wedding party help

lizziegold · July 2012

My fiance's oldest sister has down syndrome and it is really important to us that we include her in a very special way. Any ideas on rolls she could do in a way that doesn't degrade her..ie flower girl?

Thanks!

FlintstonePearl · July 2012

Why not make her your bridesmaid or your fiance's groomswoman? Despite popular belief, the only requirements for a member of the wedding party are to wear the designated attire and stand with you during the ceremony. Good luck!

lostmykeys · July 2012

I would give her the role you would give her if she were a non-Down's person. I work with Down's people and, especially if she is "shadowed" by someone who knows her and who she trusts, shouldn't be a problem.

My son has Asperger's and was a Groomsman at his sister's wedding. Worked out great.

artbyallie · July 2012

Yes, bridesmaid/groomswoman. If she's uncomfortable or unable to stand in front of people, she can sit on the front row after walking down the aisle.

lizziegold · July 2012

We've considered having her be a bridesmaid and I have absolutely no problem with that; it is just my fiance doesn't have anyone else to ask so we were hoping to find another special way to incorporate her. Thanks!

kaos16 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_wedding-party-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:e4d3b42a-f385-4e4f-8139-d859579d28a5Post:4a242b00-0408-42b2-a15d-b771e4294d93">Re:wedding party help</a>:
[QUOTE]We've considered having her be a bridesmaid and I have absolutely no problem with that; <strong>it is just my fiance doesn't have anyone else to ask</strong> so we were hoping to find another special way to incorporate her. Thanks!
Posted by lizziegold[/QUOTE]

I hope you are not hesitating on asking someone you want as a bridesmaid to prevent uneven sides! You don't have to have the same amount of people standing up on your side as your fiance. Just adjust how people will walk down the aisle and you're set.

artbyallie · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_wedding-party-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:e4d3b42a-f385-4e4f-8139-d859579d28a5Post:4a242b00-0408-42b2-a15d-b771e4294d93">Re:wedding party help</a>:
[QUOTE]We've considered having her be a bridesmaid and I have absolutely no problem with that; it is just my fiance doesn't have anyone else to ask so we were hoping to find another special way to incorporate her. Thanks!
Posted by lizziegold[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm having trouble understanding you here. If you're saying you don't want to ask her because it will make your sides uneven, <em>please</em> don't let that stop you. Nobody will care if you have uneven sides, I promise.</div>

helleb · July 2012

I don't think that having uneven sides is a problem. Just have one GM walk two BM down the aisle. If you have a Bridal Party Dance have one of the married BMs dance with their husband or have an usher dance too to make the party sides even. Or an extra BM could dance with the flower girl and ring bearer. If it were me though I would make it so she isn't singled out. I would see that as degrading.

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