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Saying "Yes" to the Dress

hayleyc2013hayleyc2013
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I found my dress yesterday, a gorgeous Mori Lee strapless fit and flare (I think it's a fit and flare anyways, haha). The thing is, everyone told me beforehand that I would have this hallelujah, "This is THE dress" moment where the heavens opened up and the angels sang and I just knew that it was my dress.

That didn't really happen for me. I had been dress shopping since 10 am and had tried on probably 25 dresses by this point (around 5 pm or so). I had to make a decision then because there wouldn't be another day for quite a while when my mom and my MOH could come with me. So when I said "yes" to the dress, there weren't any tears or squeals. I think I mostly just felt relieved.

Did this happen to anyone else or was it a made-for-TV moment for everyone but me? Tongue Out

I think this partially is my indecisive personality, though. I didn't have a definining "He's The One" moment with my fiance, either, but he's definitely the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. I helped pick out my engagement ring too, but I didn't love it right away. It took several peeks at the picture of it on my fiance's phone before I realized that was the one I really liked. So I keep looking at the pictures of me in my dress and I still think it's gorgeous, so tha's a good sign, haha.

I'm looking forward to trying it on when it comes in in about 5-6 months!

So back to the question: did anyone else NOT have a "hallelujah, this is my dress" moment?
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I didn't. When I came to the bridal salon they didn't have the dress I wanted to try on, so I tried 7 dresses and came back two weeks later When I finally tried on "my" dress I knew it was the one because I couldn't stop smiling like an idiot! The heavens didn't sing, the angels didn't chime in with the chorus, I just knew it was it. I didn't even cry. Don't sweat it, give it some time. If your feelings change about it then you can fix it.
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  • MoonlightSilverMoonlightSilver member
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    The only reason I knew the one I picked was "the" dress, was that I kept comparing every other dress to this one. So the one everything else was compared to was obviously my favorite, and I ended up picking it.
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  • kd.josephkd.joseph
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    No heavens opened and angels singing here.

    I knew it was the one because it fit me and my venue. But no crying. I think the percentage of girls who cry is very low.

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  • misshart00misshart00 member
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     I didn't have an "ah-ha" moment.  No angles singing.  I tried on several dresses and finally decided on two I really liked.  It came down to the one that was less expensive.  I figured I could spend that extra $500 elsewhere.  I had no regrets of picking the one I did.
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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    No crying or angels singing for me either. The dress fit my body, was in my budget and was very pretty. So I bought it. I spent the next 5 months making myself crazy because I thought maybe it wasn't "my" dress because I didn't have that "aha" moment. But as you can see, lots of brides don't.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Yes and no. I tried the dress on with low expectations,  not even thinking I would look good in it b/c I thought it was way too streamlined for my curves. But I had both bridesmaids with me, and one of them went, "Ohhhh," just kind of really quietly before I had even seen myself. Then when I saw myself in it, I never wanted to take it off b/c I just loved it so much. 
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  • shannie11shannie11 member
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    No crying here either.  It was the dress I felt the most bridal in.  I felt comfortable and thought I looked the best in it.
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  • StephBeanWed61502StephBeanWed61502 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_saying-yes-to-the-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:c1ffc10f-ab22-4c68-90ba-b98827794e64Post:0bcc1adf-b2d3-4f97-b409-43b4a91f6daa">Re: Saying "Yes" to the Dress</a>:
    [QUOTE]The only reason I knew the one I picked was "the" dress, was that I kept comparing every other dress to this one. So the one everything else was compared to was obviously my favorite, and I ended up picking it.
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    This was exactly my experience as well.

    Also, I had a moment where I tried on a great dress and thought "oh wow, this is definitely the dress I would pick if I hadn't seen that other dress." It made it really clear that the other dress was "the one."
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  • random4180random4180 member
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    I'm not a crier so no tears here but I never doubted my dress either. I'm pretty laidback and casual (I actually went shopping last December after a day spent with runny-nosed preschoolers, lol) so I'm not a big dress-up person. It took one shopping trip for me to find my dress. I think I tried on a total of seven or so and the one I went with was maybe the fourth one. From browsing online, I acually thought I would get a different one (the one I actually chose looked really different than the online photo) but when I had finished with the handful I had picked out- including the one I had orginally thought I'd pick- and looked at some of the other ones in the shop, I kept thinking of how pretty that other one was and what a good deal it was (down to $449 from $1250) and eventually tried it on again. That second one sealed the deal and I knew it was the one. I couldn't stop smiling and didn't want to take it off.
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  • ekessler424ekessler424 member
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    I definitely did not have an "a-ha" moment, but that's not really my personality either. And to be honest, I'm still unsure of the dress I picked. It's a gorgeous gown but it is definitely not what I had been envisioning for months beforehand.  But all my people that came with me love it, so I know I'm just being weird about it. I know I picked a dress that is timeless and elegant, and that was enough to make me say yes.

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  • erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    I knew I "liked" my dress when I first put it (2nd day shopping; 1st dress of the day).  every dress after that I kept comparing to first dress.  I got to to two that I liked a lot (dresses 1 & 2).  They "jacked me up" in dress 1 and definitely liked it a lot more.  They "jacked me up" in dress 2 and I liked it but kept thinking about dress 1.  The only thing that I didn't like on dress 1 was the sweetheart neckline, and when I told my consultant she immediatly said no worries, cassablanca can do a different neckline on that dress-- so that sold it!  I put dress 1 back on and she showed me the scoop strapless neckline option and I knew it was the one.  I didn't cry or have this overly dramatic moment-- although I did almost cry when my mom started.  Some girls just aren't overy emotional and thats ok!  It took me time to love it and now I am obsessed with it :)
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  • csweaneycsweaney member
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    No "aha" moment for me either. They purposefully pick out the girls on TV that have the crazy, overly emotional reactions to make for better tv. For me, I just kept trying that same dress on over and over at all the store I went to that had that designer and comparing it to every other gown. I finally just said "you know what? thats it" And I was excited. But no angels for me...
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  • JoeAnne2013JoeAnne2013 member
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    I fell in love with my gown as soon as I came across a photo of it online. I made an appointment at the one salon tried on four other dresses just to 'be sure' and knew it was 'the one' the second I slipped into it. There was just 'something' about it. I even went over 'budget' without feeling any remorse! $832.00 over budget to be exact and it is worth every single penny!...I tend to be frugal when it comes to buying things for myself...
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  • hayleyc2013hayleyc2013
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    Thanks everyone for reassuring me that I'm not crazy!

    After sleeping on it for two nights in a row, I still think I made a good choice, so that's definitely a good sign. Now I just want to go put it on again! Smile
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  • Gustafson28Gustafson28 member
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    I actually had the tears moment and I'm not very emotional either. With that said, I think the tears matter ZERO to how you feel in the dress. If you can't stop thinking about it that's what really matters. I still can't get mine ou of my head!!!
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    I knew my dress was the one in a kind of reverse, roundabout way.  I tried many on, and liked a few pretty well, but didn't feel 100% satisfied.  I walked out of my first appt without a dress, and then went online.

    After looking at WAY too many, I finally clicked on a dress that practically flew off the screen and smacked me with "PRETTY!".  Even though I loved it on the anorexic 12 year old model, I didn't know if I'd love it one myself, so I scheduled another appt.

    I knew it was The One, because when I came out of the dressing room, every last person who had come with me to the appointment burst into tears.  I was all sorts of ok until then, then I started crying too.
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    I didn't have an Ah-ha moment either. It was the dress I had been lusting over for months. I tried on other dresses but I couldn't make a decision until I tried it on.  The minute I put it on I knew what I have known in my heart for months- it was the one.
     
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  • GiaspoGiaspo member
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    I saw my gown in a magazine and fell in love. Then, I showed it to my good friend. It was on a page with 5 others and I didn't tell her which one I liked. She pointed to it instantly and said "this one is totally you!" I secretly tried it on before I got engaged. Then, of course, I had to try on a thousand others comparing each one to that one. In the end, it was The One. No tears though.
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    I didn't have a hysterical moment either, just stepped out of the dressing room and was like "woah!" and had an "I wish my mom was here moment" and teared up a little bit. 

    I couldn't stop looking at myself and felt like I didn't want to take it off. 
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  • heroeswearbrownheroeswearbrown member
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    I nitpicked just about every dress I tried on. There were elements to every dress that I liked, but definitely more that I disliked. But when I tried on my dress I had the least amount of nitpicks about it. And the longer I stood there in it, the less the nitpicks mattered and the more I loved the dress. No aha, no crying. Just when the consultant asked me between two dresses I liked which I would pick if I had to walk down the aisle in 5 minutes, I knew which one was mine. But that could also be because we didn't buy the dress that day. When I found my dress on craigslist for half off retail I was bounding around the house like an idiot.
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  • KlassyWithaKKlassyWithaK
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    Yeah no crying here either. I'm very type A, so I went to different stores myself, made a list, and then went back with my family. We all had that "oh this one is nice" moment but nothing monumental. It was exactly what I wanted and was in my price range. I loved it.

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  • tguytontguyton member
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    No huge emotional scene for me, although I was pretty sure when I first saw it that it would be the one. 

    My FSIL went dress shopping with me, and I knew (and had talked with her about) what sort of general features I was looking for in a dress but hadn't seen pictures of any that were exactly what I was looking for.  We walked into the salon and right there on a mannequin was pretty much the exact dress I had described - before I could even say anything, she pointed it out and said that it looked exactly like what I had been talking about.  It was the first dress I tried on, and I tried on about 4-5 more dresses afterwards just to make sure, but there wasn't really much of a question in my mind. 

    My other bridesmaid who came to the appointment with me got super emotional about me trying on dresses, saying I really looked like a bride now, etc, but that's really not me.  At first I felt like a monster or something that my friend was more into dress shopping for my own wedding than I was, but I felt sure enough about the dress that it really didn't matter to me in the end.

    I went back a week later with my stepmom so she could see it since she and my dad were graciously paying for it and she loved it too, so that sealed the deal for me.  I felt a little strange about not having any sort of emotional connection to the dress, or even the process really, but I know it is the right dress.  It came in a few weeks ago and trying it on again was definitely reassuring.  I'm so excited for my first fitting next month!
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