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Where's stepdad in processional?

CarolB910CarolB910
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So it's a Jewish wedding, and the bride is walking with her mother and father per tradition.  Her mom is remarried and stepdad is covering 95% of the costs of the wedding.  Where and with whom does he walk down the aisle?  We think it should be with the Matron of honor just before the bride & her parents, but don't know what is "usual" in this kind of case.  Help!  Thanks!
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    skippylouwhoskippylouwho member
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    I'm not Jewish so maybe that's Jewish tradition but it isn't for any of the other religions that I've attended wedding ceremonies for. In other religions he would enter either by himself or escorted by an usher, prior to the entrance of the wedding party. So he would be seated and then the groom and groomsmen, bridesmaids, bride and parents.


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    There really is no "usual" in this case.  There is a traditional role for the parents of the bride, but none for stepparents.

    That doesn't mean you can't make a role for him.  The question then becomes what that role should be.  Being escorted by a woman would be decidedly UNtraditional in a Jewish wedding, because traditionally, men and women process separately in a Jewish wedding.  For example, the groomsmen traditionally walk in pairs, instead of having a groomsman with a bridesmaid.  However, it being untraditional doesn't mean you shouldn't do it.

    Do you intend to have the stepfather standing under the chuppah, or do you want to have him just escorted to his seat?  If he is being escorted to a seat at the front, it might make sense to do this right after the seating of the grandparents.  If he will be standing under the chuppah, he could be escorted by the Matron of Honor.  Or he could walk alone, after all the attendants and just before the bride.

    Good luck, whatever you decide!

    skippylouwho:  Yes, the Jewish processional order is quite different from the Christian one. Typically in a Jewish ceremony, both the bride and the groom are escorted by their parents, instead of having just the bride escorted by just her father.
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    Are you having your FMIL and FFIL escorted in? I would probably put stepdad either right before or right after them, before the WP walks out. Walking with the MOH would be fine too.
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    boston88boston88
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    I was just talking about this with a friend recently.  i haven't decided what to do yet, but the rabbi who married her made a few suggestions for her wedding.  One was that step-parent could be escorted in by their partner....So it when you decide the step father walks in, he would be escorted by MOB.  MOB would then loop around and come back to escort bride down the aisle....In the end you should do whatever feels most comfortable to you.
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