Boob jobs

xweddingbutterflyx · September 2011

I've always wanted bigger boobs because as it is I can't even fill out an a cup and it's super embarrassing! Not only that, but a lot of clothing doesn't fit me. I don't want to have massive ones, I just want a size that looks good on my body...maybe a small c. I've flipped back and forth repeatedly from wanting plastic surgery to being content with just stuffing my bra like a 12 year old or getting those double push up bras.

Are you guys against them? for them? Neutral on the subject?

[Deleted User] · September 2011

I am against them when women want them JUST for their wedding. Not having boobs though, it is totally understandable. It is frustrating not being able to fit into clothes due to boobs, I have the opposite problem though. Don't feel bad about wanting a boob job, society these days makes women feel uncomfortable if they have no boobs or butt. I have no butt, it kind of sucks but I could care less about doing anything about it since I don't see it everyday.

Try wearing the push up bras that add cup sizes to figure out what size will work for you, you don't want to get stuck with boobs too big for your body size because clothes will not fit right. My boobs are too big for my body size and I have had to pass up a TON of cute clothes because they just did not fit unless I got a size larger, but they were baggy for my body.

flygirlmeg · September 2011

I'm pretty neutral on the subject but I think if you DO get them, it has to 100% be for you. Not for your friends/family/BF/FI/DH/whoever. It sounds like that's where you're coming from since it would genuinely help you fit into clothes better and it's causing you embarrassment. Do lots of research on the subject and on any possible surgeon and make sure it's a committment you want to make - good luck!

xweddingbutterflyx · September 2011

Yeah it definitely wouldn't be for my boyfriend...haha he's TOTALLY against it, but I'm sure if I got them he wouldn't complain.

Simply Fated · September 2011

I'm fairly neutral on the subject, but as pp said, I wouldn't want anyone to have a boob job done because her S/O wanted her to have one.

I'd rather women be comfortable with their bodies and be happy with how they are naturally, but I wouldn't condemn someone for choosing plastic surgery.

misikes · September 2011

I'm not against them as long as you're getting it for the right reason (and not because you want to show off, or because someone else wants you to get them). And, of course, as long as you're not one of those BSC women who have multiple surgeries and get these ungodly sized NN cups.

Like PPs, FI has stated he sees nothing wrong with the size I currently am, but he's not against me having one, either. Personally, I'm with you OP, I just want to be a little more proportionate. I have a rather "busty rump", I guess you could say, so when it comes to swimsuits, I absolutely cannot wear a 1-piece (my chest is an extra-small and my rear is between a medium and a large), and since I live in a small town 6+ hours from the beach, swimwear is limited and most places don't let you mix and match sizes until swimwear is out of season (and even then, I end up having to settle for pieces that absolutely do not match).

Swazzle · September 2011

I think everyone should be happy & comfortable in their own skin. As PP have said, as long as you're doing it for you then I don't see any problem! I have the opposite problem actually but I do understand what it feels like to not be happy with something physical like that which you can only change through surgery. People can be very very judgemental when it comes to cosmetic surgery, but really you should do what YOU want, what's best for you, & don't worry about what they think/say.

Ollie08 · September 2011

I am generally opposed to plastic surgery. I think you should be happy with what you've got. That being said, one of my BFFs was completely flat chested. She was gorgeous but she had nothing in the chest area. She got a boob job a few years ago and they recommended a size that looked natural for her and they are perfect. She is so much more comfortable with herself and I completely understand why she would want to do it.

thejucheidea · September 2011

I did a surgical rotation and was placed with a plastic surgeon. After seeing breast implants placed, I cannot recommend them to anyone. It is horrible to watch and very painful afterwards. They shove the implants through incisions that are no more than an inch and a half wide. It's... just terrifying. The same thing goes for liposuction. If you watch the surgeries, you would not want to have any of these things done.

lunarsongbird · September 2011

You're always putting yourself at risk when you're undergoing a surgery. I don't think I would put myself in that situation voluntarily- However, if someone really needed a bit more on top to connect with their womanhood- I would say do it. Although- as Liv and Stillwell have mentioned- it's both incredibly painful and terribly expensive.

It might also hurt your chances of breast feeding and nipple sensitivity.

NurseyK · September 2011

I would like to hand you a hanful of my boobs... one from each side. It's free. Take it. PLEASE?!

I wear a size 12 and have DD tits. Even when I was a size 6, my boobs were a D. It's not fun... Nothing fits... men always stare.

I'm all for the surgery, but don't go too big for your body frame. Having giant tatas is no fun either. If you have a small frame, I would go with a B... you don't want to feel like your body isn't natural shaped.

loves2shop4shoes · September 2011

I think it's fine if it's something you NEED to do to feel 100% beautiful and confident in your own skin.

jemmini6 · September 2011

If you want to do it for you, then go for it! Just make sure you don't cheap out on the surgeon. It's still a major surgery that can come with a lot of complications, so it's better to spend the money and get it done safely and correctly. And definitely choose a 'natural' size. Large B - small C is probably a good range if you are currently an A.

TheMutleys · September 2011

I am for whatever you want to do. I'll probably be getting a boob job when we're all done having kids. I wouldn't do it before having kids if you plan on breastfeeding.

jorja86 · September 2011

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[QUOTE]I think everyone should be happy & comfortable in their own skin. As PP have said, as long as you're doing it for you then I don't see any problem! I have the opposite problem actually but I do understand what it feels like to not be happy with something physical like that which you can only change through surgery. People can be very very judgemental when it comes to cosmetic surgery, but really you should do what YOU want, what's best for you, & don't worry about what they think/say.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

This...all of it.

As far as the surgery being pretty brutal, it is, but so are many surgeries...c-sections absolutely terrified me in nursing school, and anything from a pacemaker placement to knee replacements are pretty rough as well. Obviously those things are medically necessary, where breast implants aren't necessarily.

I think the bottom line is, do your research, make sure you know what to expect from the surgery and recovery.

Good luck!

Elle1036 · September 2011

I probably won't ever do it, because I honestly think big boobs seem like a pain in the ass. When I get all dressed up, though, I consistently find myself wishing they were just a bit bigger. Oh well.

desertsun · September 2011

I think people have every right to do what they want with their own bodies.

I'm opposed to plastic surgery in a philosophical kind of way, in that I think it's an issue that people are somehow happier when they feel like they better fit into a certain standard for how they "should" look. It makes me a little sad that looks matter so much to so many.

But I don't judge.

YOU are the only person who can decide if it's something you truly want to do.

[Deleted User] · September 2011

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[QUOTE]I did a surgical rotation and was placed with a plastic surgeon. After seeing breast implants placed, I cannot recommend them to anyone. It is horrible to watch and very painful afterwards. They shove the implants through incisions that are no more than an inch and a half wide. It's... just terrifying. The same thing goes for liposuction. If you watch the surgeries, you would not want to have any of these things done.
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

Aren't a ton of surgeries terrifying though? Plastic surgery sounds scary all around, but most surgeries terrify me. I once visited a cadaver lab, where the professor gave us a very graphic demonstration of hip and knee replacements. I never want a hip or knee replacement now. Also, when I had to get a tonsillectomy two years ago I was terrified of EVER knowing what went into one because I was already scared enough as having that for my first surgery.

TheMutleys · September 2011

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[QUOTE]I think people have every right to do what they want with their own bodies.

I'm opposed to plastic surgery in a philosophical kind of way, in that I think it's an issue that people are somehow happier when they feel like they better fit into a certain standard for how they "should" look. It makes me a little sad that looks matter so much to so many. But I don't judge.

YOU are the only person who can decide if it's something you truly want to do.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

I think that tying happiness and plastic surgery can be true for many but not all. Am I happy with what I have? Yep. I was semi-serious about getting plastic surgery BEFORE having kids. I joked about getting a post-kid package. Now that I have had a kid, am pregnant and hope to be pregnant at least 2 more times, I know that I want a bit of work done on the other side. I mainly just want to go back to what I had before kids. I am going to work out and do what I can 'naturally.' At the end of the day though, I have zero hesitation in having some plastic surgery to lift up my boobs or get rid of areas with stubborn fat.

One of my close friends recently got a boob job and was VERY open about it. Her FB status that morning was "And on this day, God recreated Michelle and all was good..." I thought it was hysterical. She's worked her ass off the last couple of years, shed a bunch of weight, ran a couple of marathons and really wanted her boobs put back to their pre-kid place.

I do feel bad for women who think that getting new boobs, a new nose, or whatever is going to lead to happiness.

caitlin.cave · September 2011

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[QUOTE]I would like to hand you a hanful of my boobs... one from each side. It's free. Take it. PLEASE?! :) <strong>I wear a size 12 and have DD tits.</strong> Even when I was a size 6, my boobs were a D. It's not fun... Nothing fits... men always stare. I'm all for the surgery, but don't go too big for your body frame. Having giant tatas is no fun either. If you have a small frame, I would go with a B... you don't want to feel like your body isn't natural shaped.
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

Size 2 with GGs. :( It's awful sometimes.

[Deleted User] · September 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boob jobs : Size 2 with GGs. :( It's awful sometimes.
Posted by caitlin.cave[/QUOTE]

That sounds awful all the time. I'm size 2 with Ds and it bugs so much! FI loves them, but I wish they were smaller. How do find clothes that fit you? I thought I had a hard time.

Swazzle · September 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boob jobs : Size 2 with GGs. :( It's awful sometimes.
Posted by caitlin.cave[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I'm a size 4 with the same size boobs! I didn't know there were more of me out there!!!!!!! Have you ever considered a reduction? I've wanted to do it for 6 years. I really want to do it before I get married (for clarification: I'm not doing it FOR my wedding, it would just be nice to have 1 less thing to worry about that day).</div>

caitlin.cave · September 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boob jobs : That sounds awful all the time. I'm size 2 with Ds and it bugs so much! FI loves them, but I wish they were smaller. How do find clothes that fit you? I thought I had a hard time.
Posted by amsybot[/QUOTE]

I'm a 30GG in UK sizes but I'm a 30J or K in American sizes. I was in heaven when I went to England a few months ago because I could actually buy clothes off the rack from the store I get most of my fitted tops from. ( <a href="http://www.bravissimo.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.bravissimo.com/</a> ) It's mostly about cut for me. I can't wear certain styles ever, but some I have no trouble with. I have thought about getting a reduction, but I don't know if I ever will. I don't want to do it before I have kids because it can damage your nipples/mammary glands in a way that makes it impossible to breast feed.

desertsun · September 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boob jobs : I think that tying happiness and plastic surgery can be true for many but not all. Am I happy with what I have? Yep. I was semi-serious about getting plastic surgery BEFORE having kids. I joked about getting a post-kid package. Now that I have had a kid, am pregnant and hope to be pregnant at least 2 more times, I know that I want a bit of work done on the other side. I mainly just want to go back to what I had before kids. I am going to work out and do what I can 'naturally.' At the end of the day though, I have zero hesitation in having some plastic surgery to lift up my boobs or get rid of areas with stubborn fat. One of my close friends recently got a boob job and was VERY open about it. Her FB status that morning was "And on this day, God recreated Michelle and all was good..." I thought it was hysterical. She's worked her ass off the last couple of years, shed a bunch of weight, ran a couple of marathons and really wanted her boobs put back to their pre-kid place. I do feel bad for women who think that getting new boobs, a new nose, or whatever is going to lead to happiness.
Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

I have really conflicted feelings about it. For specific people, I'm not going to judge ANYONE who has a cosmetic procedure of any sort. Again, it's YOUR body, YOU get to choose.

But as a whole, as a kind of cultural practice...it bothers me. I think it contributes to low self esteem in many (by no means all) women. It contributes to an unrealistic and homogenous standard for beauty in our society. I feel like there is increasing almost pressure or expectation for women in particular to pursue these kinds of procedures. Looking young is so highly valued in our culture. I think it's a challenge to NOT have some part of your self-esteem be tied to your looks.

So yeah. Like I said. Something about it makes me uncomfortable. That may be MY issue. I'm not sure. Just being honest and sharing my discomfort. :)

TheMutleys · September 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boob jobs : I have really conflicted feelings about it. For specific people, I'm not going to judge ANYONE who has a cosmetic procedure of any sort. Again, it's YOUR body, YOU get to choose.

But as a whole, as a kind of cultural practice...it bothers me. I think it contributes to low self esteem in many (by no means all) women. It contributes to an unrealistic and homogenous standard for beauty in our society. I feel like there is increasing almost pressure or expectation for women in particular to pursue these kinds of procedures.

Looking young is so highly valued in our culture. I think it's a challenge to NOT have some part of your self-esteem be tied to your looks. So yeah. Like I said. Something about it makes me uncomfortable. That may be MY issue. I'm not sure. Just being honest and sharing my discomfort. :)
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

I completely get where you are coming from. I can see the generalizations in terms of women and culture. Personally, I know that I have had my fair share of body issues. I don't feel any societal pressure to do anything to my body. I do know that I loooooved my breastfeeding boobs. They were awesome. LOL. Is that superficial? Definitely, and I can admit that.

I think there is a problem when women get plastic surgery and aren't honest with themselves about WHY they are doing it.

I have a huge discomfort with nose jobs, chin reconstruction and other stuff like that. I think it has to do with changing something so definitive about yourself. I don't look at boobs, thighs or a stomach the same way. <a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/7/6/27493aab-a792-4aa6-a6c4-1623d11b808d.large.gif" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', '27493aab-a792-4aa6-a6c4-1623d11b808d', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/7/6/27493aab-a792-4aa6-a6c4-1623d11b808d.medium.gif" alt="" /></a>
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xmansmommy2010 · September 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boob jobs : I'm a size 4 with the same size boobs! I didn't know there were more of me out there!!!!!!! Have you ever considered a reduction? I've wanted to do it for 6 years. I really want to do it before I get married (for clarification: I'm not doing it FOR my wedding, it would just be nice to have 1 less thing to worry about that day).
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

I was 5'2" size 2 with DD - tremendous back problems. I went in for a reduction in 2003 and have never looked back. I used to be like a real-life Betty Boop; guys loved it and I HATED every second. Now I couldn't be happier! If your part of NJ isn't far from Philly, I can wholeheartedly recommend a surgeon. The man is a miracle worker.

On the flip side, my bestie was completely flat chested and went bigger...and then she got pregnant. Oops!

phyliciau · September 2011

Coming from someone who just recently went under the knife (4 months ago) for a boob job...I can honestly say it was the best thing I could've done. I didn't finance them and worked really hard to save up. I had always wanted them, and did my research. I was an 34 A.... my dimensions were really unproportional, I have a 24inch waiste and 38in hips. I am now a 34D/DD, and I feel SOOOO much better about myself!

Like what most PP have said....do what makes YOU happy.

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