S/O: Head, Sweetheart, Tuscan Tables

nnoble4 · June 2011

Soooo....the pet peeves post had a lot of people complaining about the head table, so I wanted to do a poll. Feel free to explain yourself!

nnoble4 · June 2011

We are doing a head table for various reasons.

1. FI was actually excited about a head table and really wanted it.
2. Most of our BP will eiither not have dates, or their date's friends are also invited guests.
3. You don't sit up there that long.

I have actually never been to a wedding that didn't have a head table. I wanted to originally do a tuscan style table, but FI wanted to be on display (very odd for him). It works for us. but obviously, not for everyone!

kiyamurph · June 2011

I put my foot down on a head table because we're both 30 and most of our friends are married or in serious relationships and most of our wedding party doesn't know each other. We thought it would be much more comfortable for them to sit with their significant others during dinner. Plus, since we're not doing a first look, this would be the first time we'll be "alone" together and it'll be nice to get a little time to ourselves before we start going around to each table greeting everyone. There was a wedding that we went to a year ago that FI was in and the couple had a sweetheart table so we got to sit together. I know dinner isn't that long and I'm not saying that we can't be apart during dinner, but it was certainly nice to have him there to talk to.

BMDunlap01 · June 2011

We're doing something more like a tuscan table. The only reserved seats in the entire space will be for me and my FI. We're doing an hor d'ouvres reception immediated following our 7:30pm ceremony. We want everyone to sit where they're comforable and with the people they want to be near.

MissOwl · June 2011

sweetheart for us. something we decided long before we got engaged. just seems 'us' and we will have two 8-person rounds for our wp and their guests.

casims3 · June 2011

Tuscan for us. (I didn't know it was called that until your poll.) We didn't want dates to be left out and thought it would be fun for all of us to sit together.

beckilee37 · June 2011

We are doing Tuscan as well. I HATE going to weddings that my fiance is a member of the WP and I don't know anyone and sitting at a table with random ppl that know each other,but not me. It hasn't happened in awhile, but the first couple years we were dating he was in a lot of his college friends' weddings that I hadn't really met and I was relatively miserable. Therefore, we are not doing that for our guests.

tiffanydaniels · June 2011

I like the idea of the tuscan table but I never thought included dates, obviously I am clueless to wedding stuff. I think the tuscan table so that there was easier conversation between the wedding party. Most of the wedding party is really close and no one else will really have dates so we really just wanted it to be more talky talky.

StephE214 · June 2011

I'm so glad there have been posts about this recently! I really don't want to have a head table, but I'm also not sure about a sweetheart table. A Tuscan table seems like a great alternative! :-)

TheBeckmeister · June 2011

We're doing a sweetheart table.

I also saw a head table of sorts that just had the bride/groom, and each of their parents. The bridal party sat at the regular tables.

[Deleted User] · June 2011

I have never heard of a Tuscan table.

We did a head table. I know some people around these boards frown upon them since it takes your WP away from their spouse or date. But most of our WP was either single or their BF/GF did not mind. Besides, it is only for dinner and the toasts and then everyone is up moving around, dancing, partying, mingling, etc. It wasn't a big deal for us, but we had a really cool and easy going WP.

TheBeckmeister · June 2011

Maybe I don't know what a Tuscan table is... When I was viewing venues, this is what they described as a Tuscan table (enjoy my impressive Paint skills

). That way everyone would have someone to talk to, as opposed to the really long head table.

green795 · June 2011

We did a Tuscan table because one of our biggest wedding pet peeves is being separated from each other if one of us is in a wedding. Plus, over half of our BP was either married or seriously dating someone. It worked out so well - it was easy to have a conversation, everyone felt included, and we just had a great time with our closest friends around us.

sep72fendr · June 2011

We are doing a head table just because 80% of our bridal party is single and the ones that aren't (the groomsmen!) have dates that were going to be guests anyways and they ended up getting together after we had sent out invites and stuff. Like previous posters had put, it's only for dinner and all my girls are friends and all the guys are friends so they will be fine. :-) But our head table set up is weird... Adam and I will be at a sweetheart table flanked on either side by 8ft. tables... so kind of like a flying V. (quack quack quack).

ALWhitehead · June 2011

FI and I really liked the idea of a Tuscan table, but for our wedding party. We hadn't considered sticking dates at the table, too. Right now, there are only 2 groomsman who have SOs that are not in the bridal party, but will know other people at the wedding that they can sit with.

stanzi113 · June 2011

I voted head table and have since realized i think were doing Tuscan? I didnt know what it was called.

Its a long head table but wedding party sits on both sides, except in front of Phil and me.

lo99 · June 2011

We did a tuscan table and it worked really well. I also think it was a nice focal piece too. We got three large tall centerpieces for the tuscan table and then did small short ones on the guest table. Most of the people in our BP were married, and it just seemed really weird to me to separate married couples. If most BP members are single I think a head table works fine too.

Combs132 · June 2011

We are doing a head table with the back row elevated (myself, my fiance, and MOH/BM) because the room doesn't accommodate a long head table - plus 90% of our wedding party is single! They love being in the spot light and would have been upset not to be up front where everyone can see them!

cems2012 · June 2011

We are doing a head table its only 6 of us and even though the party is either married or have significant others they aren't at the head table long. It will be empty most of the night. But we wanted it as a last hoorah of the 6 of us doing something together with the wedding and thank them for the wonderful job they all are doing to help us prepare.

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