Need Help Before Fiancé Strangles Me!

honeybeegifts · May 2012

Having a FL destination wedding. Most of our guests will be coming from NY. My dilemma is, which evening to have the wedding on? Saturday is out because we don't meet the minimum guest requirement. Considering Friday, or Sunday instead. My fiancé thinks we'll have fewer guests if we have it on a Sunday, as some may only want to come for the weekend, so they don't have to miss work. However, Sunday is the only night the hotel will allow us to have the dinner on the veranda where we really want to have it. If we have it Friday, we're forced to use the ballroom, which we both hate. Any opinions would be appreciated.

minionlover · May 2012

I think that you need to decide what is most important to you and FI location or guests. That being said, I think that you would have some people that could come on Friday but not Sunday and vice versa. Either way they will have to take at least a day off of work.

PS - Where did you decide to have the wedding?

niknik15 · May 2012

To me it sounds like you are leaning towards Sunday because you really want the Veranda which is what I would want to. People will be missing a day of work whether you have it on a Friday or a Sunday. I think having it on Sunday there wouldn't be as much of a chance that someone is going to miss due to flight being canceled etc.

Have you talked to the venue to see if maybe lunch on Saturday is an option? Have you looked at other venues? What if it rains? Have you checked flights to see if it's cheaper on Thursday or Saturday morning? Sorry for asking a ton of questions, but it's things that will help you determine which day you want to have it.

TrudM75 · May 2012

In my opinion, when most people travel to a destination wedding over a weekend they usually plan to take at least 1 day off and make it a 3-day weekend away! So if you have it on Sunday - people could fly down Friday night or Saturday morning and then fly home on Monday.

I know that for me one of my musts was to have the ceremony and reception outdoors! If the verandah is what you both love about your venue, I say find a way to make that work!!

venus909 · May 2012

Just based on the information in your post I would say do it on Sunday. It sounds like that is what you really want. It's your wedding day, It should be what you want. your guests will have to take a day off of work no matter what. If I was a guest, I would much rather take off of work on Monday.

ehlerss · May 2012

I agree with Sunday based on reading your post. This is your wedding and you need to do what makes you and FI happy. I would just make sure that those guests that you have to have at the wedding are ok with it and then go from there! Good luck!

Erinkathleen84 · May 2012

I agree either way people will take off work. Friday would work better if people were not traveling far (as in could come after work), but if everyone is traveling it does not really matter if you do Friday or Sunday ... so might as well have it Sunday !