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I have been trying...

SarahA2bSarahA2b
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FI has asked me to make an effort with his mom, actually stepmother.  She seems a little aloof to me, but I have been trying.  When we first got engaged, she said she could help with decorations, but I haven't really gotten that far yet.  I asked if they would host the rehearsal dinner, but she seems reluctant.  Today I offered to have my stylist do her hair, but she politely turned me down.  Now what?  Ideas?
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Re: I have been trying...

  • xos0inlovexos0inlove member
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    First, it's rude to request she host the rehearsal dinner. While it's traditional the grooms family host, it's not required and should not be expected. If she OFFERS that's fine, but asking others to contribute money to your wedding is a bit of a faux pas. To answer your question, I would just continue to be polite to her, do what you can to make her feel included without asking for money and if she comes around, great! If not, that's okay too. You don't have to be BFF's, and as long as you're making the effort I'm sure your FI will appreciate it.
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    Yeah I'm with OP. You shouldn't have asked her to host the RD, because that's essentially asking her to pay for something. They may be in a financial bind or maybe she isn't good with planning/hosting events. Some women don't enjoy that. I would call her up and apologize, saying that you meant well: you simply wanted her to feel included and the groom's parent's typically do that. 

    As for her hair, that was very nice of you, but it's really NBD. She may feel more comfortable doing her own, or using her own regular stylist. 

    If she doesn't want to be close, you aren't going to make it any better forcing a relationship. Continue to be cordial to her, invite her to whatever you wish, etc, but try not to take it personally if she doesn't seem interested. As PP said, as long as you get along, you don't have to be all buddy buddy. Cherish the fact that she isn't trying to control every aspect of your wedding!!! 
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