Community› Wedding Month Club Boards› July 2012 Weddings
July 2012 Weddings
New Discussion

A little bummed (whining)

bridetobe71412bridetobe71412
1000 Comments Combo Breaker
in July 2012 Weddings
So, one of my BFs/bridesmaids just emailed me this morning to tell me that she can't make it to Vegas after all for my bachelorette party.

She has to go to SF starting this weekend to prepare for a 3-week trial which starts on Monday. :( She also had to miss my bridal shower this weekend. I have barely seen her in the year we've been engaged because we've both been busy with work.

It just makes me sad. I'm not mad at her by any stretch of the imagination -- it's her job and I KNOW she would rather be in Vegas -- but now I'm starting to worry she's not going to be able to make it to the wedding and/or she's going to be working the day beforehand and miss out on the Rehearsal. Since it's a full Catholic mass, it's important to me that everyone make the rehearsal, and the RD is such a huge fancy deal that I really don't want her to have to miss that, too.

Not sure what I want in terms of advice. Maybe just wanted to whine. Now we're down to 8 girls for the bach party (including me) . . . and only one of my BMs is coming (the MOH). I'm just a little disappointed. I didn't WANT or NEED to go to Vegas, but my MOH asked everyone and they were all-in and now it just seems like we shouldn't have planned this whole she-bang.  
Wedding Countdown Ticker
Report Reply to Post

Re: A little bummed (whining)

  • BmoreBride311BmoreBride311 member
    1000 Comments Second Anniversary
    You have the right to whine! That does stink, but yet there is little either of you can do about it. I'm sure she is very bummed to miss out, as well. Hopefully she knows that the wedding is even more important for her to attend than the pre-parties, and she'll make every attempt to be there for that.

    Don't worry about who can't come, just try to focus on having an amazing time with those who can make it! If there are a lot of BMs who can't make it, maybe you can try to do a little girls night out the weekend before the wedding? Or even afterards?

    My bach party was a ton of fun, but there was a lot that didn't go as planned (some drama I won't get into), so three of my BMs planned a second surprise night out for me the next week that was just as fun as the first night, even though it was a lot more low key (and my FI was even there, lol).
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • butterflyjumper1butterflyjumper1
    1000 Comments
    Ugh, I am sorry bridetobe. That totally sucks :(

    At least you still have 8 girls who will be celebrating with you all weekend!!!

    I feel really bad, because I did something identical to one of my BFFs. Her bach party is in Chicago this weekend, and I have been planning to go for months, but I just backed out on her this morning. We are having to re-negotiate with the seller on our house (he is being a HUGE jerk/horrible person based on our inspection results) and he actually threatened to cancel our contract, and we STILL don't know when we are going to get possession, so our realtor told us we shouldn't leave town until everything is taken care of in case of emergency. Obviously, she understood, but I feel bad, and I know she is disappointed, because even though I am not in her wedding, we have become really close these past 5-6 months, and I feel bad that I bummed her out. 

    If your BM/BFF is anything like me, she knows what is most important to you, and probably feels awful about having to skip out on this.  I bet she has already talked to her boss about your rehearsal dinner/wedding and will be there with bells on!!
    Report Reply
  • butterflyjumper1butterflyjumper1
    1000 Comments
    oh, and PS, three of my 5 BMs can't come to my bach. it sucks, but both of us will still have a blast with those who can be there. I had always imagined partying at my bach with all of my bridal party....but unfortunately, that just isn't the case. It is disappointing but I am trying to get over it!!
    Report Reply
  • colleenm18colleenm18 member
    Fifth Anniversary 500 Comments Name Dropper
    That really stinks :( I totally understand and you can whine away!  But you are going to have so much fun with the ladies who are there so dont even worry about it!!

    I hope that BM is able to make it to everything for the actual wedding. 

    Oh and if you would like a 9th girl to join you in Vegas I am free :)
    Report Reply
  • bridetobe71412bridetobe71412
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    Colleen, seriously, the invitation is open :)

    Thank you for letting me whine, ladies. I know I'm being a brat, but I, too, had this idea that all of my 8 ladies would be around me at my bach party. That only ONE of the EIGHT is able to come is kind of sad, but understandable, but I would have insisted that we do it in NYC or AC or somewhere closer if I knew it was only going to be my MOH.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • BeachLover2885BeachLover2885 member
    500 Comments Second Anniversary
    I'm sorry bridetobe!! That is definitely a bummer. Two of my BMs can't make my bachelorette party either. Maybe you can squeeze in a local get together with the girls who couldn't make it to Vegas??
    imageAnniversary
    Report Reply
  • lvisserslvissers
    500 Comments Second Anniversary
    Aww, I'm sorry! That does suck and understand you being bummed out. The good thing though is that getting 8 girls ready and out in vegas is way easier than a whole train of girls! By the time you get out and are partying it up in vegas, you will be happy you only have 8 girls to keep track of. You willl have a BLAST and will come back and read this post and laugh :-)!!! I have 16 girls going and I know it's going to be a huge deal no matter where we go and wish we had less because every meal we have is a big deal and we are having to go through group events at hotels to reserve tables for us.
    Daisypath - Personal pictureDaisypath Anniversary tickers
    Report Reply
  • bridetobe71412bridetobe71412
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    You guys have good ideas. Maybe I'll propose a get together for the BMs who can't go to Vegas one of these weekends. Since they're all over the place, I'm not sure how many more would be able to come (hence, why it was going to be a quasi-destination thing regardless of where we went), but it's worth a shot.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • mekiakoomekiakoo member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    Aw I'm sorry :(

    I also feel bad that I had to do the same thing to one of my friends' shower/bach party (same day)- I was planning on going for weeks until we got into a situation with closing our house. We ended up closing on the same weekend. The bride was very mad- she requested that we change our closing date which we'd never do after been delayed for 2 weeks. I feel like we aren't the same ever since.

    I truly hope you have fun at your party and you know, I like smaller number of people in a group! It makes decision making a lot easier!
    doggie Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • littlemoments324littlemoments324 member
    2500 Comments Fourth Anniversary Combo Breaker
    At least you're getting a b-party =( I know I would be upset if my BP couldn't make it, but hey, you're going to have a blast with your friends!
    Planning Bio with For Sale!! White Knot
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards