hosting our own small engagement party

[Deleted User] · March 2012

So my fiance and I have decided we wanted to do a small engagment type party for just our immediate family like parents and siblings, grandparents and the few members of our bridal party. I know it is not traditionally how it is done to host your own party but we figured it would be a good opportunity for our families to get better aquainted and for the bridal party to be more familiar with each other as well. Is this totally taboo, or does this sound like a decent idea?

banana468 · March 2012

If you don't call it an engagement party it's a great idea.

OBX2011 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]So my fiance and I have decided we wanted to do a small engagment type party for just our immediate family like parents and siblings, grandparents and the few members of our bridal party. I know it is not traditionally how it is done to host your own party but we figured it would be a good opportunity for our families to get better aquainted and for the bridal party to be more familiar with each other as well. Is this totally taboo, or does this sound like a decent idea?
Posted by lembof[/QUOTE]

While it's a decent idea to have everyone together, you should not be hosting your own engagement party. That is like hosting your own bridal shower. No. No.

segelpi · March 2012

I don't get why hosting your engagement party is such a no no. It's not like it's an event that people expect to bring presents to. My cousin & MOH threw us an engagement party so that wasn't an issue for me. I'm not sure what I would do in your situation.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

I guess I was viewing it as not so much honoring ourselves but sharing a happy time with the people we love most and for those people to come together and get better aquainted with each other. It isn't a situation where I would want presents or expect that either from it. I can see not doing a bridal shower because that is traditionally when people give gifts, and I see it as pretentious to say "hey I am throwing myself a party so you can get me gifts". I don't feel it is the same with the party we want to have. I suppose I will talk to our families and if they think it is weird we might call it something different.

librababy · March 2012

Who cares what anyone else thinks. Go ahead and host your own engagement party. I see nothing wrong with it. It's 2012, not 1950.

It's a nice way to let everyone know you are getting married and have them share in your news. You're asking for anything than for your guests to come, congratulate you and have fun. Nothing wrong with that at all.

crb2013 · April 2012

I say who cares about the way it's traditionally done?!

Brett and I are semi-hosting our own engagement party. My dad is footing the bill but we picked the location, the food, made the invitations, etc.

Brett's family all live out of state so we knew we wanted to have one so our families can meet for the first time. In fact I've only actually met his family twice.

Do what you want girl!

crb2013 · April 2012

And if you shouldn't host a party in your honor - what about like graduation parties and stuff like that? I've been to numerous ones that were thrown by the person graduating.

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