FYI- this is a post and run. I am leaving work and I doubt I will be on until tomorrow morning.
Last week I got a call from my Future sister in law saying that her husband's sisters really want to come our wedding. I have told her multiple times that we just can't fit then into our budget. I start on the same speech how we can't fit them in the budget, and I am uncomfortable with inviting them and not their husbands because of etiquette. She tells me that they thought up the perfect scenario. The sisters are going to come alone to the ceremony, go somewhere while everyone eats and then when the dinner is over they will come to the reception.
I am not comfortable with this. One reason is because I have met them twice and my fiance has met them once. When I first met them they joked around about how "We didn't even know FSIL had a brother, she hardly ever talks about him." Another reason why I am very uncomfortable inviting them is that at FSIL's wedding last year my parents weren't invited. Even though they sent FSIL an engagement present, and my mother was invited to her shower. (Granted, it wasn't a formal invitation, it was verbal but she was still invited and came.) They did not have a small wedding. It was a 350 person wedding.
I plan on having FI talk to her privately, first talking about how he doesn't know them, then saying that if the venue finds out people snuck in they can and will charge us for it. If she doesn't get the picture he is going to tell her that it isn't an option because he was embarrassed that his future in laws were neglected at her huge wedding (his words not mine.)
Am I over reacting? Should I just deal with it and let it be about her and her husband like it always is or should FI and I stand up for ourselves?