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s/o What did/do you say BEFORE "I love you"?

GalindaElphabaGalindaElphaba
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So, what do you say if you aren't ready to say "I love you" yet?

I have ALMOST said it a few times.  But, we've only officially been dating about two weeks.  My boyfriend uses a different timetable, though.  He says he counts from back in February. 

Anyway, I really want to wait for him to say it first.  So, what do I say in the meantime?  "I like you" just doesn't do it, you know?
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    Why do you need to say anything at all? Why can't "you are the best" or "you make me happy" be enough?

    Call me crazy, but I think it's a little nutty that you've "almost" said it a few times in the last 2 weeks when you've just begun dating. I think it's something special and shouldn't be rushed into.
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  • GalindaElphabaGalindaElphaba
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    edited December 2011
    I should have added that we've known each other for many years.  We just transitioned over into relationship zone from the friend zone.
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_diddo-say-before-love?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:589e3de9-09dc-47a6-9530-c5caec2df513Post:5383841a-099c-441a-8883-30f8e98a0ddd">s/o What did/do you say BEFORE "I love you"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, what do you say if you aren't ready to say "I love you" yet? I have ALMOST said it a few times.  But, we've only officially been dating about two weeks.  My boyfriend uses a different timetable, though.  He says he counts from back in February.  Anyway, I really want to wait for him to say it first.  So, what do I say in the meantime?  "I like you" just doesn't do it, you know?
    Posted by GalindaElphaba[/QUOTE]


    I think you need to step away from TK.  Seriously. 

    Let the relationship unfold as it does.  Stop overanalyzing what is going on.  Stop rushing.  Stop thinking about how long it has been or counting down the days. 

     
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  • ekathleen684ekathleen684
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    edited December 2011
    Either say it or don't say anything at all. It's only been two weeks so don't rush into it.
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with Mutley. I'm not saying that this has anything to do with your relationship - but being on TK right now probably isn't the best idea. You posted that you just finalized your divorce in December.

    I think you should step away from TK and go enjoy your relationship and let things when the time is right.
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  • Button5807Button5807
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    edited December 2011
    *bows down to mutley*
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think you say anything. Obviously you like him or you wouldn't be going out with him. Don't rush it. I'm not a huge fan of "our first date", "we've dating for X weeks/months/years" - the whole timetable thing - because it doesn't really mean much. You could have met 2 weeks ago, or as in your case, you could have known each other for years but only just started a romantic relationship. So don't worry about all that - but seriously, don't rush it.
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  • noelle24noelle24
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    edited December 2011
    Your divorce has only been final for 6 months.  You've only been dating someone new for 2 wks.  SLOW DOWN!!

    Seriously, being on The Knot CANNOT be healthy for you at this point.

    Stop worrying about all of this, and just let your relationship unfold.  It's new and exciting.  Just enjoy it instead of overanalyzing it to death.
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the pps. Just enjoy the relationship as it is right now. And you probably don't need to be on the knot right now just enjoy your new relationship don't rush everything.


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  • Dmatthews450Dmatthews450 member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't overthink it. And don't say it if your not really ready. A guy once said it to me and my shocked response was "well I think you're a very special person" Not what I would have said had I been prepared.

    But thank you for easing my concerns about my being on here too early.  I agree with Mutley: The first part of a relationship is exciting and important on its own, don't lose the excitement by trying to speed things up.
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  • AbbyH99AbbyH99 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wait, wait, wait! My personal opinion is that "I love you" shouldn't come before at least three months. We had been dating for five months, known each other for five years before we said it.
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