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Tacky?......Maybe a lil?

Kita8242Kita8242
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So Im doing my RSVP cards and a friend of mine said "Make sure you word it "____of (however many guests Im inviting for that invite) are attending." Thus, eliminating the issue of the guests inviting "extra folk" that you didnt invite. I thought it was genius when she told me but then I Googled it to get the exect wording, a site said "some may think this is distasteful but it gets the point across."

What do yall think?

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  • monrettamonretta
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    edited December 2011
    I am saying one seat is reserved in your name and then writting each name on the card so I can keep track of who does and doesn't respond, (It will be more work for me, but worth the lack of stress). 

    I also hope this will keep people from just putting a general number down if they have to fill out multiple cards for each person.

    I have heard stories about people getting card back with no name, so when they go to figure who didn't respond, it becomes a mess.

    another suggestion I have heard is numbering the card and having a list of what card goes in which invite.

    We have reserved one seat in your honor.
    Mr Joe Door Jr

    Response not received by September 1st, 2010 may not be accommodated.
    ____ accepts _____ regrets

    __Beef  or  __Chicken

     

    I don't know it it is tacky, but I am too blessed to be stressed :-D


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  • kkidd28kkidd28 member
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    edited December 2011
    Mine are like monretta's.  They started going out last week and I have already started getting them back.

    Two seats have been reserved in your honor.

    M  ___________________

    The favor of a reply is requested by July 28, 2010.



    On the back, I wrote numbers.  This helped me keep track as I was mailing them out ( hand adddressed all 132 envelopes) as well as when they come back in.
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  • ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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    edited December 2011
    I did the same because I didn't want people assuming their kids/baby momma/cousin & any other random person was invited. I think it was "tacky" back when people used inner envelopes and you had a place to write exactly who was invited. But now that a lot of brides don't use them (and guests make a lot of assumptions), I think it's far more acceptable.
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  • MIABRIDENTAMPAMIABRIDENTAMPA
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_tackymaybe-lil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:9709ddb3-a0c1-42df-8f9d-d915788f44f4Post:46fa0d82-edfa-4298-9326-63022d960315">Re: Tacky?......Maybe a lil?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I did the same because I didn't want people assuming their kids/baby momma/cousin & any other random person was invited. I think it was "tacky" back when people used inner envelopes and you had a place to write exactly who was invited. But now that a lot of brides don't use them (and guests make a lot of assumptions), I think it's far more acceptable.
    Posted by ufsweetiebear[/QUOTE]

    Ditto. And believe people still crossed out 2 and put 4. Also changed the name from Mr and Mrs to Mrs and her friend Ms such and such.
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  • cuddleberrycuddleberry
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_tackymaybe-lil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:9709ddb3-a0c1-42df-8f9d-d915788f44f4Post:cd47357c-bf33-4c5e-b63b-52417113f36f">Re: Tacky?......Maybe a lil?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Mine are like monretta's.  They started going out last week and I have already started getting them back. Two seats have been reserved in your honor. M  ___________________ The favor of a reply is requested by July 28, 2010. On the back, I wrote numbers.  This helped me keep track as I was mailing them out ( hand adddressed all 132 envelopes) as well as when they come back in.
    Posted by kkidd28[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Thats a good idea numbering the reply cards to keep track. I'm going to do that too. Thanks!!</div>
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  • red_980red_980
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    edited December 2011
    Why is anything that differs from the norm considered tacky? :-( I'm sick of all these sites trying to dictate what I do for my wedding. Sometimes we have to go against the grain! For all those who do say it is tacky, they aren't paying for my wedding.

    Sorry venting...

    I think the response card is fine. I used a similar design on mine, and I haven't anyone complain yet.
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  • ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_tackymaybe-lil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:9709ddb3-a0c1-42df-8f9d-d915788f44f4Post:e7fe8662-70b6-4802-9a76-5f0e11c46156">Re: Tacky?......Maybe a lil?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tacky?......Maybe a lil? : Thats a good idea numbering the reply cards to keep track. I'm going to do that too. Thanks!!
    Posted by cuddleberry[/QUOTE]

    I purchased a blacklight pen & light from Amazon for $3. I just didn't want to run the risk that someone would happen to turn it over and see a number. I could hear it... "why am I number 73? I should've been in the top 10!" Grr..
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  • Kita8242Kita8242
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    edited December 2011
    LOL ohok. Thanks. I like these ideas.
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  • TheCranberryTheCranberry member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_tackymaybe-lil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:9709ddb3-a0c1-42df-8f9d-d915788f44f4Post:e066caa5-da78-496a-aff7-bc9b7e38ac29">Re: Tacky?......Maybe a lil?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tacky?......Maybe a lil? : I purchased a blacklight pen & light from Amazon for $3. I just didn't want to run the risk that someone would happen to turn it over and see a number. I could hear it... "why am I number 73? I should've been in the top 10!" Grr..
    Posted by ufsweetiebear[/QUOTE]

    Stealth!!  Haha.  It didn't even occurr to me that someone would feel that way, but you are so right that you'd get that random call or email.
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  • keri_hurstkeri_hurst
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    edited December 2011
    I also used the _ seats have been reserved in your honor format.  I think it's ncie, but firm!  I would love to not have to do this, but you know how poeple are!  And since you have to PAY for all of these people, it's important to keep your budget under control.  I also numbered all of the cards, just in case there was some tomfoolery in the mix :)
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