Recently my bridesmaid told me my wedding has been a burden to her. When she told me this the only thing we had done at that point was purchase dresses - which she picked out for herself. My other bridesmaids have pllanned the shower and bachelorette party and I have not heard from her since. When I see her in public we say hi, but not much more. When I tried to talk with her about her comments, she said she has a lot on her plate. (Keep in mind she is young and lives with her parents yet.)
I'm trying to keep this brief, but should I have taken this as a hint that she didn't want to be a part of this wedding but didn't know how to say it? I'm pretty hurt that she said the wedding was a burden to her and other bridesmaids and my groom have been complaining about her attitude which is at best described as grumpy. I realize how poor etiquette it is to kick out a bridal party member, but I wonder if she's trying to find a way to get out of the "burden" and me offering to pay for her dress and letting her walk away would be a kindness to her??? Help!