vent. sorry :(

myfeverplays · February 2012

So I bought a pair of chocolate colored TOMS that I am planning on wearing at the reception. I wanted them embroidered. On one shoe I wanted the date and on the other I wanted "always"... I was looking for someone to embroider them for me and a friend of mine/our roomate's girlfriend offered to do it for me, which I plan on paying her for and she knows that...

My shoes came in the mail yesterday and she was over our place hanging out. So I showed them to her and told her the colors that I wanted for the embroidery. She told me she was going to pick up the thread today and work on the shoes this weekend which was awesome. I told her I would leave them in my dining room and whenever she was ready she could just take them in case she was over and we didn't run into each other before the weekend.

I planned on putting little post its on each shoe saying what I wanted embroidered on each one. I was planning on doing that when I got home from work tonight. When I got home she was here and she was like "Hey, I started the shoes and I got one done..." She showed me a picture and she did a great job.... but it says "Kelly and Paul" on the shoe!?!?!?!?!? I didn't even want that!!!

She didn't even ask what I wanted!!! I think because that's what was done in my example photo she assumed I wanted it exactly the same....

So. I felt horrible because she spent the evening working on and seemed so excited about it when she was showing me. FI didn't know that it wasn't what I wanted so he made a big deal in front of her how awesome it looks and what a good job she did...and I just wanted to cry because I didn't want our names on them at all! I didn't say anything to avoid hurting her feelings and what's done is done so I will just vent here instead

I mean I guess there's not a whole lot I can do about it anyway. It's already stitched on. I can't pay another $60 for a new pair to have her redo them, I probablys houldn't have bought this pair to begin with, lol. It just totally sucks that I will look at those and forever be annoyed about it. Now I have to decide what I want on the other shoe. I told her not to do it yet until I decide if I want "always" or the date... opinions??

DrPB2b13 · February 2012

Would you be comfortable telling her something like, "I'm really sorry, I didn't realize you were going to start right away. It looks great, but I was really hoping for __this__ instead. Is it too late to change it?"

Seam rippers can be a girl's best friend. I used to get "reject" monogrammed things when I was a kid from LL Bean outlet stores, because they were cheap; I'd find the ones that had an "A" in the center, and use a seam ripper to get rid of the rest of the embroidery around it. No harm done.

SheilaDancer43 · February 2012

Sorry it's not what you were hoping for, but I'm sure they will still be great! I think that either "always" or the date would be fine, so which ever you want the most!! I want to see pics when they are finished!

Megbo2012 · February 2012

I would be upset too. Was the Kelly and Paul really large? Could you have the date underneath the names?

Ash61612 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>Would you be comfortable telling her something like, "I'm really sorry, I didn't realize you were going to start right away. It looks great, but I was really hoping for __this__ instead. Is it too late to change it?</strong>" Seam rippers can be a girl's best friend. I used to get "reject" monogrammed things when I was a kid from LL Bean outlet stores, because they were cheap; I'd find the ones that had an "A" in the center, and use a seam ripper to get rid of the rest of the embroidery around it. No harm done.
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]
I love this suggestion!

kelsey+brandon · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I would be upset too. Was the Kelly and Paul really large? Could you have the date underneath the names?
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

<div>I like this suggestion!! </div><div>
</div><div>I'm sorry it's not what you were expecting. That's never a good feeling.</div>

Shelly527IN · February 2012

Sorry it's not the way you wanted! Could you do the date and always on the other shoe?

AlliJae · February 2012

That really stinks

I wonder if this was your inspiration picture?? but this is what I'm doing with my TOMS. I really like the hearts:

You could do "always" on the other shoe and then have her embroider the date along the sides of the shoe. Like on the outer (or inner) edge of the shoe...towards the back.

Also, I forget if the back of the shoe is fabric, but you could always utilize that space? Put forever back there, or the date?

myfeverplays · February 2012

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[QUOTE]That really stinks :( I wonder if this was your inspiration picture?? but this is what I'm doing with my TOMS. I really like the hearts: You could do "always" on the other shoe and then have her embroider the date along the sides of the shoe. Like on the outer (or inner) edge of the shoe...towards the back. Also, I forget if the back of the shoe is fabric, but you could always utilize that space? Put forever back there, or the date?
Posted by AlliJae[/QUOTE]

I saw the embroidered shoes on Etsy actually and googled more pictures and that is the picture I liked the best and printed to show her when asking her if she could do it because I loved those little hearts! I never even gave the picture to her so she must have remembered what was on it or googled it herself.

She slept over last night so I talked to her today. I didn't tell her that she did it wrong but I did ask her to put always on the other shoe rather than the date written out and then just emborider the date on the side and she said that was no problem. It wasn't what I was planning on and I am still a little disappointed but it's not the end of the world and I didn't want to make a big deal about it to her because I know she worked hard on them (they aren't the easiest to embroider up at the top of the shoe.) so I didn't want to make her feel like the work she did put in sucked just because I never mentioned I didn't want them done like the picture. I guess I should have made that clear when I showed it to her but I thought she would ask about it before she actually started. I also thought I had until the weekend to decide because that's when she told me she was going to start them otherwise I would have put my post its on them the night before! lol... Oh well. I'm glad I have somewhere to let it out.

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