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Mom and Dad Memorial

Fist off, is it ok to have something to honor my mom and dad? They both passes away when I was little, and yes, till death did them part. I was thinking of like a little table with their wedding picture, I have their wedding certificate, and maybe a memorial candle?Secondly, would I have something like that at the ceremony or reception?
Any feed back (goo or bad) is appreciated. Thanks
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Re: Mom and Dad Memorial

  • I'm sorry for your loss.  I have ideas and cautions about "memorials" in my bio under "In Memory Of" as well as how I honored my deceased mother.

    You can do something private where just you know about it (1 (of many things) I did to honor my deceased mother was I spritzed myself with a perfume that she always wore).  I've also seen a little picture/locket on the bridal bouquet.

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  • My husband's grandfather passed away not long before our wedding, so I had asked him if he wanted something of a memorial moment/table/chair for him. H said "no". That while he wished his grandfather was still with him, the wedding was a joyous occasion and for US, not his grandfather. He also worried that it might bum out some of his family... 

    We decided to still include his grandfather is a way that everyone LOVED. we found a wedding photo of his grandparents, cutting their cake. We made it our cake topper :) H felt great about having his grandfather there and remembered, but in such a sweet (hehe pun), happy light. We got compliments all night long. 

    My point is that, I understand missing people at such an important day in your life, but remember that it's about you. If you want to honor them, go for it! It seems to be a common thing to do lately, but remember that you want to keep the wedding happy and filled with love.. It doesn't need to have a solemn note. Maybe you could find photos of your parents and use them for your table numbers, cake topper, good bags, etc. 
    If you really want to do a table for them, you can... I know a trend is to do empty "reserved" seats for people. I personally don't like this idea because it's a play off of a military tradition for MIA/POW soldiers at military balls/functions. 
  • I have a digital picture frame that's going to have a slide show. My mom died when I was a kid too as well as grand parents and some aunts. Everyone I have talked to in the family thinks its a great idea. It's not over the top but thoughtful plus it is some thing that will help me to feel them with me that day
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  • No, I wouldn't do the empty chair, that would make me feel worse. In a way (I guess) to honor my dad I'm haveing my younger brother walk me down the aisle. He's the only sibling that I have the same parents with, and we're closer than anyone else.
    As for my mom though, I'm not sure what to do. I don't really have anything of hers that I could use in the ceremony/reception. The only "clothing" like thing I have is her dance blanket that I use in Native dancing (we're Alaskan Tlingit).
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  • We are putting wedding/family pictures of our grandparents and my dad on the top of the piano that is at our reception venue along with the sheet music for "When I get where I am going" Both my grandmothers kept family pictures on top of the piano and it just seems to fit us. There will be a "We remember those who are withus in spirit" note in the program and I will be wearing my Dad's college class ring. I will have a piece of lace made in Venice and bought by my GGM when she came to visit my family when my dad was stationed in Italy sewn into my wedding dress as well. The memorial does not have to be public or explained, just something that lets you have happy thoughts of them on this most special of days
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