Let me give you some background...
A very good friend of mine who I had known about a year and a half hooked up me and FI. She was also engaged to his brother. About 6 months into FI's and my relationship, they went through a pretty nasty break-up and FI and I were stuck in the middle of it.
Around the time that FI and I got engaged we talked to her, FI's brother, and his family to tell them that we wanted them all at our wedding. We also made it clear that if they couldn't handle it, we would ask them to leave. We wanted as little drama as possible with this whole situation.
I asked her a couple months ago if she would be a bridesmaid of mine. She's still one of my best friends and I really wanted her to be there. She said she was surprised I still wanted her there after everything, but of course she would.
Fast forward to last night. FI asks his brother if he wants to be a groomsman. Brother says that it depends on who would be on the other side (obviously we weren't going to make them walk down the aisle together or anything), but of course his ex was going to be. With that answer, he said no and that he wasn't sure that he even wanted to come to the wedding. What BS! Seriously, it's your brother and you can't put your feelings aside for one day? Ugh. Anyway, I text my friend to tell her that he was being a baby because I was really mad.
Then I get a text from her saying that she had been doing some thinking and wasn't sure if she could be a bridesmaid. She was afraid that she and everyone else there would feel uncomfortable. The last thing I want is for people to feel uncomfortable, but this really sucks!! So now, FI and I have both lost people that we really wanted to be in our wedding party.
