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Fiance driving me nuts!!!

finleyacfinleyac
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Ugh! I booked our honeymoon to an adults only all-inclusive resort in Puerto Vallarta a month ago and just found out that my fiance still hasn't requested the time off of work! He told me to go ahead and book it before he asked for it off because it "wasn't a big deal" where he works. I know he feels precarious in his job right now and doesn't want to make them mad, but what if someone else asks for that time off and then they tell him no? I'm so worried about it now, but he won't even talk to me about it!
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  • rungirl12rungirl12 member
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    I would be upset too!  I had a boyfriend that used to do things like that and it was frustrating.  If your FI's job is anything like mine, he knows it is a non-issue.  My boss could care less when I take off and didn't even blink at my taking 2 weeks for a honeymoon.  Perhaps he is just secure in how things run at work just as I am.  I guess if he's not worried, you shouldn't worry, right?  Easier said than done, I know Wink
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  • megan8290megan8290
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    Yeah, I wouldn't be too happy about that if my FI did that to me. The wedding is coming up! I think you should sit him down at somepoint and talk to him seriously about it. I've found that guys tend to not take us seriously when we were "emotional" or slightly annoyed.
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  • lb1212lb1212
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    My FI took forever in picking out his tux!  He's used the same place for several years and they never needed anything more than 2 weeks notice.  I was freaking out about the time of the year (we initially planning an early June Wedding) and needing several matching tuxes (not just one).  When we would talk about it, he would tell me, "don't worry. I have never had any problems."  Finally, I said,  "I know this seams silly to you, but it's important to me.  Can you please take care of this for me by the end of the month?" 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_fiance-driving-me-nuts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:eca097b1-aa57-44f6-a95c-49510d21239dPost:c65e5301-17d4-450b-9a50-e7ffcd1acf41">Re: Fiance driving me nuts!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]My FI took forever in picking out his tux!  He's used the same place for several years and they never needed anything more than 2 weeks notice.  I was freaking out about the time of the year (we initially planning an early June Wedding) and needing several matching tuxes (not just one).  When we would talk about it, he would tell me, "don't worry. I have never had any problems."  <strong>Finally, I said,  "I know this seams silly to you, but it's important to me.  Can you please take care of this for me by the end of</strong> <strong>the month?" 
    </strong>Posted by lb1212[/QUOTE]

    I'd do something like this....  "I know it's probably not a big deal, but I'd feel better if it was done and over with..."
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  • saraschilling88saraschilling88
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    I can empathize, my FI hadn't been watching his PTO and now has to be careful about not taking too much time or else he won't have any time around our wedding.  He is saving enough days for our honeymoon in November though!!  I finally had to sit him down and say "figure out your PTO so you know how often you can take time".  He wasn't happy, until he found out his limit and went oops I need to take less time.  It worked out good in the end :)
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