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Don't *love* the ring?
Hi everyone! My fi and I got engaged almost a month ago, and while I like my ring, I don't LOVE it. Another problem that I'm having is that as part of my job, I do health screenings which requires me to wear gloves since I'm dealing with blood. The center stone is a marquis cut, which I've never been a fan of, and it's been tearing my gloves which is obviously a problem. How can I bring this up to him? Should I just tell him that it's causing me problems at work and we should look into getting a new setting, instead of telling him that I don't actually like the stone? I'd really love a cushion cut, though some work would need to be done to the ring to modify it for that type of setting. Budget is an issue, so I'm wondering if it'd be possible to just exchange the marquis for a cushion and remove some of the diamonds that are currently under the marquis. If you look at the picture, there are also 3 small diamonds under the marquis, so am wondering if modifying the ring would really cost much if anything.
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Re: Don't *love* the ring?
Do you know the store he bought the diamond & setting at? Some stores don't exchange the diamond or setting, but some do. Unless the store has a return or exchange policy you might be stuck, especially if budget is an issue.
Edit: Pricescope.com might be able to help you. There are lots of jewelers on those boards.
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Married 9/15/11
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Return Policy
Zales offers a convenient return policy. If for any reason you are dissatisfied with your purchase you can return any merchandise within 30 days for a refund or within 90 days for an exchange.
if you can return it please do. I hope I don't offend, but Zales is not the most cost effecitve place for a E Ring.
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Married 9/15/11
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Planning Bio
Married 9/15/11
*This is Not Legal Advice*
I think you have a few choices, and both which involve being honest with your FI about it while also being compassionate that he obviously took a lot of time to look for the right ring (he thought) for you. One is to talk about trading it in or having it reset now. The other is to have this ring for now, and perhaps down the road get a new ring (i.e. on a future anniversary). Another is to say it would not have been your choice, however you do like it as he chose it (if you really do) and that you will wear it, at least during your engagement, when you can (aka not at work).
A lot to me depends on whether you are someone who intends to wear their engagement ring or not a lot after they are married. Some people don't. Or, some only wear it for special occassions after they are married. I for example did not want an engagement ring as I don't wear a lot of jewellery to begin with, so did not want something that would interfere with lifestyle (i.e. catching on things) nor did I feel right having a lot of money spent on something that would not be worn everyday! So, instead FI and I, after we were engaged, went and chose some beautiful wedding bands which are both a little untypical for wedding bands and fit more my personality and lifestyle (as well as his, for his own ring!). No big rock for me, though we certainly could of done so.
Anyway, if you don't intend to wear it a lot, it might not matter so much to get it changed - wear it until the wedding, then just wear a band.
If your budget ends up taking away your option to switch your ring, you could try to do what I'm going to. My E-ring is a yellow gold solitaire with a white gold setting holding the diamond in place, and I have always wanted a diamond/sapphire 3-stone E-ring in white gold. My solution (since I have come to love my ring because my FI did put a lot of thought and love into it) is to make my wedding ring a "solitaire enhancer" (aka ring guard, wrap). My wedding ring will be white gold with sapphires and possibly smaller diamonds, so the yellow gold band of my solitaire will poke out just a tiny bit. My FI will be getting a two-tone wedding band, so our rings will semi-match.
Your ring isn't a simple solitaire like mine, but you may be able to find a ring guard or wrap (whatever jeweler you go calls it) that can go around your ring to make it stick out less. I know very little about jewelry, so this alternative may not at all be possible.
Good luck with whatever happens!
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good luck
Thank you all for your input...it really was helpful! This was my first post on the knottie boards so I know I can trust your ladies recommendations for any other questions/issues I have
I understand the glove thing. Many of the other girls at work have the same problem with all shapes of stones. We sat and figured out it's not the shape but the height of the setting. Those of us with lower profile settings don't seem to have the trouble.
Also, if you are constantly catching and pulling it - i'd be, and I am terrified of losing my stone. I know this sounds cheap.. but QVC and some other sights sell some really real looking rings... if something happens you are out nothing. While I do, sometimes - when I forget, wear my good ring to work. I have a nice "fake" ring I wear too. I'm not there to impress my patients, and my fellow nurses understand the delemia of not wanting to lose something so important in a pile of well... anything.