Hey ladies, There have been many family issues my fiance and I have faced since we got engaged in May. But by far the biggest and most difficult issue has been the guest list. We are VERY fortunate that my parents are paying for our wedding (and that his parents contributed some money as well -- at the very beginning they gave us x amount of dollars, and said that they'll lay out more money later and help pay for the a couple other things, but now that it's coming time to put their money where their mouth is, they're staying quiet and saying "we'll see"). My parents have given my future in-laws the number of people they can invite and said that any number over that they will have to cover themselves. Now, to me, and most other people I talk to, this makes perfect sense. However, after realizing that I was able to get the catering costs down, my fiance is asking that my parents revisit the number of people his parents are allowed to invite. Ordinarily I would give my parents a hard time and ask them to reconsider the number. BUT his parents are refusing to help pay for ANYTHING. We've asked them to contribute to one of the following: the rabbi's fees, the kippot, benchers, bathroom baskets, gift bags for over night guests, etc and they have refused. So in my parents and my eyes, it is unfair for us to be footing the bill for practically everything and then to pay even more so that more of their friends can come. All I really want is for everyone to get along. It seems that our parents have lost sight of what this wedding really is, and getting wrapped up in all the petty BS that comes along with wedding planning. How can I try to make my fiance and his parents see that we're not being crazy?