Hello there girls. We are planning a destination wedding in san diego and my family is from north carolina. i spoke with a destination wedding coordinator in san diego who said if we want 70-80 people at our wedding we should only invite 100 people. So i down sized my list and put people on an 'alternate' list. how should that work? would we send invites earlier and wait for the 'no's' and then send out the alternates ~6 weeks prior? we plan to send out save the dates and i worry that if people don't get a save the date they won't have time to plan...or should i just shave the list and leave it?
thanks!