Wish Upon Our Star Wedding Registry

nlcarnes5051 · April 2011

Hi Everyone, My fiance' and I are planning on moving out of state after our wedding, and we have been living together for a while so we don't really need any household items except for large things that we would prefer to pick out ourselves and we would like to wait to purchase until we move (for instance a new bedroom set and furniture). I found a website called "Wish Upon Our Star" (http://www.uponourstar.com/) I was wondering if anyone has had some experience with this type of registry or something similar to it? Also, whether or not it would be looked at as tacky? Any advice is appreciated! Thank you!

hlq2011 · April 2011

This is a cash registry, and is viewed as very tacky.

Not to mention, it's just not fiscally smart. They take a percentage, which means that instead of getting the whole $100 that your Aunt Sally wants to give you, you might get $93. Doesn't make much sense, does it?

Have a small registry of things you'd like to upgrade (replacements for worn towels or that rusted tea kettle), because some guests will want to give you tangible gifts, and then tell anyone who asks that you're saving for furniture when you get a new home. Your parents can spread the word as well.

Don't do a cash registry.

Good luck!

jilld82 · April 2011

Just a friendly tip, honeymoon registries are not well received around here.

For one, many of the website's have hidden fees. Therefore if someone gives you a hundred dollars toward your honeymoon it really turns out being less than that.

Also, most of the website's basically cut you a check for what people have purchased. People may think they are paying for a nice excursion for the two of you but in reality you can use it at the spa or someplace else.

My advice is for you to plan a honeymoon you can afford.

Create a small registry of a few upgraded items and have your families spread by word of mouth you guys are saving up for your honeymoon.

noodle_oo · April 2011

That is a cash registry, no matter how you spin it. Asking for cash is RUDE. Don't do it. You might think it is a great idea and oh no, your friends and family would never think it is rude. But they will. They will talk about it behind your back, they just won't say anything to YOU.

If you don't want a traditional registry, just don't register. People will give you cash if they want to. If they don't want to give you cash, having a rude cash registry is not going to make them give you cash. It will just make you look gift grabby and selfish.

SirJuliusVonHaast · April 2011

I totally understand your situation, but I agree that a lot of your guests might be put off by the cash registry.

I think if you just make a small registry, most people will get the hint that you prefer cash. If people ask about the small registry you/your parents/bridal party can always say something like "They didn't register for a lot because they are planning to move soon, but they are saving up to buy new furniture after moving."

MNVegas · April 2011

Asking for cash is NEVER appropriate even when you disguise is as some kind of registry. Agree w/pp, do a small registry for guests who want to do boxed gifts and others will get the hint. People know that cash is an appreciated gift and don't need to be told or deceived into giving it.

Summer2011Bride · April 2011

Ditto PP's. Small registry plus word of mouth. I find this type of registry tacky and wouldn't want to contribute to it. If I wanted to give you cash, I would just give it to you in a card.

BrideCa2011 · April 2011

eh, I find these threads so baffling, it is no more tacky to register for 150.00 place setting then to register for something for our house- like we are doing on our "wish" registry.

We are using onceuponourstar.com like you asked and so far, have zero complaints. It works for us because we need more construction time things than blenders- and it accommodates more of a universal type registry. We also have a more traditional registry at BB&B ( and a couple other for completion discounts) but this works for us.

I find it hilarious that someone will register for a 300.00 designer cake plate, but this is considered tacky and gift grabby?

Irishcurls · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_wish-upon-star-wedding-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:ad66e996-b954-4878-b5b8-2c75aac04ab7Post:7310d568-80a7-4d70-b52b-401ee9f91215">Re: Wish Upon Our Star Wedding Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]eh, I find these threads so baffling, it is no more tacky to register for 150.00 place setting then to register for something for our house- like we are doing on our "wish" registry. We are using onceuponourstar.com like you asked and so far, have zero complaints. It works for us because we need more construction time things than blenders- and it accommodates more of a universal type registry. We also have a more traditional registry at BB&B ( and a couple other for completion discounts) but this works for us. I find it hilarious that someone will register for a 300.00 designer cake plate, but this is considered tacky and gift grabby? 
Posted by BrideCa2011[/QUOTE]
What is hilarious about that? It's a gift, that some people prefer to give to the couple. Others prefer to give cash in a card, as pp suggested. Sending me to some random website with a cutesy way of asking for my money,which will take a percentage as a fee is just off-putting to me as a guest. And not everyone registers for $300 cake plate. Most people around here are very conscious of price points for their guests.

Snippylynn · May 2011

I'd rather give someone a $300 cake plate if I think they'll use it, rather than depositing $300 in an anonymous bank account that only gives the B&G $290 of my gift.

sioshan · May 2011

Last year I attended two showers/weddings of work friends.... One shower's invite said "In lieu of a bridal registry, the bride & groom respectfully request greenbacks" and the other's registry simply had about 10 items on it. Both women received a cash gift from me, but several other guests refused to even attend the first's shower because they were so offended by the invitation. Isn't it known that while bride & groom might need/want some household items - cash is always welcome? The latter bride received everything from her 10 item registry and a bunch of cards & cash...and no one was offended.

J&K10910 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_wish-upon-star-wedding-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:ad66e996-b954-4878-b5b8-2c75aac04ab7Post:eda5f022-dd67-4fb7-a2cb-1469ce015e3e">Re: Wish Upon Our Star Wedding Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]Last year I attended two showers/weddings of work friends.... One shower's invite said "In lieu of a bridal registry, the bride & groom respectfully request greenbacks" and the other's registry simply had about 10 items on it. Both women received a cash gift from me, but several other guests refused to even attend the first's shower because they were so offended by the invitation. Isn't it known that while bride & groom might need/want some household items - cash is always welcome? The latter bride received everything from her 10 item registry and a bunch of cards & cash...and no one was offended.
Posted by sioshan[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's awful. I'd decline the shower too. The point of a shower is to "shower" the bride with GIFTS. Not with cash. If you don't want physical gifts, you decline showers.

And it sure is known that cash is always welcome. Which is exactly why it doesn't need to be said.

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