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Too many children!

maggsrussellmaggsrussell
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I have an extremely close family and I have 13 nieces and nephews. My sister told me that her daughter would be crushed if she isn't involved in the wedding. I wasn't planning on involving any of the kids... Is there any creative way I can involve all of them or should I just stick to the original plan? I don't want to involve just 1 or 2 of them for fear of hurting anyone's feelings. I need help!!!
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Re: Too many children!

  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited February 2013
    Stick to your original plan.  She can't expect you to only choose her daughter and you can't have all 13.  Stay with no kids and tell her sorry, but you have made your choice.  Be firm.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_too-many-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:a4271967-9cd9-4951-8699-a0fa075cbf17Post:a0ff4bc4-86bc-4863-9914-cdbba7caeb60">Re: Too many children!</a>:
    [QUOTE]"That's why we've decided not to have any children in the wedding. We can't involve everyone, so we've decided not to have anyone. We don't want to hurt feelings." Then change the subject and refuse to discuss it. It's almost always the PARENTS, not Little Sugarbuns, who is crushed if Little Sugarbuns isn't in the wedding. They want to use your wedding to showcase their spawn. You can't have everyone, so don't have anyone.
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    Ditto Retread. 
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  • mvance3mvance3
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    If you don't want kids involved then that's really all you need to say...it's your wedding.  However, if you want an idea where they're sort of involved, I've seen a few weddings where the younger kids walked around and handed out the 'toss' items (confetti, birdseed, etc)  Most people think it's cute and it'll get everything distributed quickly...and the kids feel important but it's not a focal point of the wedding.  
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Retread said it best.
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  • lyndsay782lyndsay782 member
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    Ditto Retread again. 

    I have an adorable 3 year old future niece, and a group of preschoolers that I'd love to include in the ceremony, but I also have a 3 other future nieces that I am not as close to.  2 of them belong to my future SIL, and she is, well, a bit of a state mom.  I sort of avoid her (she's made some life style choices I don't agree with, and will never agree with) and don't want her to try taking over the wedding.  Putting her daughters in the wedding would allow her to do that.  I've already had nightmares of her showing up in strange places trying to get photos on the wedding day.  

    So, I'm not having any of the kids in my wedding either.  They get the honor of being invited, just like their parents.  It's easier that way. 
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  • mattycammattycam member
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    Agree with everyone.
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  • 86Bride2B86Bride2B
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    I agree with everyone. However, i also have a small idea. Though this isn't really having the children "involved" I am planning to do before the flower toss and garter thing.. a children toss thing. This way the kids all feel special because they get their special moment at the reception to go out and try to catch whatever toy it is that is being thrown (probably like a beanie baby or something) not to mention it makes it so a 9 year doesnt catch the garter or flowers.. haha. Just an idea though :)
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