Registry Gripe

adktd2boots · January 2012

I've been talked in to a Pampered Chef registry. Went from not wanting any registries to now have about 4. Now today the PC lady contacted me saying she is making labels for me to add to my invites. I said "thank you, but I wont be adding anything to my invitations".

Her response, "Oh, well most people put something in their invites so people know".

I just said "thanks again for the offer, but I will not."

I've been crabby for like a week, and it took a lot for me not to say "Do you KNOW how F***ing TACKY that is?! My wedding is NOT for gifts, and I could give a S**t less if people give me gifts or not!"

Tell me a story or give me something that will pull me out of my funk, please!

Sarah&Eric2012 · January 2012

Oh man, I feel your pain on the gift front. My future in-laws seem to think that is the whole purpose of having a wedding. That's their argument for every person they add to my already overloaded guest list "but they'll give you a good gift". I feel like screaming "I don't care about the gifts! I'm not getting married to get gifts! If that's what you think a wedding is about then you need to get your head checked", but I have to be nice because they aren't going anywhere anytime soon.

Here's a funny story to make you laugh. When FI and I first moved in together about 2 years ago I sent him to the store to get me bananas. I needed them for my lunch the next day and didn't feel like going myself. I thought bananas were a pretty simple thing to pickup so he went to the store and came back. He was very excited. He ran through the door like a little kid and said "Look! I found these super duper bananas, aren't they great?!?!" They were plantains.

lbarr088 · January 2012

Gosh! She's just trying to make some money!!! (sarcasm font)

That is obnoxious. I know a PC lady and I think she wants me to register with her. I love PC and their products but I don't want to deal with all of that. That is incredibly tacky/rude and I'm glad you handled it like you did

I'd just laugh it off and think of how hilarious it would be to see the faces of those you invite if they saw such a sticker thing on their invite

adktd2boots · January 2012

Plantains! HA! I had a Central American roommate in college. She used those things all the time to cook in her plug in skillet. Our room always stunk like some kind of weird thing and I thought "who mixes ground beef with bananas?!"

Yeah, like I'm going to stick a STICKER on my invitations. BEYOND TACKY.
I know it's "the norm" around here to include registry on the invites, but it goes beyond my beliefs. I've argued with FMIL about it, but the bottom line is- I'm paying for the invites and they'll have what I want.

FI doesn't agree with it either, but it's because he wants cash. We don't want a ton of gifts because we are having a DW. We'd rather people spread the word than feel like we're gift grabby.

lbarr088 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Plantains! HA! I had a Central American roommate in college. She used those things all the time to cook in her plug in skillet. Our room always stunk like some kind of weird thing and I thought "who mixes ground beef with bananas?!" Yeah, like I'm going to stick a STICKER on my invitations. BEYOND TACKY. <strong> I know it's "the norm" around here to include registry on the invites, but it goes beyond my beliefs. </strong> I've argued with FMIL about it, but the bottom line is- I'm paying for the invites and they'll have what I want. FI doesn't agree with it either, but it's because he wants cash. We don't want a ton of gifts because we are having a DW. We'd rather people spread the word than feel like we're gift grabby.
Posted by adktd2boots[/QUOTE]

<div>I've never seen that. Somehow I think registry info for all of my cousins' weddings got passed on word of mouth. I have to say that is why I love the wedding website idea. </div><div>1. I can type out alll of the crazy hotel info </div><div>2. They can easily see directions</div><div>3. REGISTRY! I am putting where I'm registering, once I do, on the site. All guests got the website and pw on the STDs.</div>

adktd2boots · January 2012

Same here.

FMIL said "well then you probably wont get things you want". I said "that's ok, it's not about the gifts"

She gives people a quilt. Do you think they registered anywhere for a handmade quilt? It's always nice, but my point is- the registry doesn't even matter in her case anyway. She gives what she wants.

mamameech · January 2012

I'm having a Pampered Chef bridal shower; my sis is a consultant and yes, it helps her, but ultimately I get extra gifts for hosting and I LOVE LOVE LOVE pampered chef. So it's a win-win. It will NOT be mentioned on my invites, nor will any other registries.

From day one of planning, FI has talked about what we'll get back in gifts. It irritates me. Of course that will be nice, but I'm not having a wedding to get something in return. Even my mom started criticizing my lack of gift options for guests but I told her that if they don't want to contribute by buying from our registries or contributing to our special "funds", then they can just skip the gift. I will appreciate everything we do receive but it's not a prerequisite to attend the wedding. Ok, maybe I'm a little testy on this subject too LOL

CowgirlK39 · January 2012

Can I tell you a cute/funny story??

I work on a dairy farm part time, and this time of year is always interesting for the cows. They LOVE snow. They are like little kids when there is a heavy snow event. I was trying to move them from one barn to the other one day, and they were all running all over and jumping, so I was yelling at them to get going. One cow stopped and stuffed her nose in the snow and stood there. I walked up behind her and yelled "C'mon girl, quit screwin around!" She whipped her nose up, threw snow at me, and triumphantly galloped away to catch the rest of the herd. I felt like that was a planned attack.

But back on the wedding front, I know how you feel about not really caring for the gifts. I haven't even attempted a registry yet because I really don't care, and don't see the point. But at the same time, I wouldn't think a bride who included her registry info on her invites would be "gift-hungry." I'm not sure anyone would look at that and say "What a B! She wants a gift!" One of my friends had her info on the invites too and I thought it was more handy than anything. But you are right, they are your invites and you can do what you want. No one should tell you different.

adktd2boots · January 2012

I LOVE Cows FI is a rancher and I just love when the babies are born in the spring.
This next spring we should be living at the ranch so hopefully I'll be able to get some photos of the babies. I love when they suck on your fingers, it's so cute.

FI has been on the ranch for 33 years. He says "ain't nothin cute about calves" "ain't nothin pretty about snow" But I still love it.

CowgirlK39 · January 2012

JEALOUS. What breed does he work with? The farmer I work for says the same thing. He usually rolls his eyes and says "Yeah, yeah, they're real cute." They make my day everyday though

adktd2boots · January 2012

Angus. Boring! (Although I wouldn't show anything but black in high school and college)

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