Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Party
Wedding Party
New Discussion

Ultra modest bridesmaid???

krissyg2010krissyg2010 member
10 Comments
in Wedding Party
One of my bridesmaids is super, super conservative with how she dresses. As in, wears turtlenecks and mom jeans in the summer. I know the modesty thing is just how she was raised, but I'm not sure how to go about that. My MOH is my younger sister who's a college soph, and since it's a summer wedding, I know she'll want to wear a short, flirty summer dress. My other 3 maids are all fine with knee-length, tank/strapless dresses. I gave them the liberty to pick their own dresses (within my guidelines lol) but I still want them to be similar styles. So I guess my issue is that I don't want MOH and 3BMs wearing summery dresses while the 4th BM is wearing a full-length skirt with long sleeves! Any ideas how to address that without insulting her? Thanks girls :)
Report Reply to Post

Re: Ultra modest bridesmaid???

  • blackfire5thblackfire5th
    1000 Comments
    Have you talked to her about what she is comfortable in?  She might be happy in shorter dress (below the knee or tea-length) and some small sleeves, just no cleavage.  She could also get a small jacket to wear over a dress to help her cover up.
    My Grandparents on their wedding day.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
    bio
    Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.
    Report Reply
  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
    10000 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    Go shopping with her, or look at websites together, and let her tell you what she's comfortable with. Maybe you can reach a compromise.

    In the end, though, it's better to have a comfortable and happy friend, than to force her to wear something she's uncomfortable with just for the sake of photos or uniformity. And having her in something different, even inappropriate for the season, is FAR better than kicking a good friend out of your wedding over a dress.

    I hope you can hash something out that you're both happy with! There are plenty of cute, modest BM dresses out there.
    image
    Report Reply
  • blackfire5thblackfire5th
    1000 Comments
    This site might help you find some modest dresses.

    http://www.totallymodest.com/maids.html
    My Grandparents on their wedding day.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
    bio
    Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.
    Report Reply
  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
    2500 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited November 2009
    What does she normally wear in terms of dresses?  Does she only do full length skirts with long sleeves?  You might have better luck looking at mother of the bride or LDS dresses.

    http://tinyurl.com/yjhp833
    http://tinyurl.com/6lgjpj

    It also might be easier to do a matching pantsuit.

    Something like this: http://tinyurl.com/yzzapem
    Plus a bolero: http://tinyurl.com/ygey3gp

    http://tinyurl.com/67jtbv
    image

    Planning/Married Biology
    Report Reply
  • ffmaidffmaid
    1000 Comments
    Why not give your ladies all a color and let them all pick out their own dresses
    My ladies I asked for solid medium blue and everyone picked out their own and were thrilled.
    Report Reply
  • tidetraveltidetravel member
    Ninth Anniversary 5000 Comments
    If you know that this is who she is, and you know it is because it is how she was raised, why are you even considering asking her to change?  She's your friend.  You should RESPECT her beliefs.

    NO ONE will notice, or care, that one BM is in a long dress while the rest are in short dresses.  It's more important to make your friend comfortable and happy than it is to maintain "uniformity" among your BMs.
    Holy Crap. We survived the first year!
    http://tidetravel.weebly.com/index.html
    image
    Lilypie Third Birthday tickersLilypie Second Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • trix1223trix1223 member
    5000 Comments 25 Love Its Combo Breaker
    ditto the everwise Tide.  Please listen to her because she made perfect sense.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards