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Mother/Son Dance

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So, FI's mother passed away a few years ago.  We've got a lot of ideas for incorporating her into our big day (she loved to cook and the caterer is making several of her recipes, etc).  Our wedding is mostly family, and we're all very close knit.  My mom and my FI are very close (she's always "mothered" him, since we've known each other, he always seeks her advice over anyone else's, etc), and she was wondering if it would be weird if they danced together in place of the traditional mother/son dance?  
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Re: Mother/Son Dance

  • em01092em01092 member
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    edited April 2012
    How does your FI feel about this, first of all? He may not be so keen on the idea, even if your mom has been motherly to him. Also, you may want to have FI consult his dad, if he is in the picture. It might upset him too. *shrugs*
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited April 2012
    Well his dad and I are close, so FI's idea was that his dad and I dance at the same time.  His dad didn't have a problem with it; they divorced when FI was very young and they hadn't had any sort of contact essentially until she passed, so 20+ years... he didn't have any sentimental feelings either way.  FI's train of thought was more of, "it'd be nice to do something nice for your mom in exchange for all she's done for me."  If it's too weird/odd/whatever, I get it.  We definitely wouldn't be trying to "pass it off" as a mother/son dance, or anything like that.  
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    My concern was just for other people's feelings. I couldn't tell by your OP if your FI and his dad even knew about it. If everyone is cool with it, then I don't see a problem. :) 
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    Ok :)  I'm actually kind of tickled pink that he sees it as doing something nice for my mom (he's probably the least sentimental person to exist, lol), and that he thought it'd be nice if I danced with his dad.  He is essentially the caretaker in he and his father's relationship; his father was a very extreme alcoholic who only a few months ago got sober, so he's always taken care of him, paid his bills, etc.  I thought it was really sweet that he wanted to incorporate him especially since they had a very difficult relationship.  I was more concerned with guests thinking it was in poor taste, or something.
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    edited April 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_motherson-dance-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:03b5c86c-2e27-46ce-b18d-45df0631109bPost:abaeceec-d77d-4657-8644-c6202edc4e21">Re: Mother/Son Dance</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok :)  I'm actually kind of tickled pink that he sees it as doing something nice for my mom (he's probably the least sentimental person to exist, lol), and that he thought it'd be nice if I danced with his dad.  He is essentially the caretaker in he and his father's relationship; his father was a very extreme alcoholic who only a few months ago got sober, so he's always taken care of him, paid his bills, etc.  I thought it was really sweet that he wanted to incorporate him especially since they had a very difficult relationship.  <strong>I was more concerned with guests thinking it was in poor taste, or something.</strong>
    Posted by vprice1030[/QUOTE]

    <div>Nah, I doubt they would think that. I think they'll probably understand/know about the situation. I would think it was sweet. </div><div> </div>
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