sleeping apart the night before..

carlowgirl10 · May 2012

well....all along that was the plan...but actually....FI just started a night shift job...the wedding night will be the FIRST night ill sleep WITH him after 3 weeks!! and honeymoon will be bliss i get to sleep with him for 7 nights straight!! then its back to sleeping with my body pillow..:-(

but it does make the no sex easier! haha...except when were both home during the day all day....lol

missmayberry · May 2012

my FI told me i had to sleep on the couch the night before the wedding.... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I just laughed at him.... i think we all know who will be sleeping on the couch

I did tell him that he's cut off until the wedding though... but i'm pretty sure he'll live, that's only til the 19th!!

firemedicrr · May 2012

I'm not trying to be offensive, but I really don't understand the principle of not sleeping together the night before the wedding or not having sex before the wedding if you've already been doing those things. Do you feel like that's going to change the dynamic/make things better for your wedding night? (I really am being genuine, not trying to be sarcastic or offensive... I really just have never understood this... and being that FI and I don't live together and haven't slept together, I really don't know what it'd be like to be in that situation.)

RivieraBound · May 2012

I don't understand it either, but FI wants to sleep apart so we will. I guess it is so we don't see eachother the day of until its go time. It will be the first time we have spent the night apart since we became a couple so that will be different.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

We are sleeping apart but for me it's just the idea of having one last night "on my own," and then waking up the next day and letting the anticipation of seeing him (and marrying him) build up as I get ready. I don't want it to feel like just another "Oh, good morning - here's your coffee - I'll see you at the church at 2" kind of day.

Flowerstar1023 · May 2012

Agree with marceedee. We're sleeping apart also, but it has nothing to do with abstaining or anything else and my fiance (so would I) would scoff at the idea of becoming abstinent temporarily. We've been living together unmarried for over 2 years so the cat is out of the bag so to speak...

And we're both older so...

LBug24 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_sleeping-apart-the-night-before?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:15f0d6c0-4556-492f-bd8f-b73a6e161c63Post:e2526a29-bb6f-4983-a496-5f19d0e0c98b">Re: sleeping apart the night before..</a>:
[QUOTE]We are sleeping apart but for me it's just the idea of having one last night "on my own," and then waking up the next day and letting the anticipation of seeing him (and marrying him) build up as I get ready. I don't want it to feel like just another "Oh, good morning - here's your coffee - I'll see you at the church at 2" kind of day.
Posted by marceedee[/QUOTE]

<div>agreed with this!</div><div>We're not doing the no sex thing (I'm too stressed, we can't cut that too! :P), but I think the idea is witholding for a bit will give you a little more to look forward to the night of the wedding! :)</div><div>I know i'm going to miss FI up until wedding time, the anticipatiion will definitely be there!</div>

bpphoto785 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_sleeping-apart-the-night-before?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:15f0d6c0-4556-492f-bd8f-b73a6e161c63Post:692a715e-0872-481e-b93f-efc50f1c715a">Re: sleeping apart the night before..</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not trying to be offensive, but I really don't understand the principle of not sleeping together the night before the wedding or not having sex before the wedding if you've already been doing those things. Do you feel like that's going to change the dynamic/make things better for your wedding night? (I really am being genuine, not trying to be sarcastic or offensive... I really just have never understood this... and being that FI and I don't live together and haven't slept together, I really don't know what it'd be like to be in that situation.)
Posted by firemedicrr[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not going to speak for other people, but my reasoning for both is the anticipation. Not seeing each other the morning of the wedding, and taking a small break, I think will help make things more special and less like every other day, like Marceedee said. But I think it's all personal preference. </div><div>
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AurorasEnvy · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_sleeping-apart-the-night-before?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:15f0d6c0-4556-492f-bd8f-b73a6e161c63Post:692a715e-0872-481e-b93f-efc50f1c715a">Re: sleeping apart the night before..</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not trying to be offensive, but I really don't understand the principle of not sleeping together the night before the wedding or not having sex before the wedding if you've already been doing those things. Do you feel like that's going to change the dynamic/make things better for your wedding night? (I really am being genuine, not trying to be sarcastic or offensive... I really just have never understood this... and being that FI and I don't live together and haven't slept together, I really don't know what it'd be like to be in that situation.)
Posted by firemedicrr[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>FI and I are sleeping apart, moreso because we'll probably both sleep better with a bed to ourselves and because I'll be getting up earlier than he will. As far as the no sex thing goes, I can see why people would have an abstinent period even though they've been active before. It's kind of like ice cream - yeah, it tastes good still even if you eat it every day, but when you have it after 6 months of not having it, it tastes AMAZING =]</div>

enchantedonyx · May 2012

FI is staying at the hotel we'll be staying at for our wedding night but I'll be sleeping at my mom's house, in my old bedroom. Even though we've lived together for a year and there are no illusions of "waiting for marriage" on the sex front (though I did try to convince everyone at my B=party that I was a virgin.

), there is just something symbolic about sleeping at my parent's house the night before and with my husband the night of that I really like.

mandi921vh · May 2012

We didn't do the "no sex thing" but we are spending the night before our wedding apart. We aren't seeing each other before the ceremony so it just would feel like a normal day if we woke up had breakfast and said oh see you at the church later... it builds the excitement and anticipation of walking down the aisle and seeing him

LDW0225 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]We are sleeping apart but for me it's just the idea of having one last night "on my own," and then waking up the next day and letting the anticipation of seeing him (and marrying him) build up as I get ready. I don't want it to feel like just another "Oh, good morning - here's your coffee - I'll see you at the church at 2" kind of day.
Posted by marceedee[/QUOTE]

This! It's our wedding day, it needs to feel different. For me, since we've been living together for 3 years, it's weird NOT to wake up next to him. But I want the anticipation of the first time I see him on that day is when I'm walking down the aisle.

ladychambers83 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_sleeping-apart-the-night-before?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:15f0d6c0-4556-492f-bd8f-b73a6e161c63Post:e2526a29-bb6f-4983-a496-5f19d0e0c98b">Re: sleeping apart the night before..</a>:
[QUOTE]We are sleeping apart but for me it's just the idea of having one last night "on my own," and then waking up the next day and letting the anticipation of seeing him (and marrying him) build up as I get ready. I don't want it to feel like just another "Oh, good morning - here's your coffee - I'll see you at the church at 2" kind of day.
Posted by marceedee[/QUOTE]

This!!

lynnjv · May 2012

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[QUOTE]We are sleeping apart but for me it's just the idea of having one last night "on my own," and then waking up the next day and letting the anticipation of seeing him (and marrying him) build up as I get ready. I don't want it to feel like just another "Oh, good morning - here's your coffee - I'll see you at the church at 2" kind of day.
Posted by marceedee[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Completely agree! We're spending the night apart too - me with my MOH and him with his brother. The excitement will be crazy that morning!</div>

toothpastechica · May 2012

We dont live together now, although we have 'done the deed', we are holding off till the wedding (mostly because the pastor doing our pre-marital told us to) I feel sleeping together the night before the wedding would almost make the wedding feel anticlamatic as one of the big excitements of the wedding is that our occasional overnights will be every night from that day on. Poor FI though, this means he gets to share a room with his parents at a BandB the night before....

denisefleming · May 2012

I found this subject interesting and am amazed that nearly everyone is spending the night separately. I have two grown sons and did insist that dinner the night before would be just me and my boys. (I enlisted the help of my FSIL to take her brother to dinner that night.) However I cannot really imagine spending the night somewhere just so that we don't share our bed.

We are starting our wedding day with breakfast together at our favorite neighborhood restaurant, then hauling all of the wedding supplies to our site and decorating together. At noon we will go our separate ways, him back to our home to get ready and me to our vacation rental where we are spending a couple of nights after the wedding to get ready.

Although we will be together up until lunch, I was adamant that he does not get to see me (or my dress which is hanging in a bag on our bedroom door) until I walk down the aisle.

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