaper than the one we ended up going with, but he wanted to see me walking down an aisle.  This venue would have had a barn as the ceremony space so he didn't like that as much because I didn't have to walk very far to him.  There were no local churches that would allow outside parishioners either...
    It also had AC for the reception space AND it was super duper pretty.  But he didn't like it one bit and I have no idea why.  He liked some other one that I HATED but he was adamant about it, so we were completely split on one he hated I loved, and then he loved and I hated.

    So needless to say we found the venue we have now, which I do love, but still would have liked saving that extra money lol.  Either way, he likes it too so at least we are both happy haha.
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  • emilyb213emilyb213 member
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    I'm in the same boat...this time of year is soooo slooooow in my department. If I look at one more wedding blog or read one more online news article, I might lose it.

    My fiance keeps saying he "isn't interested in the small details". But seriously, half the stuff I've shown him/suggested, it turns out he does have a strong opinion about it. Like the cake design (one of my sisters is making our cake, since she works at a bakery)...at first, he was like "oh, I don't care what it looks like, whatever, a cake is a cake." Until I showed him some of the designs I was considering...then, all of sudden, it turned out he DID care what the cake looked like. It's driving me kind of insane, because he keeps telling me to just pick what I like, he trusts my judgment, etc., but when it comes down to it, he does want a say in what we're doing (and he should, I mean, it's his wedding too). I'm lucky though, we haven't really had anything major that we've disagreed on (yet).

    That being said, I wish he would pull a little more weight with regards to vendor research & so on. I don't think he's totally aware of how much time I've spent on planning, but someone's got to do it, I guess.

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  • cnf2013cnf2013 member
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    Haha, Rob's the same way. He'll say "I don't care, pick whatever you like" then he suddenly will care. Like with colors, I would say "Ok, I like this combo" and he would go something along the lines of "...really..?" or say it reminded him of some sports team he didn't like and refused to agree to it. So frustrating. 

    Vendor research is definitely time consuming. Our biggest vendor we spent the most time on was a photographer (mostly because of his indifference and the cost). Rob actually did all the hunting for our DJ (after I told him no to an ipod and one of our GM's emcee-ing)
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  • sopraffinasopraffina
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    I sent FI the save-the-dates design, and he hated it. I had him look at invitations online to see what style he liked. He liked everything I hated. We finally agreed on something, and I was able to create something that was just us. 

    So now he's showing the picture of the std to everyone he knows, including people who aren't invited! Grr...

    (The only reason I'm printing them now is because my groupon for vistaprint expires soon. We're not mailing them until next year.)

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  • bar10521bar10521 member
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    cnf- I'm in a similar boat. The project I'm working on has hit a lull and I haven't had much if any work to do since last Thursday. If I keep staring at my computer screen I'm honetly going to throw up.

    If I had my way Billy would be one of those grooms that just lets me take control and do what I want. But he wants to be super involved. I've been the one to do the research and show him options and luckily we've agreed on most of the vendors, he liked my idea for colors and thankfully we agree on decorations. So far the only thing we can't agree on is our table for the reception. He wants the big king table to sit with the wedding party and I want the sweetheart table and to give the wedding party their own table. Thankfully we have plenty of time to work that out.
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  • iloveu4everiloveu4ever member
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    Tom(my fiance) is excited about the ceremony part.

     
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