Louisiana-New Orleans

Response Card Issues

Hey Ladies,
I was wondering how ya'll handled this situation. My wedding is on the 27th and we are in the process of getting our response cards back from guests. We have a pretty tight guest list and we can't really afford to have an extra 50 people show up. Therefore, we went ahead and did inner envelopes and listed the guests' names on the inner envelopes hoping that people would realize that the only people invited were the people listed on that inner envelope. Well, apparently that means nothing to alot of our guests. I had one person who we just anticipated 2 people coming and she put herself along with +8! My mom almost died when she got that card in. So, my question is, how in the world do I handle something like that. That is not the only one we've gotten back with more people attending than we anticipated but that one is the most extreme. I do not want to be rude because I know these people quite well, but we just cannot afford to pay for more guests!

Re: Response Card Issues

  • edited December 2011
    Yikes!!!  Okay, wait until you get a bulk of them back.
    Some people will say no, which should open room for some of your guests to have a plus 1 on your guest list budget.
    Whomever that +8 person belongs to (your future inlaws, your parents, etc), just needs to call them and be oh-so sweet and oh-so Southern and let them know that "This is a small event, and we are so delighted to have you there...but unfortunately, we are unable to accomodate more than who was on the inner envelope.  I am so sorry, I know if we could we would have more people.  Would you still like to attend?"
  • tmwhitleytmwhitley member
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    edited December 2011
    I also suggest just hanging tight just a bit. I had a friend do that to me and did a +4. I was going to say something but decided I would wait and see what else comes in. She ended up having to cancel altogether so I was glad I didnt say anything to her but even if she would have come we would have been fine because some people will drop out the week or 2 before. that is just my experience though...plus you will have those that didnt RSVP at all but then surprise they are there! It will work out...
  • ladynred19ladynred19 member
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    edited December 2011
    I had the same thing happen to me.  We just called them and told them that at the current time we did not have any extra room.  We were glad that they would be able to come and we would call again once we knew if we had extra room.  Luckily, we were able to tell them that they could bring the extra people a few weeks later. 
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