Anybody else bring their FI dress shopping?

goobersinlove · February 2012

I'm well aware that I'm in the minority here. I also have no BM's or sisters, and my mom lives 3000 miles away.

I usually get the garden-variety comments like, "Gasp! You're really going to let him see your dress?" But I've actually recently had one person tell me that "when grooms see the dress before the wedding the marriage is more likely to fail." Took that 'advice' with one big heaping bag of salt... hehe **snort**

Just curious if anyone else here breaks this tradition?

NOLAbridealmost · February 2012

My H saw my dress with me in it before the wedding (a photo, not IRL). We're pretty much rocking the marriage thing right now, so I'm not too worried.

Avion22 · February 2012

I think the only people whose opinions matter on this subject are yours and your fiance's. If you are both okay with him seeing your dress before the wedding, then go for it:-) Your wedding won't be invalidated by it -- like all "traditions," it is up to you to decide whether or not you want to take part in it or not.

I honestly don't care, but my fiance really wants the first time he sees me in my dress to be when I walk down the aisle. I think him seeing me walk down the aisle will be special if he's seen the dress before or not, but he wants to take part in this tradition, so I'm indulging him:-) Even if your fiance goes shopping with you or sees your dress beforehand, your wedding will STILL be very special.

Epiphany1031 · February 2012

My fiance hasn't seen me in my dress HOWEVER he has seen the dress hanging in our spare room (he actually gets excited and opens the garment bag every now and then to see the dress) and I showed him a pic of the dress on the model. I am soo excited that I almost can't contain myself, I want to try it on for him!!! lol

goobersinlove · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_anybody-else-bring-their-fi-dress-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:629b1094-d6b0-4cdb-9f5a-4d14df7fb61ePost:912df216-d253-47ed-a1a0-3dde0fdad44c">Re: Anybody else bring their FI dress shopping?</a>:
[QUOTE]My fiance hasn't seen me in my dress HOWEVER he has seen the dress hanging in our spare room (<strong>he actually gets excited and opens the garment bag every now and then to see the dress</strong>) and I showed him a pic of the dress on the model. I am soo excited that I almost can't contain myself, I want to try it on for him!!! lol
Posted by Epiphany1031[/QUOTE]

That is so cute of your FI!!!

peachykd · February 2012

I took FI with me to a store to show him styles (ball gown, mermaid,etc.) just to get his opinion. Then a few weeks later I had a day full of appointments with my mom and a BM. Turns out one of the dresses I was trying on just for style was the one I couldn't stop comparing to. So, yes, FI saw me in THE dress, but he wasn't supposed to lol. He didn't go with me to actually order it nor will he go to fittings though.

KlassyWithaK · February 2012

My H went with me to look at dresses and saw a picture of me in the dress. Because I showed him pictures of different dresses, he didn't know which one it was until the wedding day. I wanted his opinion on what he thought looked nice on me.

AurorasEnvy · February 2012

I didn't personally, but if you and your FI are both on board with the idea, go for it! Don't let anyone tell you you can't.

Personally, even if he sees you in the sample dress at the store, I think he'll most likely forget what it looks like by the time the wedding rolls around and I think it has a totally different effect when it is the real dress, in the right color, size, and alterations, with your hair, makeup, veil, jewelry, - basically, the entire package put together!

smahama · February 2012

My FI didn't come dress shopping with me, but he knows which dress I bought. He's only seen the photo from the designer online and he will not be seeing me in it before the wedding.

If you're comfortable with bringing him just do it. It's just superstition.

QueenElizabeth2 · February 2012

I was a little nervous about dress shopping at first, so I was really glad to have FI with me. I live in a small town, so I took advantage of the opportunity to visit a bigger bridal salon and a signature store for a bridal line while we were visiting family in a more "cosmopolitan" area. We only had one car with us at that time so his other option was to hang around my sister's house by himself.

The staff at the bridal salons were perfectly cool about it. One person just said something like, "We don't get very many grooms in here", but it was no big deal.

He was actually pretty helpful and was happy to give some input during the process even though the dress I bought was not his top pick.

jashleya · February 2012

I ordered my dress online and consulted with my fiancé before buying it. When it came in the mail we were both so excited that I tried it on for him without either of us really thinking about it. We share everything together, I can't imagine not having shown him. I'm in the same boat - no bridesmaid or sisters, mom in another state, and we've fairly recently moved to a new city.

firsttimersluck · February 2012

My H and I went gown shopping together and I wouldn't have had it any other way. I loved spending that time with him.. Just the two of us. Ultimately, he's the only person whose opinion on that I cared about because.. he's the one that I wanted looking at me all night.

It was fantastic, and he still teared up when I walked down the aisle.

timsflower81 · February 2012

I took my fi shopping with me for the dress... It was a wonderful way to spend time together and I really wanted him to LOVE the dress I marry him in. We also had his daughter with us who is the maid of honor - she got a bridesmaid dress as well. He took pictures so I could see them while we were making the decision. When we found "the one" - he was just as excited as I was and I was so happy with the decision because I knew he loved it. It gave me relief that I picked a dress that both him and I loved and there would be no way I would have dress regret!

blues28 · February 2012

Actually I just bought my dress Sunday and my fi went with me.

Here's what it looks like:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Fitted-Trumpet-Gown-with-Subtle-Pink-Flowers-CWG464

MiLadyK · February 2012

My FI comes with me for the moral support and the opinion. I want him to really love my dress as much as I want to love it.

But we're a really laid back, not hyper traditional couple. We've been best frineds for 12 years, romantically involved for 4, living together for 3. Our relationship has only gotten deeper in the last decade, I doubt that is going to change anytime soon, especially over a dress.

jelenybeany · February 2012

My sister took her FI with her and it slightly backfired. He really really loves her in the mermaid style gown, and she hates it. She wants something really simple, he wants something over the top bridal. Of course he ultimately said "do what you want darling", but now she's afraid she's going to buy a dress she loves and he's going to hate it on her, or she's going to buy a dress he likes, and be miserable all day.

His opinion is important to her because she realizes the day is about both of them, but it's now left her frustrated searching for a dress. Just make sure you're both on the same page before going shopping.

kaceymarie · February 2012

tbh i'll probably bring mine but idk about letting him see me actually in it. idc if he sees it though.

carrieloomis · February 2012

I didn't take him with me and he hasn't seen the dress at all. He told me what styles he liked before hand and I kept that in mind. My dad hasn't seen the dress either. I want my FI to see it really badly but I'm holding out for our wedding day. I think it's a personal preference for sure! I don't think it's bad luck or anything, I just want the first time he sees me in the dress to be when I'm walking down the aisle since he already knows everything else about how I'm going to look. It keeps something a surprise the day of

Ividian · February 2012

I was going to bring my FI along, but he's adamant that he doesn't want to see it until I'm walking down the aisle. It's not even at our house! I think it's adorable that he wants it to be a surprise. He wouldn't even look at pictures of dresses with me even though I really wanted to know what he liked.

ebobo · February 2012

Hi, I don't know if I would take him shopping but I truly want my fiance to see the type of dresses that I am interested in and get an input as to what he thinks. I am eager to let him surf the Web with me as I get an idea of the types of dresses and price range to expect, so I think its ok. Its your life, your marraige and to be honest a dress is just that. that's an old myth and so i would say that all those divorce's who did n't let there fiance see the dres what do the yattribute to the fall of that relationship. Good luck and happy shopping with your man, it sounds like he is of great support to you in your time of need and so to me it means your relationship should be stronger.

Respectfully

Liz

ride to be.

arenee07 · February 2012

I am breaking it too...We aren't doing anything really traditional at all. I actually already found my dress and offered to show my fiance and he just said he wanted to see it, but also wanted to be surprised, so that is the only reason he isn't seeing it before. I don't believe in any of that "tradition" stuff and neither does he. We aren't doing the whole "not seeing each other the day of the wedding" thing either. Like my mom said, "I did Everything the traditional way with your father, and we still got divorced." So don't listen to anyone, your fiance seeing your dress is absolutely no indication whether the two of you can hold up a marriage.

JamiesonCampbell · February 2012

I brought mine with me because he was really excited to see the dress. He actually went around the store and picked out dresses he wanted to see me in!

I ended up buying one of his picks... when i came out in the dress he had this huge smile and gave me the thumbs up!

When we walked into the store people were horrified he was there.. one woman even came up to us and said that he shouldn't be there.. i responded with well his opinion matters more than yours

pittpoint1119 · March 2012

I really wanted to take my fiance but he is an accountant which means he is MIA right now until April. When I put on a dress, I always wonder what he would think. Actually I am pretty good and know what his reaction would be because we are the same person. I have shown him dresses online that I have tried on and liked, as well shown him a dress or two with me in them. my fiance gives me his opinion, but won't remember what it looks like at all come next May. He said even if he went with me, the day of the wedding look will be completly different then a random day with my hair not fully done.

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