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Odd thank you note situation

Hello everyone - I have a little bit of an odd situation, and before I go on I want to emphatically stress that I do not mean to come off as gift-grabby or ungrateful, as that's not how I feel.

OK, so our wedding is August 19. My FI's friend and coworker, and his wife, who are coming to our wedding, sent us a gift of spatulas from our registry. I don't know if that was the whole gift or not! They were about $20. This is where the above disclamer comes in! I sort of don't believe that that is really all they intend to give us for a gift. (They're pretty good friends, he has a good job, we're going to their reception in a week and already sent their gift - all that stuff). I don't know if they plan on giving us a check as well in a card they bring to the wedding, for example, or if part of the gift was back-ordered, or if they really did only mean to send the spatulas. So, my question is, do I send the Thank You now and just mention the spatulas, or should I wait to see what happens? I've been trying to get the Thank Yous out as soon as possible as gifts come in (so they know it arrived and all that), this just seems weird. It's totally not about the gift or the price of it, I just can also see, if I send a note saying, "thanks for the spatulas" that, if there is something else to the gift, they would feel a little embarrassed that we thought that was all. I don't know what to do! What do you guys think? (Man, there really isn't a way to ask this question without it sounding petty, is there?)

Re: Odd thank you note situation

  • sparent2010sparent2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would personally wait until after the wedding just to be sure. In the case they just sent spatulas you can thank them later and save the embarrassment 
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  • edited December 2011

    wow I wouldn't think sparent and I disagree... haha!
    I would say send a thank you card now and mention the spatulas, as it's etiquette to send a thank you asap upon receiving a wedding gift.

    I don't think them getting the 'thank you' card would make them feel embarrassed to the point that they would withhold the money they intended on giving you at the wedding...
    Ttry not to "expect' anything else, and send the thank you like there isn't anything else coming.. if they give you a card at the reception, you send them another card with an extra extra thank you, but I kinda doubt that will happen honestly.

  • sparent2010sparent2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hahaha we usually never disagree. Lol. I am just planning to do thank yous all at once b/c I am mainly disorganized and doing is once means I won't forget anyone, but firstimers brings up a good point too.

    If I  got spatulas I would say thanks for the multi-functional tool I can cook with it and spank H when he gets out of hand.

    ^Totally joking :)

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  • edited December 2011
    bahahhaa..
    OP PLEASE PLEASE put that in your thank you note.. word.for.word.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_washington-seattle_odd-thank-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:104Discussion:1f34d77d-a25c-4a23-b0cb-27850d09f4fcPost:6ee6e3a1-b10b-4f83-a140-cd408f0b5f8c">Re: Odd thank you note situation</a>:
    [QUOTE]bahahhaa.. OP PLEASE PLEASE put that in your thank you note.. <strong>word.for.word</strong>.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    I definitely agree with that!

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  • mgoss228mgoss228 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would send a TY card now for the spatulas, and if they give you anything else you can send another TY card after the wedding.  It'll be an extra $0.44, but it's good to get out of the way and a way to let them know you received their gift.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_washington-seattle_odd-thank-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:104Discussion:1f34d77d-a25c-4a23-b0cb-27850d09f4fcPost:a810af8f-1b66-4ee2-8828-bfe045043a38">Re: Odd thank you note situation</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would send a TY card now for the spatulas, and if they give you anything else you can send another TY card after the wedding.  It'll be an extra $0.44, but it's good to get out of the way and a way to let them know you received their gift.
    Posted by mgoss228[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto!</div>
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  • edited December 2011

    Uh oh, I thought the etiquette was to wait until after the wedding to send wedding gift thank you notes.
    I have received several gifts already and was planning on doing this.  Am I now being rude by not sending a thank you right away?  I wanted to use a wedding photo in a nicely designed card for the thank you notes afterward.

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_washington-seattle_odd-thank-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:104Discussion:1f34d77d-a25c-4a23-b0cb-27850d09f4fcPost:c9fec135-2341-4069-87fc-bda0aafbcf52">Re: Odd thank you note situation</a>:
    [QUOTE]Uh oh, I thought the etiquette was to wait until after the wedding to send wedding gift thank you notes. I have received several gifts already and was planning on doing this.  Am I now being rude by not sending a thank you right away?  I wanted to use a wedding photo in a nicely designed card for the thank you notes afterward.
    Posted by erinmmcd[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>No you are not being rude. We are planning on sending the notes after the wedding, since we are adding a wallet size wedding picture to the cards. </div><div>We recieved gifts, but didn't open them, except for one(the box was torn and tape was ripped off!). </div><div>

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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
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    edited December 2011

    Guys, if these were my friends, I totally would add the spanking part to the card (well, maybe). Unfortunately, since they are on FI's side, I'm definitely too embarrassed to do that. Anyway, he writes his own thank yous for his friends and family - that is a rule.

    Thanks for the input - I'll have him send a TY out ASAP! If he has to send out two, that's OK with me ;)

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