Addressing envelopes

alyssa324 · May 2010

I dont know how to address some envelopes. If I dont have inner envelopes how do I address single persons who are allowed a guest and people with children. Do I write Lou Smith and friend or just Mr. Lou Smith for the single guest? For the family do I write Jefferson Family or just Mr. and Mrs. Jefferson?

Tygirljojo · May 2010

For the people who were single with guest and aren't in a steady relationship, I had the lady write John Smith and Guest (went by first and last name) on the envelope. For a family it's supposed to be:

Mr. & Mrs. James Jefferson (although I disagree with calling the lady Mrs. James Jefferson, but whatever)
John Jefferson
Jennifer Jefferson
(in order of oldest child first)
If a child living at the same home is over 18, technically that adult gets their invite addressed to just them.

KST_ · May 2010

I had read you didn't need to do last names for children, so in order of oldest to youngest on the line under the parents you'd put:
Mr and Mrs. James Jefferson
Jennifer and Joshua

jennyann28 · May 2010

Ditto PPs. Although I decided to write each person on the RSVP card, so single friends have it addressed to "Mr. John Doe", but on the RSVP it says "John & guest". Haha, that way we can't have any one forget to write their name, nor any extra write-ins!

heidi1068 · May 2010

I think the advice re families only applies if you have inner envelopes, which OP says she doesn't. In that case, I think that you would write "Smith Family" provided that the kids are invited on the outer (i.e., only) envelope. For singles, I think it is okay to put "and guest". If you just put Mr. and Mrs. Smith, that implies that the rest of the family isn't invited; as for the single, it becomes very ambiguous if you just say Mr. Smith, but technically should be read as no guest allowed.

BrandyL10 · May 2010

For the person with the guest, I just wrote my friends name, unless I knew their guest. And I didn't do Mr. and Mrs. I just went with first and last names. More informal.
As for guests with kids, I just wrote so and so family. Not a million names on the envelope, lol!

cupcakepirate · May 2010

I prefer to specify names, or number of spots 'reserved in honor of...' on the RSVP. I made the mistake of putting Blahblah Family and the mom or whoever rsvp'd for all of their kids AND the kids' significant others. (But for the most part, I think most people would understand who you meant by 'family'.)

carrieoz_76 · May 2010

Married couple with same last name = Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. Modern/less formal = Alice and John Smith. I decided to go more formal for everyone of my mom's generation and older , and modern for everyone younger than that. Generally speaking, the formality of the invitations, including addresses, should reflect the formality of your wedding.

If they have children, it's:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Susan and William
(I actually like listing the kids' names, so this is what I did)

Etiquette dictates that you not put "and Guest" on the outer envelope. You should either name the guest on the invite or send the guest their own invite or you can add a note inside the invitation or note on the RSVP that they can bring a guest. I only have one person who's brining a guest, and I've already told her she can bring her guest, so I didn't add that to her invitation. I don't like how "Sally Smith and Guest" looks, so I chose not to do that.

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