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What do you think of this?

I have two brothers, an older brother who is 2 years older who I am not close to (and FI can't really stand) and a younger brother 3 years younger who both FI and I are close with.  So when we decided on our WP my mom was all upset my brothers weren't included because she thought that's what you had to do.  But, I wasn't going to force my brothers onto FI (he would have been happy to have my younger brother but just doesn't get along with my older brother) and I had girls I wanted on my side.  So I made them ushers.  I thought this was perfectly acceptable and even talked to them first about it to make sure that they wouldn't be offended.  They were fine with it which made mom fine with it.

So we have now picked out our tuxes and included my brothers on the list to get fitted.  My younger brother may not actually make it to our wedding though because he plays college football and has a game the day of our wedding.  I'm upset by this but have come to deal with it and know it is his decision and that he has a committment to his team.  So it may just be my older brother as an official usher (GM will help seat people too though).  And, if my younger bro can make it, the $150 for a tux will frankly be tough on him.  Especially since he'll have to travel to the wedding.  My older brother can afford to rent the tux but he's getting married this year too and also has to travel to the wedding so it's a lot for one day IMO.  I have boutonierres for them.  But, do you think it would be okay to have them just wear dark suits (black or charcoal) or is it really necessary for them to have tuxes?  Our event is "cocktail" attire so most people will be in suits, not tuxes. 

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  • I think that would be perfectly fine. Ushers dont technically have to match the groomsmen as far as tuxes go. The boutonierres will make them stand out enough.

    FWIW we have 6 groomsmen and 4 ushers and are still debating on if we want the ushers in tuxes or not and when FI picked out his tuxes mens warehouse told us it was very common to not have the ushers in tuxes.
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  • I think that would be a great idea, since they are ushers. And you would be doing them a great favor! 
  • Ok thanks girls.  I felt like it would be fine but haven't been to weddings where there were ushers besides the groomsmen.  And I figure as long as they are in black or dark gray suits it'll be formal enough and still look nice in a family photo!
  • In Response to Re: What do you think of this?:
    I think that would be a great idea, since they are ushers. And you would be doing them a great favor! 
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  • I was going to do this with my ushers, but neither of our ushers actually have suits that fit them right now.  So we just decided to have them rent tuxes.  However, if they have the suits, I say go for it.

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