How much of a donation?

Re: How much of a donation?

• leahwaz73

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Also, if you are voting more than that, how much more?

  

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• doctabroccoli member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Our Church charged $300.  We also gave the priest $75 plus a gift.  You are lucky there is no set charge, but you should definitely give something.

  
  Waiting to meet the baby broccoli on 5/5/2013!

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• professorscience member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Our fee comes out to $1000, which includes the use of the church, the organist, and a coordinator.  We'll also be making a donation, but we're not sure how much.  I think $100 is fine.  It really comes down to what you can afford to give. 

  

  
  

  
  

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• leahwaz73

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Ouch, definitely sounds like we're getting out of this easy. The organist and singer is costing us $500 though.

  

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• Riss91 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I would say $100 to the priest is fine, as long as you are also giving money to the musicians and alter servers separately. I would likely give a little bit more, though to cover the overhead costs that the Church is incurring in order to have my ceremony. I'd probably go $200 instead of $100.

  
  

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• Calypso1977 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  id give $100 to the priest and at least $100 to teh church.
  
  if you are having Mass, your altar boys shoudl be tipped as well.  we gave ours $40 each (we had 2).

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• lalaith50 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  (grr...I just typed out a response and got an error message, here we go again!)

  
  

  I think if you are active parishioners, and attend mass regularly, and tithe regularly (like, um, more than tossing $5 in the basket...) then it's fine to not give anything else.

  
  

  If, however, you aren't very active parishioners, or don't ever give more than a couple dollars to the church, then $500 would be very reasonable to donate. (Compare it to how much you would spend to rent out any other place to have your wedding ceremony at.)

  
  

  Obviously, $500 to the organist and singer seems like quite a bit IMHO (I'm even an organist who sings also, AND has two degrees in music, and I only charge $150!) but try to avoid thinking of that $500 like you paid the church. You didn't. You paid two individual people who are trying to make a living who just happen to work at a church. (Again, if you were renting anywhere else, you would have to pay to rent the place AND pay the musicians.)

  
  

  Don't let thinking about the $500 to the musicians persuade to give any less to the church than you would otherwise!

  

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• jazzybacc member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Wow, our church is cheap!  We're active members and give a significant amount every week, which gave us a hefty discount on our church rental, from $1200 to $200, plus $100 for the pianist/organist and singer.  Our priest is my FI's great uncle, so we're struggling about the donation amount also.

  

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• Jackief11

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  We asked our wedding coordinator what the donations range from. She said $20-1000. We can't do 1000. We are not having to pay to "use" the church, but we are paying for a organist, a singer and wedding day of corrdinator ($150 each). I think we will donate around $200 to the church itself and give a gift (not monitary) to the deacon marrying us. 

  
  

  Ask your wedding coordinator what an appropriate gift might be. That will give you a good idea, especially if they are aware of your regular tithing.

  

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