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WWTKD?

Okey dokey, this might be a tad long-winded, but I need some career related advice.

Some of you know that I have been operating a... difficult... career situation for the past several months. I have a coworker that is barely concealing bad feelings towards me and it has caused her to behave in a pretty unprofessional manner.  I had spoken with my manager about it, but my manager is seriously non-confrontational (plus, I think she's scared of my coworker) and I had just decided that I was going to have to 'wait it out' until I could find another position to move into.

Last week, however, we were notified that pending an ok by the Swedish unions, my current boss would move into a new position and my group would be moved into another manager's area. I am HELLA excited for this because this new manager is incredible. She's revolutionized her department in the past 6 months and she's pretty damn awesome.

New manager has said that she is going to take an hour with each one of us to talk about what we are doing, our backgrounds, and most importantly-- what we WANT to be doing. *Insert giddy chair dance here*

Now I have to think about what it is I want to do, which is something I had stopped considering because I was basically trapped in my current positon for at least another year. Now I have options! OPTIONS PEOPLE!!

Here is what I know:
  • 1) I don't much like what I am doing now
  • 2) I have no clear direction or goals with my current work (will this make 1 better?)
  • 3) I'm sociable and really good at building cross-functional relationships
  • 4) Working with people from different backgrounds, cultures, languages is no problem.
  • 5) I get bored easily
  • 6) I like to manage
  • 7) Meeting/exceeding goals makes me happy
  • 8) I like to find out why something has gone wrong
  • 9) I'm a fixer
  • 10) I don't like to work with my coworker because she takes over my projects or tells me I can't do something
  • 11) I like having responsibility
How do I present all of this in a way that I'm not telling her I need a different job when, I think that's what I need, OR at the very least, I need very clear rules of what people can or should be asking me to do. My coworker thinks I am her biznatch and exist solely to do projects for her or to her specifications.

Other things to know:
  • 1) I cannot be fired. No, really. Even if I bring a gun to work and try to shoot people. Can't.be.fired. (Please note, I would never do this)
  • 2) My company is growing quickly
  • 3) Financially, we are doing really, really well.
So! Thoughts?

I'm heading home in a few minutes, so understand if there is a delay in a response from me. :)

Re: WWTKD?

  • Oh Jeebus. Sorry! That's HUGE!
  • I think that #1 can be explained by #2, 5, 7 and 10.  That way you aren't saying you just hate your job, you're saying the reasons why it isn't ideal for you.

    I would say that your ideal job would highlight and utilize your skills, which are #4, 6, 8, 9, and 11.
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  • Habs2HartHabs2Hart member
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    edited June 2012

    hmmm.  I think I would lay the card on the table.  Tell her your goal is to be in a managerial position.  You are a problem solver, you enjoy the challenge of new opportunites and you are an over-achiever and know you would do well in a situation where you were required to be in a leadership role.  I would keep all "I think's" that could question your ability out of it.  You know you are a natural born leader, you don't think.

    I would skirt around the coworker issue.  It would be really tempting to throw it out there that this coworker is brutal, but it may be negative towards you aswell.  I would bring it up if your position doesn't change though.  I would also try as hard as you can to shut down coworker. 

    Focus on what you can do for the company and go from there.  Good luck! 

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  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited June 2012
    I love OPTIONS.

    As other posters have said above, highlight your skill set, good people managers utilize the best that their workers have to offer.  I think you have layed it out very well.  I would not dwell on the coworker issues, as she probably is aware of them.  Just be the best Snippy that you can be.  Do not be shy about what you want.  Ask open ended questions during your time with her.  Where does she see the company/department heading towards in the next 5-10 years, then tease her to tap into your strengths to help obtain that.  Good Luck!
  • Definately do NOT mention your dislike for your co-worker not bad talk her. This will reflect poorly on you. You may end up looking like you cannot deal with difficult situations or that you are not a team player. Sicne this is a new beginning let yourself shine without casting shadows on others. Let them be their own downfall.... A good manager will be able to pick up on her (your co-worker's) ways!
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  • See, it's so much simpler when you guys lay it out like this. It's stuff I know, but I've been overthinking the hell out 

    Thanks so much for the advice!
  • I don't think it's horrible if you mention your feelings about your coworker, as long as you are saying it as it's not the type of team work you prefer and not just bashing her.  
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  • Emphasize the things you like and are great at.
  • I might spin #5 (I get bored easily) as "I'm very flexible and adapt easily to shifting priorities.  Don't be afraid to ask me to do something different each day - I love the challenge and variety!"

    Good luck!
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