remembering a loved one

kharrell89 · May 2010

my dad just recently passed away and i was wondring how you ladies were honoring those who have passed

~mRm~ · May 2010

I am so sorry for your loss. I have seen a few options done including memory candles, framed poems, a photo in a locket on a bouquet, ect.

melissamc2 · May 2010

I'm sorry to hear of your father's passing and hope that you and your family are doing as well as you can be after such a loss.

As for the question...I'm not doing anything. (My father is also deceased) I find memorials at weddings to be very awkward and forced. That probably seems very harsh of me, but I don't think weddings and memorials mix. That's why they are separate events.

I've been to weddings with an actual memorial by the minister during the service, a candle lit in honor of the deceased, and a "memorial table," with photos and things of that nature. I suppose the table seemed the least odd, but they were all a bit surreal and unnecessarily highlighted, in my opinion. The absolute least odd seeming was a program that discreetly listed the parent as "deceased" when listing the family members.

Congratulations and good luck.

jennylove810 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]I am so sorry for your loss. I have seen a few options done including memory candles, framed poems, a photo in a locket on a bouquet, ect.
Posted by ~mRm~[/QUOTE]

This.

At my wedding, I plan on getting a small (4x6) framed photograph of our departed family members, light a little white votive, and have a card that says something to the extent of 'remembering those who are here in spirit.' The photos and the candle will go on a table in the entraceway. That's all I plan on doing though, because while I want to do a little something for our deceased family members, I don't want my wedding to turn into a memorial service.

Midgetth · May 2010

I'm sorry about the loss of your dad. My brother passed away 3 years ago & I always planned on him walking me down the aisle. I am going to have our Pastor begin with mentioning him watching us that day, I'm also going to be tying a picture of him to my bouquet ( I saw memorial paper picture frame that are small). Also we are having a dessert bar so I myself am making Brownie Pops, brownie's were his favorite, and I'm putting his picture by the the brownie pops along with a little scripture like scroll that's in memory of. I also saw in th Oriental Trading Wedding catalog they have 'In Memory Of" vases.

Lilou902 · May 2010

I am sorry for your loss. I am honoring my mom in many ways. It has been difficult not having her here for any of this, and her memory is important to me, especially at my wedding. Whether it is awkward or not..I plan to do it all because it means something to me.

What we are doing....I am leaving a single red rose on a seat at the ceremony that would have been hers. We will say a special prayer for her and light a memorial candle. I am making a donation to the american cancer society in her memory and placing a few pics of her and I along with donation cards in common areas stating what we did. My father and I will be dancing our father/daughter dance to the same song that my parents danced to at their wedding reception.

Many of the things that we are doing, (prayer, rose, song) most of my guests won't notice, but I will know and that will mean the world to me on a day that I wish I had my mom at my side and I don't.

JewlLove · May 2010

My stepdad died last november. I was planning on having him walk me down the aisle. My mother made a suggestopm, which I took, to ask his best friend, who is also a good friend of the family, to walk me in his place. I am also having a place at the reception where I will be having black and white photos of our parents and grandparents from when they were younger and when they got married. Besides one of my mom and stepdad, I'll have a small memorial frame with his picture.

randiekay215 · May 2010

So sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is hard, but for a future bride to lose her father is much harder. Both Casey and I have lost loved ones in the last few years (maternal grandparents and paternal grandfather for me, and Casey lost his maternal grandmother and his dad) so we decided that we'd have a seperate little table with photos of our loved ones, a votive for each loved one, and a boquet of flowers. We have yet to come up with it, but we each want to write a personal sentiment about our missing loved ones and display it there by their pictures. I think it makes it a lot more personal that way. So maybe you could write a letter to your dad and have it there with his picture? It really just depends on how deep you want to go with it.

jlmarks83 · May 2010

All of my grandparents are gone...and so is one of FI's. We're not doing the Unity Candle. So, instead, we're going to have five larger votive holders on the front of the altar. They're red and so they'll stand out a bit. But we'll have a note in our program regarding the candles being in remembrance of our grandparents that have passed.

heartrn13 · May 2010

Sorry for your loss.....

I'm getting married in July, I plan to have an empty seat next to my mother, with a picture of my Dad, along with the heart shaped box that contains my little urn of his. (each of the 5 kids got their own small urns from my dad) I plan to give him his own rose during the ceremony, when we give them to our moms. we will also have a moment of silence prior to the ceremony for all who has passed. I will also have a small picture of him in my bouquet....
Would love to hear others ideas......

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