Father and Step Father walk me down the aisle?

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  Avion22 member

  

  April 2011

  Are you sure that you won't all fit? 
  
  Maybe the pastor at the church, or whoever at the church normally coordinates weddings, will have some ideas for you. I'm sure it's not the first time that a bride has wanted two people to escort her down the aisle. 

  

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  diehld

  

  April 2011

  I had a friend that had her step dad meet her and her dad half way down the isle that ... that could be possible but most isle are large enough for three people they just don't always look like it... just try it!

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  kmmssg mod

  

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  I encourage you to think outside the box a bit.  Your current idea has your father turning you over to another man to give you away.  Think about the symbolism there.
  
  Your stepdad sounds like a very special man and I'm not saying you shouldn't include him in this but that is quite a hit for your dad.  My youngest stepdd did this (she married at 18, is divorcing now, 5 years later) and she recently came to her dad and apologized profusely for her decision.  She has a great stepdad, but she also has a great dad who was always at every program, weekend, special event and was always there for her.  He just wasn't the one who got custody of her so her stepdad had more time with her.
  
  Has your bio dad been a good dad to you or has he been out of the picture?

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  NOLAbridealmost member

  

  April 2011

  I'd walk down the aisle solo if I were in OPs situation.  I wouldn't want to hurt either dad and if the aisle is really that narrow it might be best to do it alone. 

  
  

  
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  afmilner

  

  April 2011

  Ditto NOLA. I am in a very similar situation, and my original compromise was just to have my mom walk me down the isle. But then I realized, just like you, that my isles are too small to have anyone walk with me since I will be in a wedding dress! My solution is to walk down by myself and then have my mom, step-dad, dad, and step-mom all in the first pew/row and I will stop and give them all hugs, etc. This way I get to include everyone! Might be something to consider

  
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  mmancin

  

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  I'm walking down the aisle with both my dad and my step dad, but this was something I talked over with my dad before ever asking my step dad. I wanted him to be OK with the decision as I didn't want to cause any unnecessary rift or awkardness. Luckily, neither of them had an issue with this idea.
  
  From the sounds of your post, you have already asked your step dad to walk you down the aisle and now you're not sure if it's going to work out?
  
  You'd know for sure at the wedding rehearsal (although you wouldn't be wearing your dress, obviously) but I assume you want to have this figured out before then. If you don't want to try it out at the church before the rehearsal, then have a Plan B in place so if you find during the rehearsal that it's not going to work, you have another idea to fall back on.
  
  How big is this dress of yours?

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  jenlc527 member

  

  April 2011

  try the handoff... i had a similar situation when i got married in feb. i love my dad but my stepfather has been my dad since i was 6 so he raised me. i ended up having my dad start me down the aisle (which was coming out of a plantation house) and then passed me onto my stepdad at the start of the chairs...
  
  if your church is large and maybe not full (or if you can spare a row around the middle) then maybe try a handoff in the middle? my dad walked around the chairs and joined my stepmom, everyone was standing and watching me finish walking down the aisle so no one really noticed him walking around. just a thought....

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  colleen1030f member

  

  April 2011

  I am having the same delimma as my dad and I arent close, but my stepdad has been around more for me in the last four years. My stepdad is also helping us out financially. I dont want to offend my father, or step father. I was going to have both walk me down, but the aisle is definatley too small. I also thought of walking by myself, but my FI doesnt want that. Is it a bad idea to have my mother walk me down, as she raised me by herself? Any imput would be great. I have four months to decide.

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  LindsayM123 member

  

  May 2011

  I am having the same dilemna as well!!! My Dad is now upset with me because I told him that both him and my stepdad were going to walk me down the aisle and from what I've heard from my sister, he's asked her if she could just have him walk her down the aisle unlike me having both of them. My stepdad has been in my life for 18 years and my Dad and I didn't really have a relationship until a few years ago when we started getting closer. I think having both of them walk you down the aisle is the best way to go, no one's feelings will be hurt and I think it'd mean a lot to your stepdad. I know it does to my stepdad.

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