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Invite/menu card/ place card questions (Long)

secoursecour member
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I'm DIY'ing the paper.  I've come up with the following questions.  Any light that you can shed will be helpful.  Keep in mind that we're sending out about 60 invites but will probably end up having only about 30 guests (a lot of out-of-towners who probably won't be able to attend) and we're shooting for a very, very nice but simple/relaxed feel to the wedding.

1. I want the wording of the invite to be simple.  Since I don't normally speak like, "The honour of your presence is requested...."  I don't want that on my invites.  I have the wording for the invites planned. But I'm puzzled about the RSVP cards.  Please tell me if this sounds dumb:

"We want you to have a good time.  So that we can be sure to have enough food and drink for everyone, please let us know if you'll be attending no later than 1/10/10. 

Name:  ___________________________________
Will you be attending?  _____yes      _____no
Will you bring a guest(s)?  _____yes     _____no
How many total (including you)?  _______
(The how many total is because some people will want to bring their 2 or 3 kids along as well.  That's fine.  The more the merrier.  I just need to know ahead of time).

2.  We're having one huge family style table and to ensure that parents and siblings are close to the bride and groom, we're doing assigned seating.  To avoid having so much clutter on the table and rather than doing place cards AND menu cards, do you think it will be silly to print the name of the person right on the menu card (at the top, really big and noticable)?  Kill 2 birds with one stone sort of thing.  Please be honest, it won't hurt my feelings.

3.  Is it a good idea to put a stamp on the envelope that they're supposed to return the rsvp card in?  I'm thinking that I'll get more responses that way.

Thanks.  Sorry it's so long.
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    AmeliaMarieAmeliaMarie
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    Your wording is NMS, but I think it's okay.  I do think it would be fine to put people's names on their menus.  RSVP envelopes should be stamped.
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    duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    I think your response card it just too much.  If you aren't offering meal choices that you need ahead of time I think a simple "are you coming" and "how many in your party" would be sufficient.  I think asking if they are bringing a guest and then asking again how many people they are coming with is redundant.

    We didn't do menu cards.  I don't think they are necessary but if you want I see no reason why you can combine the two.

    And yes, put stamps on every reply envelope.
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    TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    Some people write things like:

    ___ Ready to party!

    ___ Sorry I'll miss it.


    I'd lean towards either not doing place/escort cards and just putting a seating chart near the front of the reception, or doing the cards, but having 1-2 menu cards at each table (maybe on little stands next to the centerpieces).

    It's bad etiquette not to stamp the response cards. Some people save money by using postcards rather than actual cards and envelopes, since postcard stamps are only $0.27.
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    dhaemiondhaemion member
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    Hi!
    Good for you having a small wedding.  For the RSVP cards, I would suggest shortening it a bit to something like:
    ____ I would love to attend 
    ____ Sorry I can't make it
    ____ Total coming to the party

    Just because the whole guest thing is a bit redundant if the main person isn't coming, and this way you still get the total count.  Not to mention it is a bit hard to get all that text on the tiny card.  I would definitely stamp the envelopes, they even have some cute stamps at the post office with rings on them.  

    Thats an interesting idea for the menu cards.  Since it is going to be family style, have you considered putting a little card in front of each dish t tell people what it is?  Or maybe putting it in a stand so it is in the dish.  I think people would be fine either way, but for cost reasons since it seems like you are trying to keep it simple you might consider printing a menu card for every other seat and nice place-cards for each person.  Good luck!
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    secoursecour member
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    You ladies are probably right, I should shorten what I'm thinking for the response cards. 
    Maybe I'll use the idea of printing 3 menus and putting them in stands or frames for everyone to see.
    Thanks
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