throwing own baby shower?

LeeJane25 · August 2010

I know this post may be more appropriate for The Nest, but this board is filled with good advice, so I have to ask. I am being invited to a baby shower that is being thrown by the mom-to-be. Is etiquette here any different from pre-wedding party etiquette? Are you supposed to throw your own baby shower?

crfische · August 2010

Yeah, no. You shouldn't throw yourself your own shower. WEIRD.

nda_roxybabe · August 2010

I'd be a little put off by that. Actually, a lot put off

LeeJane25 · August 2010

I know that she's in a tough financial situation, but I don't know that that justifies it ...

nda_roxybabe · August 2010

I would think being in a tough finacial reason would deter you from throwing your own party. Parties cost money afterall. How far along is she?

LeeJane25 · August 2010

She's about six months along. I'm definitely going to go, if I'm in town, but I just thought it was kind of odd. And I'm surprised that no one close to her offered to throw one for her.

mwhitson14 · August 2010

Well, I've certainly learned MY lesson for offering to throw baby showers! Maybe her friends aren't in the position to, and her family isn't interested? Who knows, still weird and tacky. <-- and I never use that word.

shellydiane820 · August 2010

I have been to a baby shower for someone who threw their own party, it was weird. Not surprising though, she also had a honeymoon collection at her wedding shower.

Divorced a year later. Awesome.

jaimedanielle · August 2010

I have always been told that you cannot host your own shower and it is incorrect for either of the mothers to host for you. I believe the same for weddings holds true for baby showers.

banana468 · August 2010

You shouldn't throw your own shower.

But my feelings on moms throwing the shower have relaxed. My own baby shower will be thrown by my mom, MIL and SIL. DH and I have been out of our parents' homes for nearly 10 years now and in our circles, this isn't awful.

Mrs.B6302007 · August 2010

It sounds to me (based on your comment about her struggling financially) that she's throwing her own shower because she's expecting people to supply items for a baby that she can't afford. If I were in this situation, it would certainly make me remember that I was busy on the day of the shower. I would get a cute outfit or two after the baby's born to give when I went to see the baby for the first time.

sarabellam · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_throwing-own-baby-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b8040d49-5d62-465b-8a15-3c06d792ce55Post:1c8c2b6f-35ae-4446-aed8-a4bba7e3a2df">Re: throwing own baby shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]It sounds to me (based on your comment about her struggling financially) that she's throwing her own shower because she's expecting people to supply items for a baby that she can't afford. If I were in this situation, it would certainly make me remember that I was busy on the day of the shower. I would get a cute outfit or two after the baby's born to give when I went to see the baby for the first time.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

I think I would get her a package of diapers rather than the outfits, but the rest of the advice is spot-on. As usual per Mrs.B.

golden1215 · August 2010

I feel sad for the to-be-born baby if the mom is already in such a hard spot. Is she single? Young?

If she truly is a friend, I would judge her quietly for throwing her own shower, but I wouldnt not give a gift that could benefit the baby. Diapers, winter jumper suit, teething rings etc.

Maybe she knows its tacky and feels horrible but truly does need the help.

I dont view baby showers and wedding showers in the same light as I'd never not give to a newborn baby.... wedding couples are a different beast.

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