Some of you know that I've been working on returning to Christianity (church tomorrow!), so hopefully some of this post makes sense. Mostly, it will be a rant relating to everything she does, though. =P
To start, she used to love me. She called me pet names, included me in everything familywise, we would go out to lunch, she would check in with me once in a while, etc. Then she would decide she didn't like me and would say I wasn't allowed to visit, without much in the way of explaination. Then when I wasn't over there, she would literally cry and say she wasn't sure why I wasn't there when FI would be there.
Since about Christmas, she has been a total hypocrit. She tells FI that he is sinning for marrying someone who is not Catholic, or Christian at all. She would say that he only ever thought about himself and his life revolved around me and whatever I wanted to do. Mind you, I've given up almost every one of my family's gatherings, events, and so on so that we could be with his family. She keeps saying that his family does not approve of me and that it is hurting his entire family (parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even second cousins.) that he would date or marry me. That he is going against how he was raised and his beliefs in doing so. Meanwhile, she had her boyfriend move in with her (and her two younger children) and sleep in her room, but lying and saying he was sleeping in the basement. When her family complained, she screamed at them and called them selfish and to mind their own business, because this was her life and that noone cared about her happiness. She has also been gambling, drinking, and yelling at everyone for everything. People are fed up.
She has also always held things over FI's head. She helps him financially, and he is very grateful and makes a point of telling her so. When he tries to turn her help down, she gets pissy and starts yelling at him for it. She calls and texts him literally about every two hours to see what he is doing, who he is with, how long he will be whereever he is, and so on. When he does something she doesn't approve of, she calls him all sorts of horrible names and tells him she's cutting him off financially. His car is actually in her name, and she will often threat to take it away from him, even though she didn't pay for it. She has even gone so far as to tell him he is grounded (WHAT?!) and said he isn't allowed to see me, anymore. Sorry, sweetheart, your son is a grown man. (She even stalked ME on Facebook and would start harassing me about conversations I had with friends and places we went. I blocked her after she did it numerous times. She complained that I was rude and disrepectful for doing so.)
A few weeks back, we agreed to feed his grandmother's dogs one day while his grandmother was out of town. Not thinking, he locked the door on the way out. His mother called him the next morning screaming bloody murder at him for locking the door. She called him some pretty terrible names and hung up. She proceeded to call three more times and did the same thing.
Now, it has become a big problem to her that I am not Catholic. One day, she loved me. Literally the next morning, she called FI and started saying I'm not allowed to visit, how she disapproved of me, etc. Now, she's nothing but nasty. I just started attending church and she thinks it's a lie and just an act. That noone can "make" me believe something. She said everything I do is a sign of Satan and that I'm slowly possessing FI. She even gave him watching horror films as an example. Because he "never did it growing up". No joke. This Sunday, we are supposed to go to church, which FMIL knew. But, she wanted FI to pick up his younger sister from a game and drop her off somewhere. He said he couldn't because we had church. She called him more names and started threatening him again. I've been trying very hard to get her to understand it is something I am doing on my own, tried to talk to her, and tried to understand what I did wrong to make her hate me. She won't talk to me, at all.
One thing she thinks that really gets to me is that I apparently, "hold my mother being sick over FI's head to control him." It's just twisted beyond belief.
Just had to get that all out. If anyone has any advice, words of wisdom, prayers, anything...it would be so greatly appreciated. And sorry that was so long!
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