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melb2013 · April 2012

What's your biggest WR stress?

melb2013 · April 2012

Since we got engaged, my biggest WR stress has been my FI's parents. For a while, they just kept coming up with things that they wanted us to do related to the wedding that we either couldn't afford or didn't want.

They've been quiet about our wedding for a while though, because my FSIL is getting married now in November, so they're busy with that wedding.

My second stress is money- duhhh

My third stress is time. I'm glad I have so much done already because between now and my FSIL's wedding, I'm literally going to get nothing WR done.

SSaltzman87 · April 2012

Money for sure! For now we're doing pretty well :-)

bwilso5 · April 2012

My main stress is the reception. The venue requires completely open bar...my dad is an alcoholic. I completely fell in love with the venue and there was nowhere else that wasn't completely out of the way for both of our families. I'm hoping it's not a disaster. The second thing I'm stressing about is the father/daughter dance. We're not close with each other. This will be the closest proximity we've probably ever been. I'm having an incredibly difficult time picking a song. I feel bad skipping it bc I'm his only child and it would hurt his feelings. The third would probably be the church. FI's church is too small. I found one that marries non members but it seems expensive. So we're still looking but we haven't had a Sunday off together in awhile to be able to visit churches.

jmozul01 · April 2012

Initially, I stressed about finding a venue. The first venue that we really wanted ended up screwing us over for more money so I didn't think we'd find something better. Thankfully we did so now the stress is with which diy projects I want to do and time I have to get everything together.

hope5377 · April 2012

My main WR stress is the guest list. We chose a venue that we both love, knowing that it holds a certain amount of people...however, creating the inital guest list is sooo stressful since our numbers are limited, doesn't help that I have such a huge family!

hisbabygirl76 · April 2012

Money of course for me is the biggest one even though 90% of it is already covered.

I then stress over the "standing up in front of a ton of people I know and being the center of attention". YUCK. If it was all strangers Id be much better lol.

FLGatorGal88 · April 2012

First stress as of now is finding another venue... My second stress would me the $$$.

RebCappon · April 2012

Main stress is money and second stress is FI's parents... well more his mom then anything. His dad is a really quiet guy who never really says much but his mom is very opinionated about everything.

I have noticed lately that the people I am meeting that have money are very stingy with it and his mom is one of them. She likes to lecture us about finances all the time. I don't think she has yet said congratulations to me and FI which is annoying.

And now he is looking for jobs where I live and his mom is not happy about it at all. That ones not so much wedding related, just stress related.

Princesslilyval · April 2012

Overall stress is money and a close second is finding a caterer.

I initially wanted a venue that would handle everything thus leaving my planning relatively stress free. Yet somehow we fell in love with a place where I have to find my own caterer, which is good in the fact that we MIGHT keep costs down, but bad in that most of the independent caterers I've checked are way higher than we've alotted for in our budget (this goes back to money stress).

It's an endless circle!

mymissingpuzzlepiece · April 2012

Money!

melb2013 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_419?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:7e54c82e-f39c-4b88-8ddd-cccdfdc1024aPost:9abe6405-8401-4d34-aa0d-12ec3e214f4d">Re: 4/19</a>:
[QUOTE]Money of course for me is the biggest one even though 90% of it is already covered. I then stress over the "standing up in front of a ton of people I know and being the center of attention". YUCK. <strong>If it was all strangers Id be much better lol.</strong>
Posted by hisbabygirl76[/QUOTE]

<div>I teach performance technique and I can testify that it is always easier to do something in front of a crowd of strangers than people you know. I hate having my parents in the audience when I perform because I care what they think more than people I will never see again.</div><div>
</div><div>Even though I'm used to performing all the time, I really don't like being the center of attention for something like this. I'm a little nervous too.</div>

hisbabygirl76 · April 2012

Mel- when i tell FI that the whole center of attention really makes my anxiety sky rocket he laughs and says "um I proposed to you in front 5-6000 people" I said "yup and for one I HAD NO IDEA, for 2 only 8 of them were people I knew and I didnt know they were there". This will be 150 people I know and oh the anxiety of them all watching me just sucks.

Mimmer04 · April 2012

My Father. He is a Dadzilla and wants/needs to have an opinion about every decision and complete control over everything. I've never been very good a fighting for what i want from him. Fortunately I let my FI talk to him about stuff more now and he's great at it.

Danny&Mel2003 · April 2012

Let's see where to start:

#1 M-O-N-E-Y lol if we can stay in budget with everything and my projections are on target were ok, if were off in any way I'll be crying lol

#2 stressing the guest list already and dreading telling some people they didn't make the cut for budget reasons

#3 I too do not do well with being center of attention, an saying the vows our own written ones in front of all our family and super close friends has me getting nervous. So nervous I'm afraid I'll faint the day of lol at least if I do fall I go 2 ways either FI catches me or I land in the sand rofl

That's all for now but we still have lots more to do.

rswans · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_419?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:7e54c82e-f39c-4b88-8ddd-cccdfdc1024aPost:9abe6405-8401-4d34-aa0d-12ec3e214f4d">Re: 4/19</a>:
[QUOTE]Money of course for me is the biggest one even though 90% of it is already covered. I then stress over the "standing up in front of a ton of people I know and being the center of attention". YUCK. If it was all strangers Id be much better lol.
Posted by hisbabygirl76[/QUOTE]

<div>This! I'm not used to being the center of attention and the idea of 125 people staring at me all day is a fair bit unnerving. Previously, my biggest stresser was both venues, but we have those figured out thankfully.</div>

hisbabygirl76 · April 2012

Mel Mel and RS I am so glad to know I am not the only one stressing the "all eyes on me" factor.

turtleslove · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_419?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:7e54c82e-f39c-4b88-8ddd-cccdfdc1024aPost:7e1cb2b8-e69f-43d2-9378-148a872d5829">Re:4/19</a>:
[QUOTE]My main stress is the reception. The venue requires completely open bar...my dad is an alcoholic. Posted by bwilso5[/QUOTE]
I just wanted to say that I feel for you. My Dad is also an alcoholic and he is the type to never back down if someone gets in his face. Not going to get into it all here, but I feel you pain :/

My biggest stress has got to be his Mom tho, she likes drama and will cause it whenever there is an opportunity....

Smashleyk · April 2012

Biggest wr stress would have to be finding the ceremony location since we're not going with a church, we live 1500 away...and we're getting married memorial day weekend

send cond would be just EVERYTHING! Im so indecisive it's radiculous

PJBHL5 · April 2012

My biggest WR stress is money too. Right now we are doing well and are paying for everything in cash... but anytime now the USAF is going to come back and say that my FI is retired, and his pay will drastically change. So i'm nervous about when that will happen, and what it will change for us.

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