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Invite etiquette question for shower...

Sara191431Sara191431 member
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Ok so I'm supposed to be putting together my list of people to invite for the shower, and am wondering, should I be inviting every girl that was invited to the wedding to the shower? I have no problem doing this, but my worry is this: There are a few spouses of FI's friend's that I'll see here and there but am not that close to, whereas a couple others I am closer to.


My worry is they'll feel like they have to come/get me a gift. As again, I don't have a problem inviting them, but I don't want them to feel like I'm just trying to get gifts or something.


What's the correct etiquette on this? TIA!

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  • direy25direy25 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know what the proper etiquette is but I've always felt that the shower is a little more personal - we only invited the ladies I was close to.
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    edited December 2011
    I think the only thing to not do would be to invite someone to a shower who was not invited, or won't be invited, to the wedding/reception.  Other than that, the shower is typically just who you'd like there; although why are you planning your own shower?  Normally a shower is something thrown by someone in your honor; having your own shower could be viewed as some as just wanting more gifts, etc.

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  • apratte3apratte3
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_invite-etiquette-question-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:c0bb81a8-284a-48ac-97ef-c2d41d16b24ePost:e3a35eb6-1071-43cc-882f-0ed9fe57bc7c">Re: Invite etiquette question for shower...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't know what the proper etiquette is but I've always felt that the shower is a little more personal - we only invited the ladies I was close to.
    Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Ditto. I didnt ask that every woman be invited...just the women I am close to. </div>
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  • kellytylerkellytyler
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with direy.  I only invited those i was close to to the showers.  I have a shower from FI's family, so the close family and family-friends on that side are invited to that one, a shower from my family, so close family and family-friends from that side are invited to that one.  as for my girlfriends, i am only inviting them to the bachelorette party.  if i had bridesmaids other than my sister, then i might invite them to a bridal shower. 

    i dont think that etiquette-wise you can really go wrong as long as you are comfortable with your invite list!
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  • direy25direy25 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_invite-etiquette-question-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:c0bb81a8-284a-48ac-97ef-c2d41d16b24ePost:6d426428-b070-4769-b8dc-fd34e50b7db6">Re: Invite etiquette question for shower...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think the only thing to not do would be to invite someone to a shower who was not invited, or won't be invited, to the wedding/reception.  Other than that, the shower is typically just who you'd like there; although why are you planning your own shower?  Normally a shower is something thrown by someone in your honor; having your own shower could be viewed as some as just wanting more gifts, etc.
    Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

    I read it as she was asked to put the invite list together - my shower was thrown for me but I was still asked for the list of people I wanted invited...
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, got it.  Yeah I think my wife's shower was like 20 close friends of hers; one of the bridesmaids threw it.

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  • Sara191431Sara191431 member
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    edited December 2011

    Awesome, glad these are the responses. These subjects are touchy/confuse me sometimes. It's like you don't want certain people to feel bad that you didn't invite them if others in the "group" were invited, but you don't want it to be weird that you invited them either.


    @VG - Yes Direy is correct, I was just asked to put the list of names/info together for my MOH.

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