Help... Inviting coworkers

Re: Help... Inviting coworkers

• brandym22

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  Let me also add that it's really not right inviting one person and not another, especially since my office is so small. And also he brought up the convoy of inviting coworkers, not me.

  

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• entropicbeauty member

  

  January 2012

  Don't invite any of them.
  
  I work with a pretty small tight-knit group of people and I've been in my job for just over a year. I'm just now deciding that I want to invite the two girls I talk with on a daily basis, but I'm still not inviting everyone else!
  
  Just don't talk about the wedding and change the subject if people bring it up. You are NOT obligated to invite anyone and knowing these people for 5 months by the time your wedding comes around doesn't change that.

  

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• jhawthorne85 member

  

  January 2012

  I started my new job 3 months before the wedding. I invited everyone. I felt I had to. Being it was such a small place..You share almost every aspect of wedding planning with your co-workers. I'd just bite the bullet and invite them.
  
  

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• Sue-n-Kevin member

  

  January 2012

  I wouldn't send them invitations. You are already anticipating too many people for your budget.
  
  If the topic should come up, just state that your venue has a max capacity, and sadly, as much as you'd like to invite them all, you are already close to the max.
  Everyone understands the cost of weddings, as well as etiquette. An invitation  says "you are one of a very few chosen amongst all the people I have known in my entire life". Coworkers for a brief time would totally understand.

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• Allycat11

  

  January 2012

  I would not invite them especially because you are over budget.
  
  DH proposed in December, I started a new job March 1st and we were married in October, not a single coworker was invited to our wedding.

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• MMRoberts11 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_inviting-coworkers-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:e96f2e45-c39d-41c2-89de-bf7db339f958Post:e55a93a4-5204-41e1-9a01-028d38f59879">Re: Help... Inviting coworkers</a>:
  [QUOTE]I wouldn't send them invitations. You are already anticipating too many people for your budget. If the topic should come up, just state that your venue has a max capacity, and sadly, as much as you'd like to invite them all, you are already close to the max. Everyone understands the cost of weddings, as well as etiquette. An invitation  says "you are one of a very few chosen amongst all the people I have known in my entire life". Coworkers for a brief time would totally understand.
  Posted by Sue-n-Kevin[/QUOTE]
  
  This.  Very well said Sue.

  

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• emarston1 member

  

  January 2012

  You don't have to invite them.  But don't talk wedding, AT ALL, at the office so people don't get the wrong idea.  If people ask how it's giong, just say "Fine, can you help me with this report?" (aka change the subject).
  
  I definitely think new coworkers would understand why they weren't invited.  And if they say anything just say "due to budgetary and space limitations, we couldn't invite everyone we wanted to."
  

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• chrissie827

  

  January 2012

  I agree, don't invite them but also don't talk wedding in the office or they might expect an invite.  I'm sure they will understand, especially since you started working there after you were already planning your wedding. 

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• sparkles776 member

  

  January 2012

  I also wouldnt invite them. I have been at my job for almost 4 years and am not inviting anyone from work, most of my work relationships are straight business anyways. When I was creating my guest list I just kept in mind not to add people that I cant imagine not being there.  FI is inviting quite a few coworkers, but I am happy to invite more of my friends.

  

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• brandym22

  

  January 2012

  Thanks ladies. This really helps. I wasnt going to invite them... but was made to feel like I kind of needed to. Telling them capacity is at its max is a good idea, if it gets brought up. But nothing needs to be said if it doesnt.

  

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• Meegles4 member

  

  January 2012

  Don't invite them. I started my job last Feb. and am getting married this April. Initially I was going to invite my boss, but now I'm not even inviting her because she won't know anyone. I'm in a similar situation that I feel like I'd have to invite several people and it would explode the guest list.
  
  PPs are right -- don't talk wedding. I find myself talking more and more about it, so I know it's really hard. But, I also think your co-workers will understand and if they don't, well, too bad :-)
  
  I use the cut-off as whether or not I hang out/keep in touch with them outside of work. I don't hang out with any of my new co-workers yet, so I don't feel so bad not inviting them.
  

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• zulamay

  

  January 2012

  Weighing in a bit late, but here's my 2 cents:

  
  

  I invited a small group of co-workers from my very large office to the wedding.  They came, they ate dinner, and they left.  The didn't dance.  I don't know if they really had a fun time or not.  I don't think they really cared that they were there. 

  
  

  So here's the thing: don't feel guilty. They don't know you, you don't know them, and if anything, inviting all of them will just make for an obligatory work event. Seems to me that you are off the hook  Enjoy your wedding with all of the friends and family you have known a long time. 

  

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