I am confused on something. It may be because of my background or just the way that I am personally. Hopefuly, you lovely ladies can help me out.
I would like to know when a bride has an in-law issue why it has to automatically become the fiance's responsibility to resolve said issue when (in most cases) he is not involved with it. Such as FMIL wants to wear a white dress that matches the bride's dress. (Since when do guys care what people wear?) or FFIL thinks bbq should be served instead of chicken. (OK, some guys may care about this but goin on)
In my way of thinking-I am going to have disagreements with my in-laws in the future. Example may be on how I think my in-laws should or should not punish my kids, I won't be complaining about it to my husband then have him take care of it. Most likely, I am going to say hey, in my rules of punishment you do not spank my child.
Or I may not like it when my brother-in-law brings his flavor of the month around and she's being overly rude to me or the family so I will have no problems tell her to shape up or ship out.
I feel the wedding gives you a pretty good idea on how future relations will be. If you bite and smile now, wouldn't FILs expect you to do it after the wedding?
Would you like to provide insight on this apparent rule so I can understand it better?