Ever wish your engagement was much, much shorter?

morenachica110 · February 2012

Of course there's a reason we are having a year and a half long engagement (mostly because of financial reasons), but sometimes I sit here and really wish that it was shorter. Not just to be married sooner, but because it's like slow torture. So much to do, but so far away. >.<

It's a crazy cycle. I think "Oh, we need to do this" And "Oh! That too." but we can't do much of it for a couple of months (warmer weather) so I sit here going crazy.

Does this make sense?

Am I the only one? lol

wineo929 · February 2012

You are NOT alone! FI and I got engaged in April of last year. TK is the worst because every time I come to post I see the obnoxious "237 more days!" which is fun but ah, I want that number to be way smaller.

I've been told the last 6 months feel the fastest out of the whole engagement, so I'm excited but I am trying to savor every day of the engagement and really enjoy it too

smartlypretty · February 2012

FI and I got engaged in April of last year also. I do sometimes wish it was shorter (def slow torture), but I could have NEVER been ready by Sept of last year. I think 9 months to 12 months would have been perfect.

morenachica110 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ever-wish-your-engagement-was-much-much-shorter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:4d7392bb-fe97-482c-b6c2-6f57218f96a6Post:133d667b-24cb-4b25-9c69-424feeb85a50">Re: Ever wish your engagement was much, much shorter?</a>:
[QUOTE]FI and I got engaged in April of last year also. I do sometimes wish it was shorter (def slow torture), but I could have NEVER been ready by Sept of last year. I think 9 months to 12 months would have been perfect.
Posted by smartlypretty[/QUOTE]

<div>This! We knew we wanted September and got engaged last May. 9-12 months would've been perfect! =) At least I have you girls to keep me company!</div>

kissamary · February 2012

I feel like I am finally at the end of this thing! When we picked our day we had over 900 days to go, and now we are almost under 200! Looking back, the time really did fly by!

MrsReynolds12 · February 2012

We got engaged in dec 2010 I must admit it's nice to not see 567 days and more like 209. I do wish at times the engagement was shorter but I'm thankful for the long engagement as well. We def. could not have the wedding we want without the long engagement. I know I sure won't miss being engaged after the wedding.

Katiesue04 · February 2012

Yes! I even looked into the reception hall about moving it up, we got engaged October 3rd of 2010! For financial reasons I also wanted to have it two years away, but we are well off financially now so I wish it was sooner! I guess I will really get everything I want this way!

jessa1228 · February 2012

Oh trust me, I've thought this PLENTY of times. I still think about it sometimes. We got engaged in July of 2009 and FI told me right off the bat that he didn't want to get married until he finished school. And while I completely understand that, the selfish side of me always thinks "damn, we could've been married in Sept of 2010".

Everyone says the engagement flies by, and I guess that might be true if you immediately jump into planning. But since I knew we had a few years ahead of us, I didn't do ANY planning in that first year. So yeah, it feels like I've been engaged for forever, and it doesn't really seem to be going a whole lot faster even though I'm well into the thick of planning.

I hope that what PP said is true - the last 6 months fly by. Because I am SO ready to be married at this point, ha.

mamameech · February 2012

I really like that we only got engaged in Oct/Nov 2011; I don't think I could have waited longer than that!

agladhill · February 2012

Ditto!! I am just wishing it was over already. I'm so ready to move forward with our life together. We want to have kids right away and I'm definitely feeling the ticking of the clock, if you know what I mean. I'll be 29 in May.

junebug19 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ever-wish-your-engagement-was-much-much-shorter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:4d7392bb-fe97-482c-b6c2-6f57218f96a6Post:759244eb-3815-49ca-a5ff-7242c83ad846">Re: Ever wish your engagement was much, much shorter?</a>:
[QUOTE]Ditto!! I am just wishing it was over already. I'm so ready to move forward with our life together. <strong>We want to have kids right away and I'm definitely feeling the ticking of the clock, if you know what I mean. I'll be 29 in May.
</strong>Posted by agladhill[/QUOTE]

I know what you mean, I'll be 31 in June and kids are one thing I'm really looking forward to. We got engaged in March and for the first few weeks I was convinced I could pull a wedding together by September/October! I still think I could have if our venue was available lol.

DirtyWater · February 2012

By the time our wedding comes we'll have had a 4.5 year engagement. We were going to get married in 2010, and ended up losing our jobs after buying a house. I am actually sad that the engagement will be over. I wish we had a little more time to get ourselves and other things together.

agladhill · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ever-wish-your-engagement-was-much-much-shorter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:4d7392bb-fe97-482c-b6c2-6f57218f96a6Post:9b3dfd41-7c15-4464-ae8d-5dc66fafc49e">Re: Ever wish your engagement was much, much shorter?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ever wish your engagement was much, much shorter? : Trust me, I see Marisa Tomei stompin her foot every other day! (hopefully I'm not dating myself there) I turned 31 in December, and although I do have one child (5 years old), we do want children together. I know that women have babies much later in life but it's much harder your body as you age. Even though having my son at 25 wasn't ideal at the time, it was a super age for it. I had a lot of fun with him and I was back at pre-baby weight before he was 3 weeks old; that is def not gonna happen the second time around! lol
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]

I hear you! I have a 10 year old and my body is no where close to what it was when I was 18! I'm a little scared. Not to mention that not only is it harder on your body, there is a significant risk of birth defects for the baby after age 35. I think it is somewhere around an increase of 50% for down's syndrome. So needless to say I want to be done having kids by age 35. FI and I would like to have at least two more, so we need to get started right away. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

kellycatalo · February 2012

sometimes i wish it was a little shorter, but we got engaged in july of 2011, so 14 months isn't SO bad. i probably wouldn't want anything less than 10-12 months, just for planning purposes. i was getting bored in october/november because i wanted to do a bunch of things but i felt like it was too early. but now i have everything planned out of when to do things, and i'm nervous it's not all going to get done!

lauren4110 · February 2012

I was just talking to my finance about this last night. We JUST got engaged and are planning a wedding for the first week of September - I was saying I was reading these boards and I can't imagine having over a year to plan the wedding...personally, I think that would drive my crazy...but it works different for different people. We're both turning 37 this year, so obviously it would be hard for us to justify waiting over a year to get married and consider starting a family. I think if I was still in my 20s or even early 30s, I probably would have taken over a year and enjoyed the engagement phase a bit more instead of running around every weekend as we are now..and to enjoy the term "fiance" a bit longer - I guess there are pros and cons to both

jacquiroxx · February 2012

I used to wish it was shorter, but now I wish it would slow down!

We got engaged in December 2010 and the engagement went by super slow until about August 2011. Now I can't make it slow down. It's going way too fast- I have tooooo much left to do and the months are just zooming by.

I wish you all could feel this way, and I could trade with you and feel like it was strolling along slowly. I need a break haha

wcasar · February 2012

When I got engaged (Sept 2011), we went back and forth on dates. For many reasons September of 2012 seemed like the best decision. Then I started thinking of my age (30) and how many babies I wanted. So then I started hinting that we should move the wedding up to May 2012 so I could be pregnant before my 31st bday.

I'm in event planning so I'm crazy like that. I have to plan a couple years out and I'm going to try by best to plan my pregnancy around my "down times" at work. I'm sure it won't work out, but its totally worth a try.

Well I'm glad we didn't end up going with May. It's been crazy the past couple months with the holidays, my FI trying to find a better job, and the fact I just closed escrow on a home. There would be no time to get a wedding together by May. So I'm thankful I went with the year engagement. It seems to be the perfect length of time.

beckyboo27 · February 2012

We got engaged December 26th of last year and I thought 9 months was going to kill me. Now I see some of y'all have been engaged 2+ years! Kudos to all of you for staying sane this whole time. 7 more months to go, ladies! We can do it!

ZenInMotion · February 2012

We got engaged in March, 2011 and I LOVE the long engagement. It has given us time to focus on my brother's wedding that was in June, 2011. We've been able to save money and take our time making decisions. I haven't felt stressed and have enjoyed planning. Can't wait to get married though, but I loved having a year and a half to plan in at our own pace.

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